To answer this question completely, i would have to know if you guys kissed all the time.. if you did, maybe it's not because he doesn't care but because kissing got boring because you guys did it all the time. if you guys didn't kiss all the time maybe the time you want to kiss him aren't the right times he wants to kiss you.. i would suggest you talk to him about it but don't attack him or accuse him of anything. also if the answer is because it was boring, maybe you should try to find ways of spicing up kisses or not kissing him until a moment comes up where it would be perfect

it might just be that you two aren't in the "honeymoon" stage anymore.

i dunno hun...i seem to be going through the same thing...My boyfriend and i have been together for 6 yrs now...and for the first 3 yrs of that he was living in oklahoma and im in michigan...so it was long distance.....when we'd see eachother he couldnt keep his hands off me...always snuck in kisses....made out all the time....i felt like i was sexually attractive to him....but now the most i get is like a hug and a granny peck....and i dunno why...I've talked to him about it and he says he doesnt realize hes doing it...but yea i wish u luck,.....if you find out why its happening let me know...because this has been going on for me for a couple years....even during sex its not emotional...more like hes just horny...and its not love makin...I dunno....not much kissin there either

I have found that most guys only kiss to get to sex. Once they get that then they don't see the need for kissing anymore. They equate kissing with sex. Women don't. We like to kiss for no other reason than that we like it. Talk to him and tell him how you feel about it. Then you can decide on what to do from there.

hello. well ive been going out with my guy . for 3 years. are love making isnt. the same. anymore. and not to mention. the kissing. well im 40 hes 36. i ask him if theirs anyone else. and he says. no . we also live together. and i love him very much. i even try to leave him. but he tells me all of the time. he loves me. and i have nothing to worry about . sometimes. ladys loves just not enough:( someone please tell me what i should do. thanx.and that i dont feel attractive anymore. sounds crazy. but its very true.

Honestly I am not sure what it means. It may be he has lost interest for one reason or another. Alot of guys are asses like that.The slightest thing changes about their g/f/wife and they no longer love them. Has anything about you changed since you first started dating? I am not saying the guy is right for what he is doing just that maybe he is not secure enough with his love for you to deal with whatever has changed be it you gained or lost weight stopped fixing yourself up etc . I think what could be a stronger possibility is he is so comfortable with the relationship that he feels there is no longer a need for physical displays of affection. alkot of guys get like that after being in a relationship for awhile. The think girls should know just by the fact they are still there that they love them and shouldn't have to still do all the things they used to in the start of the relationship. Thios again I am not justifying. In my last relationship with my sweetheart we dated for 2 years befopre that we were real good friends for about a year. In the two year we were dating I always kissed her because I loved it and I knew how happy it made her. Almost 3 years after losing her I still kiss her every morning and every night before going to bed.only it's not her of course but a picture of her.

Absolutely. my wife and i have been married 41 years and we still kiss two or three times a day. Ever heard the song "You've Lost That Lovin' Feeling"? If not, you need to listen. It pretty well covers your situation.

he has no problem telling me how he feels. like always saying i love you.

ys i would be worried... kissing says so much if he doesnt want to kiss anymore there might be something going on. i cant even count how many times i kiss my boyfriend... theres not enough numbers!

Naahhhh we still love you .. but we Dudes just can't make anything out of this kissing thing .. yea good morning (kiss) back from work (kiss) good night (kiss) i love you (kiss) can we have sex (kiss) .. see theres 5 kisses in one day .. we are just scared we might use up our lips .. see .. and what do you have to kiss then :0 ..lol .

i feel exactly the same way. my boyfriend doesnt kiss me much any more either. i asked him why and he said that he shouldnt have to kiss me to show he loves me i should just know. i do know that he loves me tho. maybe your boyfriend is the same. but us girls need our kisses!!!

Something is up..Im having a bit of the same problem with my girlfriend. It seems that weve hit a roadblock.Though still affectionate our sex life is almost nonexistant. Ive asked her everything. Not screwing around on me, still attracted to me, no I dont have bad breath, etc.. Im thinking now its a mental thing. Like maybe theres a fear of being vulnerable, or some emotional crap from the past thats coming back to haunt her. (Abuse) Though we have been together 6 years and this only has arisen in the last 2. If u figure it out please do tell.

My boyfriends the same. He's told me he doesn't like kissing and just refuses to do it. Unfortunately for me, it's been like this since we first met and I don't think it's going to change but hopefully your situation will

hey i know exactly how you feel. i guess i'm glad to know that i'm not the only one in a long term committed relationship hat is having this problem. my boyfriend and i have been living together for over a year now. he works alot (7 days a week) and because of his job i feel like the only time we spend together is when we are eating dinner or when we go to bed. I keep myself in great shape, dress up, wear nice lingerie, do my hair-nails-makeup, make dinner, clean, basically anything i can do to make things easier on him when he gets home from a long day of work, and i try to make the most of the time we do have together. I try to innitiate sex or offer sexual favors (which he used to love) only to be brushed off because he's tired or put off because he's got too much work to do. He says he loves me and i believe him. He would never cheat he doesnt have any desire to be with anyone else however i cant help but feel like myself and our sexlife have been replaced on his priority list. I'm not so needy that i require sex daily. Im not so selfish that i demand his undevided attention all the time... I only wish that he spent a fraction of the time he spends thinking about ways to improve his work projects on thinking about ways to improve our relationship. i have tried to drop hints and show him that i need more intimacy but i dont feel i should have to BEG for sex or kissing or affection in general. That would be like asking a man to bring you flowers... it simply defeats the purpose. I suppose all i can do is talk to him, drop clues, take the initiative, and wait.

It could mean that, but it could also mean you kiss him too much. He might have lost interest in kissing, but not you. Ask him.

I Know how you feel chick. I've been with my boyfriend for about 18months and were really close however lately he hasn't bee the same with me. I've spoke to him and asked him if theres a problem he said its stress at work as he has just started a new job. It might have nothing to do with your relationship but external pressures. Have a chat to him but dont force him to talk, i find the best place to approach a difficult subject is somewhere you both feel comfortable so at home or a park but dont do it in a restaurant or somewhere very public as your more likely to get a nod and a grunt. All the best xxxx

Have any of you read the book "He is just not that into you"? Read it!!! I can relate to ALL of you, my bf doesn't kiss me either. After almost 4 years of yes, a very stable, manageble relationship I had enough. Finally I realized it's not that he has intimate issues, that he is tired, too full, insecure about his breath or the way he kisses, it's or my breath... or any other excuses you may think of. I realized the answer is simpler that we all think. HE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO ME! There is NO way a man or a woman can be distant when in love. It may hurt, but at least I can now MOVE ON. I rather be alone, than feel rejected or emotionally crippled the rest of my life. The day my bf, your bf, your husband, etc. finds a woman he is crazy about he will KISS HER like there is No tomorrow. Without her having to BEG for it. Good Luck everyone!

I wish I knew the answer to this question!! I have been married for 18 years and for the last 10 years my husband has not kissed me other than granny pecks with out begging. We have a great life but I feel like a piece of my soul dies everyday. I know he loves me but I dont feel loved anymore. Should I really waste the rest of my life feeling this way???

I went through the same thing for 5 yrs. I'm still friends with my ex husband. I left when I was 5 months pregnant with our second child because he treated me like a room mate. We have talked since the divorce and he finally admitted he thought since we were together that long he was secure with me and didn't feel he had to win me over anymore. I've been with my current bf for 5 months. He lives with me. He is the same way. Girls, ya'll are just going to have to except the fact that guys aren't as touchy and lovey as we are. If you don't feel loved, talk to them. Without bitching. A guy will tune that out faster than anything lol he shouldn't mind having a deep convo every once in awhile to assure you that he still cares. Just don't make him do it every week. It will push him away for being insecure. If he's ever mean about things then I would definately talk to him bout it. If he shows no interst in talking then give him the boot. It's hard at first but I promise when you find a good guy you will look back and say what the hell was I thinking.

I have been dating my boyfriend for only a year and a half. It really bothers me that we don't kiss anymore. We do but only when he feels like it. If I don't kiss him when he wants a kiss, he gets offended but he does that to me all the time. What really bothers me is that he will grab on to me all passionately and make out with me in front of someone else. I don't feel comfortable being so physical publicly when we are not even close to that in private. Every time he does it I am hurt and feel cheap or used. I don't get it. Men are crazy.

I have been maried for about 16 yrs. & the last time we kissed was when my son was born 11 yrs. ago . my wife & I are still together. but it sucks to go home to A wife that just thinks of her self. and allways mad @ the world.but I guess I have to hang on there good luck......in the same boat

a. he just never do the first move, never! b. he just wants sex not kisses

I am relieved to know is not just me going through this. Have been seeing my man for almost a year. At least some of you got years of intimacy. He stopped kissing me first, then quit going down on me & now acts as if intercourse is a chore or he's doing me a favor. All he wants now is for me to go down on him. I used to like doing this when it was reciprocated & we were sharing the best sex of my life but now i feel like his prostitute. Asked him about the kissing & he said he just doesnt like to so i guess it was just an act to get me in bed. And yes begging to be kissed ruins it. I love him & he says he loves me but his indifference is making me doubt him & it's really hard to have a good time physically when your mate ALWAYS wants to just lie there while you try to act sexy & enthused all by yourself. Is sad when sex goes from outstanding to boring. Yes i said boring. Not trying to be gross but i now can have more fun by myself cause at least I am worrying about if i enjoy it which he never does anymore plus i dont have to pretend that i am enjoying it while trying to please him cause it is getting harder & harder to pretend. I often leave him & cry. I know he knows it bothers me but it hasnt changed anything & am beginning to think he just doesnt care. I know that the end is coming cause i am getting tired of trying & will not do anything to him from now on unless he does it to me or for me first. Know that he will leave me when i quit doing what he wants but i am tired of feeling cheap, used & hurt all the time, & its about time he did what i want to for once or maybe its best that we simply move on cause even though he says he finds me attractive i feel like he doesnt. He also doesnt realize how much it hurts my feelings when he says a woman on tv is hot & that he would do her but he no longer wants to do me. For Gods sake at least try to spare my feelings & act as if it is a personal problem instead of my problem. And no am not jealous he finds them hot just hurt cause he dont want me anymore.. He forgets that i have needs to both emotionally & physically. Men dont realize just how much this behavior can hurt on soo many different levels. To me love & caring are about trying to please others more than yourself & its the little things that mean everything. Doesnt have to be every time, everybody has bad or off days but every now & then you should set your own needs aside & make your loved one feel special by doing things only for them with nothing expected in return. I have read the other replies & understand that relationships have their ups & downs & i hope that other relationships fare better than mine but i dont have much hope for mine anymore for i tend to agree with the song that "It's in His Kiss" & if he really loved me as he says he would try for me occassionally half as much i nearly always do in & out of the bed for him. Good luck i wish you the best even if i didnt actually help any!

I feel the same way at the moment. My bf just doesn't want to kiss anymore. He used to all of the time, but now he doesn't; Reading the comments this generally happens a year or two into the relationship, but with me it's 3months. He also doesn't want me to do anything to him, saying he has went uncomfortable & insecure. He just wants to pleasure me and I feel that is unfair. He says he loves me all of the time, and generally wants to spend alot of time with me, but it's just he doesn't want me to pleasure him, he gets so nervous now and I don't understand why, I've tried to reassure him, but nothing has seemed to work. What should I do? Is there something wrong with me?

my boyf doesn't want to kiss me either. it makes me feel rejected and undesirable. he tries to make it all a joke if i talk to him... but it's not funny. what do you guys think?

Well I have the same problem. So i made a question list and this is how he answered: 1. Intimate issues. He answered don't think about it. 2. He is just not into you anymore.He answered I'm into you. 3. Nothing wrong with the relationship he says. 4. He thinks that he has bad breath at times. 5. Interested in another woman. he answered no 6.Doesn't even think about you during the day so when he is home he has alot not his mind. He answered no. 7. Some men tend not to care about kissing alot. He answer true. 8. Wants us together he is happy with the relationship.

Not necessarily. He might be seeing if you want it enough to ask. It all depends really. How long has it been going on? I think the best thing to do is to ask him. +5

I wish I knew how the male mind works!! I mean is it possible that men and woman are just that different? My boyfriend and I have been together for the past 3 months or so. Everything couldn't of gotten any better, the sex, the conversations, we were so in tune with eachother. Then we broke up. Bc he felt that he couldn't give me what I deserved and someone else could make me happier. Call it insecure or he's been burned a lot in the past and x-wife cheated, idk.. But we ended up getting back together. It was great once again for like 2/3 days or so. Now I feel like we never kiss!!! Not even during sex its just for the bang. Yeah it makes u feel cheap nd like your nothing! He still talks so sweet to me but the affection has made a pretty significant plummit, and I feel like a lil needy baby when wanting attention! Do you really think he's jus not that into me? Maybe he shouldn't of gotten back with me? Help!

I think it means he is not going to try to win you anymore, he won. He has you right where he wants you. I have been with a emotionally unavailable man for 3years now, and I just can't live like this any more. I deserve to be Loved, and so do you. I deserve to be told I'm beautiful until the day I die, and that I mean the world to him, or something like that. And so do you. I don't know if that is some thing he also doesn't do or not, sorry. I was assuming. For me, I want to be happy and if the person I am living with does not or seems to not want what we used to have, then I will make the move to move. Maybe that will make him give you a kiss or two. Which is something else you could do. Talk to him tell him what you feel and go from there. Only you know what is really going on, and don't want to see it that way. I truely wish you the best, just remember, You are just as important, and you deserve!

first a woman should never have to ask there boyfriend or significant other to kiss them, it should be done without either partner having to ask for it. personally i think kissing isnt just a means to forplay but its also a very loving and passionate way to express your love or attraction to someone, especially when it starts really slow without tongue, and then gradually as the sexual builds between two people your french kissing ilove to french kiss, but anyway the thing is that you should talk to him, if you two really love each other you should be able to talk about anything even when comes to small moments of intimacy. if you ask why he doesnt kiss you like he use to, he should give you an honest answer. because trust and honesty are important in a relationship both people must both be trustworthy and trust each other without insecurity. sorry to get off topic there but bottom line, just talk to him and dont be harsh let him you love the intimacy of sharing a kiss with the man you love, and let him be made aware that you feel each kiss you share with him is special to you. im sure he see why it matters to you if you tell him the truth.

Not necessarily. He could have sores, a cut, a dental problem, a bad breath problem, etc. The best way to find out the truth is to ask him the reason for it.