My boyfriend and I have been going out for a while. He fingers me, which I enjoy, and he says that he does, too. I want to return the favor and give him a blowjob or handjob. I know how to and am fully comfortable doing it, but he isn't. What should I do?

Sounds like you got a good boyfriend. He is uncomfortable with allowing you to do something that he feels may be uncomfortable to you, some little expression you might have made in the past distracted him from it. He thinks you are just wanting to do it for him only. If it gets you sexually aroused, say, "Let me show you something." But stick with the hand first, and no quick, agitated moves. My wife often tries when I never want her to. Because everytime, she moves her hand too quick, and I get her away from there. I tell her to practice on a maglite or something that can handle the damage. If she would, I think it would help her speed decrease and grip. But you know, you girls should never listen to us.

i agree ... after an intense make out session let your hands get to his penis, and then take it from there ... don't talk about it or it will make it more awkward... just let it happen if he does something to stop you then stop... otherwise enjoy :D

Maybe he has an STD and isn't ready to tell you about it yet so he's trying to protect you by not allowing you to make contact with him in a way that would put you at risk...There are nice guys out there, but if you are comfortable giving him a BJ, I don't know too many guys who would refuse that!!

i would just do it. supprise him and i garuntee you he wont be uncomfortable after oh lets say 5 seconds. :D

Relax and enjoy him pleasuring you. No need to rush into things, if he's not ready then just give it some time. He'll tell you when he's comfortable with it.