Why dont i love my boyfriend anymore? I want to love him, i never ever want to be with anybody else, and i dont want to break up with him, but i dont feel like i love him anymore. we've been going out for 11 months now and i dont know what to do? :( help!
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Take a break. Let him know how you feel. Maybe after you take that break you will miss him and love him again or you will realize you have to move on.
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Ask yourself if you want a boyfriend or a security blanket. The answer may help you sort out your feelings.
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OK...so you tried on a pair of shoes and, over time, you have found they pinch in some way...not comfortable. So, return them, get your money back...and go shopping. The shoe may miss your foot for a while, but someone else will come along and the fit may be perfect. If the shoe fits, wear it....if not....
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What you can do is to admit to yourself and to him that your relationship has evolved into a friendship. If you continue on with things as they are, you will not only be pretending emotions that you don't really feel but you will not be free to date others and perhaps find the person you will grow to love.
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This same thing happened to me! I think in the end I just ended up loving him as a friend. I was afraid to lose what we had as I didn't think I would ever find anyone else like him and ever find proper love again. I told him I wanted a break and after the break I was still confused and so I broke it off. Being alone and being single after 3 years was really hard and upsetting but it made me a much stronger person. I really enjoyed the time I had alone and it made me realise that I didn't truely love him after all. I had a fun time being single and eventually met the most amazing man ever. I have never been so happy. Do what is right for you. If you don't feel happy and something doesn't feel right then take time out for yourself.
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I was in the same situation with my exboyfriend but i was with him for 3 years but da last year i just felt like i didnt love him , he would bored me and i didnt want to be there but i wanted to love him and not leave jsut becasue i didnt want him to be with any one else and i knew i deserved my love but i did leave him and ended finding out dat da only reason why i couldnt leave was becuase i was so used to him and i we went through alot but now im glad i did , i met someone i do love
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True love is a choice not an emotion. It takes hard work to keep a relationship going and alive. I suggest trying the "Love Dare" it's a 40 day challange you should be able to find at a book store. Also read "The 5 Love Languages" together, you will learn a lot about eachother. Since your not yet married, maybe you need to do some soul searching and decide what you really want. The above books will help with any relationship.
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Well ok,there's this saying "if you love something set it free, it'll come back to you if it was meant to be". Let him go, don't keep him there to only break the news three years later that there are no feelings. Sorry =( you love him, but aren't inlove with him. He's become a piece in your life, but not fit to lvoe. You can't force yourself to love em, ya'know?
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Some people just get old of there significant others, it's terrible I know, I've even succumb to it before and it's bad, but I guarantee if you too split up you'll want him back, it all goes back to the infamous quote: "you don't really know how much you miss someone until there gone" and boy... its true, maybe tell him how your feeling, describe it to him a little less harsh than I dont love you anymore but try suggesting a break? like no communication, just hang out with friends for a week or so.
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I feel the same and i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and the last year all we have been doing is fighting and i just dont feel the same as i did and i am afraid to hurt him and be on my own i dont no what to do either and worse thing is i cant stop thinking about someone else
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