My boyfriend doesn't have any children, but was very close with the youngest child of his former girlfriend. He brings up stories about the child all the time, and gets upset when he finds a random toy or picture of his. How can I not let this bother me?
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Just try to keep in mind that it is the child he is missing, not the former girlfriend. Take a step back and remember that he is with you, not her. It is probably a very positive thing that he cares so much, he obviously bonded with the child. I'm sure he does miss him, and that is a sign that he's probably a really good guy. He might feel that he started a relationship with him and then 'abandoned' him. Separate the child from his mother,and you shouldn't feel jealous. Acknowledge how great it is that he cares so much and try to let it go. Good luck! :)
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By realizing he cares about the child, not the ex. I think you might see that child = ex in caring since they share blood. Sorry if mistaken.
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Try to turn the situation into a positive one. The man obviously loves children, so that's a good indication for the future. Perhaps you could suggest that he get involved in a Big Brother's program just so he has someone to focus on who truely needs help.
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I cannot imagine why it would bother you that he reflects upon time spent with a small child he obviously cared very much about. It says a lot about his character to me and I think you should be really proud to have a boyfriend who is so kind, compassionate and caring. It is nothing short of heartbreaking to care for and love a child and then to be separated from it, whether it is biologically yours or not. I can understand how he must be feeling and can only recommend you be as supportive and understanding of this as possible.
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Grow up? You are being jealous of a child. Actually the memory of a child. That is immature and likely to poision your relationship with a man who seems like a good one.
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