ANSWERS: 47
  • Because we take them for granted while they are here!
  • Kahlil Gibran said it best, "Love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation."
  • Most people take any and everything for granted.
  • because we are selfish
  • People don't seem to realize what they have until it is gone...
  • It is the false feeling that those we have in our lives will out live us. that sort of thing happens to others but not us. once it does happen it was like a rush of remorse and these thoughts of I lost the chance to say how I truly felt about this person.
  • Listen to this, lol: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z9CT5vAP0ak
  • because when someone or something is gone, we tend to only remember the good parts and forget the bad. So good people become great in our memories.
  • I have no idea coz whenever people say that I want to kick them. I always believe in giving your full love and attention to the one who is alive than to regret after death.
  • We tend to take things that are in our life everyday for granted. You may say you hate your mom when she yelled at you when you were younger, but you really have no idea what it's like to lose a parent until you do.
  • You must be speaking about your own perspective. I for one let all the people I love and care about know how much I appreciate them on a regular basis.
  • Well I don't think that's true. There are a number of people in my life who are deeply appreciated, and they know it. I would say if someone can look around their life and find people who fall into this "not truly appreciated" category who are close to them, that's an area to go to work on your own spiritual development. Failing to appreciate others is a sign of either excess egotism or sleepwalking through life, or both. People should be moved to tears when you tell them how much they mean to you. If not, there's still more work to be done in this area. Don't let that get neglected.
  • It is human nature to think more fondly of something once it is not there, but I would hope that I truly appreciate those I love while they are alive.
  • For me, that isn't true. There are people in my life I really truly appreciate. It was something my grandmother taught me when I lived with her... and I grew to truly appreciate her before she died a couple years ago too. Now I have learned to appreciate many other people in my life, of all generations and ages.
  • There may be some truth to this but it is not always the case. There is not a doubt Jimmy knew how much I appreciated him, I told him many times, he was an angel sent to me.
  • I appreciate some people because they're dead.
  • maybe its cause you dont relize all they do for you until they are gone and not doing thoes things for you anymore
  • Some people aren't in touch with how fragile life is and live it without really putting thought or meaning into it. Its that way when a good friend gets badly injured or paralyzed sometimes as well. Then you question why something like that would ever happen to such a good person.
  • Because we have no idea how finale death is until it touches our lives.
  • Because human nature is to take that person who is closest at hand or always a constant for granted until they are no longer there as a constant in our lives. Only then do we see how big their impact really was. I know from experience.
  • Most of the adults in my family are great about conveying their appreciation and other positive feelings toward relatives and friends. Little kids don't, usually (though some do), but we wouldn't expect them to. When I was little, I didn't understand it yet. Happiness is today; your people that you have NOW are your blessings.
  • I wish I knew. I feel that I tried my very best when my sweetie was alive to make each and every day special for her. I did what I could to make her see what a beautiful person she was and that she was truly loved. She did far more for me though I feel than I did for her. I guess there were times I took her love for granted and expected she would never change her feelings for me. It wasn't til after she was gone that I truly appriciated all the little things she did for me.
  • My Mom passed away last Christmas. I don't appreciate her more now but I do miss her terribly. I think sometimes folks get the two confused.
  • I think this is a very, very good question. I don't know exactly why we do this, but I would assume it was because that person actually did make a big impression in our lives although we did not always show it. I think their passing away really teaches us a lesson, on how we should get our lives straightened out because one of these days we will be dead to. I don't know, maybe I'm not making to much sense.
  • Because it is our nature to keep waiting on the next best thing. We It's like we are too lazy to appreciate each thing someone does during their life, We'll save it up and tell them about it all at once. Then they are gone before you get the chance, so you weigh the good against the rst and talk about it/ I don't know that this is coming across the way I mean,. It's just my stupid nature to keep waiting on something better to happen, someone to do the next greatest thing. Several family members died this past year, and I have been doing some soul searching because my husband is dying now.
  • we forgive them but that isnt always first, hate, anger, grief, rage come before you forgive them, its because your grieving, you miss them.
  • Beacuase then they cant beat you up if say something bad about them.
  • i no its hard, but you will make it..keep strong xxx
  • Because we take their presence for granted. We feel pain over the death of loved ones not for the loss they suffer but for the loss we suffer from their absence.
  • We understand the value of a thing only when we miss it.Similarly we appreciate the warmth of people only when they leave us.
  • Perhaps because of the finality of death. We know that they will never do those things that were so awesome again... in this world. My family doesn't really have this problem, but I do know several that do. I think the same holds true for famous dead people, by the way.
  • we don't appreciate what we have got till we no longer have it.
  • "Many people have massive, uncorrectable problems. They are the living dead."
  • they say when you truly feel death so close you fanily see the things you never saw and how much you may have hurt this person.
  • I think that people take advantage of having somone around. That they don't really see how much that person impacts their daily life until they are suddenly out of it. It is sad that this happpens, but it does.
  • Guilt. Sometimes the guilt even drives us to pretend we actually liked someone we couldn't stand.
  • We don't realize how important someone is until they aren't with us anymore.
  • That's not true for me. I tell loved ones "I love you" about 5000 times a year. I want them to know so that when they are dead there will be no regrets. I also try to make up quickly after one of them has been fighting with me. Usually by the end of the day. We all could be taken at any time and I never want to lose someone with the last thing I said to them being f*ck you. :)
  • Because while they're here, we take a lot of things for granted. They ARE appreciated while here, but we don't always acknowledge that appreciation. Once they are gone, we miss the things we had and did with them. And it doesn't take death to realize the appreciation we had for a person - loss of friendship, breakup of marriage/relationship/etc., loss of job, etc. will do the same thing.
  • because to many people to day concetrat all thier needs and wants on greed,material things, work, getting back at people and the world is so greedy and ignorant, that they spend all thier time on waht they want and not what they have here and now
  • Because we take them for granted. Thinking they'll always be around and we can appreciate them "tomorrow", it doesn't come.
  • Because you don't realize that you really do love them from the inside.
  • because 'we don't know what we have until it's gone' better yet... we just take advantage of people, and we don't care, unless we know that we'll NEVER see them again. horrible, isn't it?
  • I TAKE IT YOUR ONLY SPEAKING FOR YOURSELF, BECAUSE MOST PEOPLE I KNOW APPRECIATE OTHER PEOPLE WHILE THEIR ALIVE AND WELL.
  • Ever heard the sayings "You don't know what you have until it's gone" and “Most human beings have an absolute and infinite capacity for taking things for granted”
  • Because only then do we realize some of the special qualities within them, because it shows itself time and time again, in our daily lives and memories we hold deep forever more.
  • It's easier to notice the sudden absense of something to which you've become use to being there.

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