I don’t seem to be able to reach orgasm…It sucks, I love sex, and I get sooo close, I just haven’t been able too . any suggestions?

RELAX!!! You are putting too much thought into sex, the key is to relax. That used to be my problem.

Try breathing deeper. Just don't hyperventilate. I read somewhere that the deeper you breathe the more likely you are to achieve an orgasm. I tried it and it does work.

You should take matters into your own hands!

No one can truly know what you are feeling unless you provide feedback and it's cliché that people fake orgasms. So ultimately you have to make sure you get yours if that's what's important to your session of intimacy.

Have you tried a vibrator? Many women can not have orgasm from oral or intercourse or manual stimulation, but vibrators are great if you are not very sensitive. For women, orgasms usually require that you are comfortable with yourself, your partner, and sex in general. With a vibrator you don't have to worry about what anyone else is thinking or about whether you are pleasuring anyone but yourself. Just allow yourself to enjoy! And, you can play with toys with each other, too!!

Having an orgasm is just as much about being mentally turned on as well as physically turned on. You just need to relax and let it happen. If you put too much thought behind it, you'll be too stressed out to enjoy it. Just let it happen =)

Would you like me to tell you my little trick. You'll need a partner.

try more foreplay and different positions.

It sounds like a case of not knowing what you're doing.

I suggest you start reading the many books and articles available to you on the internet.

You're biggest issue is probably a mixture of poor technique by your lover and your own insecurities.

You must relax and learn what feels good and what doesn't. Experiment, go slow, try things.....relax.

Once you understand your own body and how it works you will achieve orgasm. If you really get good at it you will learn to appreciate how good it feels to get your lover to orgasm too.

Give it time and learn about your body and sexual technique.

Hey girlie,hang in there! You are not alone! I love my vibrator, and I incoorporate it into the love making, and as long as your partner is into it, it's a great bonding experience, and you'll both feel amazing,(especially if you can use the toy to come together).
Good Luck! :)

foreplay is it studies have shown after atleast 21 minutes or longer of physical fourplay 92% of women will orgasm at some point during your bang bang, this depends on the type of man your with does he care enough to try and if he does will he know how, where, when, and why as long as he tries it shows that he has the desires to please his woman and fellas foreplay starts way before you enter the bedroom its allways there everytime your together a woman is so easily turned off and once she is you aint getting nothing, foreplay will satisfy the ones who dont think its possible and will have them cumming back for more.

A lot of good advice.

But there is more to this. Do you masturbate? If you do, then do you reach orgasm? Do you know what an orgasm is?

I would suggest reading about the subject. Read about your body, a man's body too, so that it's not one sided. Read about foreplay. There is so much information on the subject of sex, read and experiment.

There are even instructional videos.

Just as i said in comment. U just might be part of the percent that will never have one. But from the sounds of it you seem to be getting close. again have to agree with most peopel you gotta CHILL OUT! lol. just relaxe and let it happen. but the problem now is your with someone who has brought tihs to your attention to much and so now it might be a in cureable problem. Mabey try hipnosis therapy theres been huge breakthroughs. Or again oral sex might be ur way. I am with a girl who no MATTER WHAT! cannot orgasm during sex she says never has been able too but if i spend like 10+ minutes toungin the CLIT ONLY!! then yes eventually after hard work will she have a HUGE orgasm. Now just there is also strengthening your PC muscle which has to do with female orgasm.. Everytime you pee try to stop your pee flow and release again about 5 times each pee session. DO tihs for a few weeks see what happens

Have you tried achieving that goal on your own? You just may find what you like. If so show him. If he's a man he should be able to take it fairly well.

A lot more foreplay, and stimulation of the clitoris + penetration most times= tada! Try rubbing yourself the same time he is thrusting.

I've read everything you have written so far and I'd have to say your partners attitude sounds counter productive. You need someone who is more concerned about your feelings than pressuring you for results (it sounds like he is blaming you for his lack of validation). You need someone who will not pressure you but, enjoy pleasing you without another objective. When you sleep with someone you must feel not only comfortable but beautiful at all angles. Feeling desired as well as having a skilled lover may make all the difference.

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I say enjoy the sex while you can and wait for it to happen...LOL

Even orally?

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Did you try putting your attention on you getting warmed up first? (i.e. Have your partner work on stimulating your clitoris, while licking and pinching your breasts, pulling your hair, etc.) An experienced partner should have no problem sending you into mind boggling orbit. This should do the trick. Remember that expecting to get off on intercourse alone is not realistic for everyone Darienne. Let me know how you make out!

LOL thaks for all the help but i finally ended up getting one... well i have no problem gettin them now. i think since i had one i became alot more confident and comfortable. =D thaks for the advise tho.

ive nver had one either, but i heard its hard to reach the gspot during accutal sex, its easier with eaten out or fingerd

Have u try oral sex (receiving it of course). Try 2 imagine anything kinky when you receive it. It may bring u 2 another dimension in orgasm. If that fails, u should try various sex-position which you can get from website - try kamasutra for an instance.

Perhaps a better understanding of your vagina's inner-make-up will be helpful when it comes to your orgasms. Lots of women never have orgasms with Penile-Vaginal-Stroking,and here is the why not? The female orgasmic trigger is the clitoris,and it needs to have direct or semi-direct stimulation to induce an orgasm However as the male penis is somewhat removed from the clitoris during the vaginal stroking,often there is no direct contact nor even enough clitoral pressure upon the clitoris,so no clitoral stimulation, no orgasm either. You can use your free hand to help bring yourself to an orgasm while he is engaged in the vaginal stroking that way you'll be assured an orgasm whenever you are making love.

try using a vibrator on your clit. try just masterbating alone while fantasizing about whatever turns you on first. When you get the hang of that then try communicating with your partner. Also it REALLY helps if you excersize your kegal muscels while having sex. the kegals are the muscels you use when you have to hold in your pee. I usually can't even orgasm unless I'm squeezing my kegals together. The kegal squeezing technique works for vaginal intercourse orgasms AND clitoral orgasms induced by a vibrator.

Try going really ropugh and for a while, but dont think about it to much.

ride it harder ,faster and longer! JUST TRY HARDER YOU SHOULD BE DRIIPING WITH SWEAT IF YOU REALLY TRIED? NOT JUST HMMM I CANT HAVE ONE?

Have your man give you oral sex for starters. I find that woman cum more when you go down on them. Technique is key. Make sure your lover focuses on your clitoris, not too hard so it hurts, but gently licks and nibbles (never bite...unless you're into it).

Once you can cum by getting oral sex...then at least you will know you don't have an issue.

Another you can do is to play with your clitoris when your lover is inside you. Make sure you become part of the answer...

relax,really get into your zen place. no stress or worries. forplay more also. whiler he's inside you have him rub you.