Do you want to just "see" the baby? You have no right to see it unless you assert that you are the father, and that entails a lot of moral and emotional investment. If you are asserting that you are a DADDY I recommend you start BEING a daddy right now - get a crib and baby clothes at your place, read up on proper baby care, get your parents (the grandparents) involved, find out who the child's doctor is, go to a parenting class. NOW! You will have to ignore whatever arguments there are between you and your ex because the well being of the child is at stake here. Stay calm and ignore whatever remarks or accusations come your way, just show you are truly interested in the child's welfare. GET AN ATTORNEY. The legal specifics depend upon what country or state you reside in. You need to establish paternity and assert your rights to the child. Your attorney will petition the court for a paternity test. Generally in the US, we start with the presumption that both parents have an equal right to parent the child. In order to be denied this right, your ex would have to prove that you have some pattern of behavior that would harm the child, go to court with it and get the court to declare you incompetent. Even then, most "incompetent" parents are allowed access to the child through supervised visitation. Your attorney will assist with getting an established schedule of visitation (you get the child every other weekend and you alternate the major holidays, or whatever agreement is reached). Once the court accepts your visitation schedule, your ex must comply with it and you will see your baby. Of course if you establish paternity, you are equally responsible for raising that child, including child support. The court will require the non-custodial parent (presumably, but not always, the dad) to pay the custodial parent a monthly amount to assist with child rearing expenses. Even if there is joint custody, child support is almost always required.

Legally you will have to prove in the curt that you r the father of the child . you could use DNA evidence if you are 100% sure that the child is yours. Even after you prove that you are the father, you will not have any right to see the child untill you are responsible enough to bear the expences of the child. so you should be ready the expences of bieng a DADDY. GET READY FOR IT IF U YOU WANT TO SEE THE CHILD.

Only Arizona grants you any assumed rights to the child. Everyplace else, you have to fight for your parental rights in court. But, I came across something recently where you can file for custody now in the state where the child was conceived. http://www.hiltonhouse.com/articles/In_Utero_Jurisdiction.txt Even if you have to wait, you can start preparing now by learning how to collect evidence and interviewing attorneys. As a single man, you have NO ASSUMED RIGHTS to the child. Watch the movie trailer at the link below about a single father.áµ… Get an order enter forcing a DNA test, unless one has already been done. DO NOT PAY ANY KIND OF SUPPORT FOR THE CHILD UNTIL A DNA TEST IS DONE, AS IT ACKNOWLEDGES YOUR FINANCIAL RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE CHILD. Once you begin paying child support, regardless of whether you are the father or not, you can be required to continue paying. If you are paying without a court order, it can be considered a gift, with you ordered to repay for the same time period, especially if she's on Welfare. If one has not been done, go to the child support enforcement to setup a voluntary order. Wait for them to file against you will result in you paying all court costs of up to $5000.ᵉᶠ Take a certified parenting course. The court is going to order you to take it anyway, so by showing you’ve taken it only looks good to them. Start keeping a daily journal of all your activities. The most common way to prevent a father from getting his rights through the courts is a false allegation. A daily journal is your number one piece of evidence in court and you can even refer to it while on the stand. Gather evidence. Check the site below to see if it is illegal to record conversations without the other person knowing. If your state does not have a law either way, than it defaults to the federal ruling which says one person in a conversation must know they are being recorded. You’re that one person. In Missouri it is specifically legal, in Kansas there is no mention either way. If you live in two different states, and one has a law against it, than it applies when the call originates from within that state. Now, you can't just record, you also have to transcribe it into the daily journal.ᶜ If you are being denied access, write her a letter notifying her of intent to exercise visitation on a specific date, like Saturday 10 AM to 6 PM. Sign it and make three copies. Mail the original Certified Mail and the other with Delivery Confirmation (75¢ + postage). If she rejects the one, she still receives the other. Whether the Certified Mail confirmation card or the Certified letter comes back, attach it unopened to a copy of the letter, plus a printout of the Delivery Confirmation from the web link below.ᵇ When you file for visitation rights, take these documents to the County Courthouse. Have the Clerk of the Court notarize it and than place it in your case file. Do this three times before considering going to court. When you do go to court, the judge will these letters while preparing for the hearing. When you show up to pick up the child(ren), bring witnesses. Do not enter her place alone. If you can record, have someone video record. Check the site below to see if it is illegal to record audio and/or video without the mother knowing. If her state does not have a law either way, than it defaults to the federal ruling, which says one person in a conversation, must know they are being recorded. THAT’S YOU! The court will order you into mediation, so take the lead first and suggest it to her. Instead of hiring attorneys, going to a mediator, you can hammer out an agreement. A mediator is an attorney or paralegal with certified training as a mediator. You each have to pay half the fees in order for the mediator to have the appearance of being unbiased. If you and the mother are civil, consider Bird Nest Custody. In this the child lives in one home and each parent live there for 3-4 weeks, than switch. You live with friends, family, rent a room, etc. on the off time. In this manner, your child’s life is not disrupted. They are not being shifted back and forth. They keep their own room, friends, school, etc. It is hard on the parents, but than the child comes first. This is the form of custody rocker Ted Nugent had.ᵈ If you want to learn how to do all this go to Dads House in Yahoo Groups. Upon joining, you will receive a link to an educational manual that can teach you what you need to know. Take the time to learn what you can and should do.ᵍ *********************************** áµ… Fathers Rights: The Movie http://vids.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=vids.individual&videoid=27395259 ᵇ United States Post Office: Delivery Confirmation http://www.usps.com/send/waystosendmail/extraservices/deliveryconfirmationservice.htm ᶜ Can We Tape http://www.rcfp.org/taping/ ᵈ Bird Nest Custody http://groups.yahoo.com/group/GiveKidsAChoice/ ᵉ Child Support Calculator http://www.alllaw.com/calculators/Childsupport/ ᶠ Child Support Laws - At What Age Does Child Support Stop? http://www.child-support-collections.com/child-support-laws.html ᵍ Dads House http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/DadsHouse/ Other sites to check Fathers & Families http://www.fathersandfamilies.org/ Parental Alienation Syndrome http://www.parentalalienation.org/

If you want to see the child you would have to take a test to prove you are the father- if she denies that you are. Then you will have to go to court, pay child support every month if you want to have any legal right to the child. If she would rather that you are not involved because you don't love her and you fight maybe it would be best for the child if you just let her have the child. She can get married and her husband and her can raise this child. It may be better off- without the emotional toil of why his parents are fighting and aren't together anymore.

If your name is on the Birth Certificate you are the Legal Father. Take her to court get paternity and fight for your right to visit and be active in your child's life. As a father you have right's that only a Judge can take away. Stand up for your right to be a father.

as long as you are able to sign the birth certificate as the baby's dad, you will have some legal right......otherwise, you need to talk to a lawyer.........every child needs a father.....take care....Brian.....

you can't do anything until a DNA teat is done. after it is confirmed that you are indeed the baby's father then you can get a lawyer and get partial custody or visitation. and most likely you'll be paying some child support. which means, as long as you pay, you can see your baby.

If you want to be the "daddy" for your baby, start now. Contact the Office of the Atty. General and get advise. You will need to sign an AOP Acknowledgment of Paternity immediatly following the birth of the baby. If the mom will let you, e involved, but if she does not want you to see baby, there is no reason to think she wants you at doctor appointments, ect. Really, just get ready, if you are stable and have the potential to be a good father, and want to be, get started. If you provide the mother with ANY financialsupport, including doctor visits, buying diapers, ect, keep reciepts. If it comes down to court, you can have proof of your intent to father the baby. Good luck,maybe she will change her mindand the legal stuff wont get complicated. Just make sure, if you have any way to, to be at the hospital and sign the AOP or birthcertificate papers.

The first thing you have to do is arrange to pay child support. That makes it legal for you to visit the baby...IF you are not considered an unfit father. If you have been accused of molestation of other children or if you are guilty of abuse you would only be able to see the baby while being observed by other care takers. If you honestly want to visit with the baby a court order can be arranged along with the child support. As long as you do not pay support, she does not have to allow you to see th baby.

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