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by Sugar-licious a bellydancing rum maiden on October 19th, 2007
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by Sally-The Redhead on October 23rd, 2007
Monogamy. This is what the Bible Ordains.
by buster on October 23rd, 2007
I like men. I would never limit myself to one. that's crazy.
by Nitroduck on April 17th, 2008
Well... For 3 minutes a day, polygamy would be very, very nice.
The other 1437 minutes would be miserable.
-sorry... You know I had to make a joke-
From a man's point of view - I think it is difficult to nurture the emotional needs of more than one lover.
Of course, by emotional needs, I am not referring to running around keeping everybody "stable". I am referring to making sure your woman(en) feels like her "loving cup" is overflowing.
I guess you'd have to have different households.
How do you share tender moments of cheek stroking, eye gazing, hair smelling, tender talk and light tickles in the presence of your other wife, without draining her cup?
by Account Closed on October 19th, 2007
I am all for monogamy as I can be really selfish when it comes to sharing my woman. And I would hope she would be just as selfish sharing me. I find that I can focus on one relationship and get more out of it than adding more to the mix and giving less. To me it would be like spreading my love too thin.
by the big boo on October 23rd, 2007
Monogamy for both, I think.
Polygamy seems to be devastating to the women and children - and I'm sure we don't hear 99% of the harm it does.
I find it easier to believe that a woman having multiple husbands would be able to handle things better - I think that some tribes in Africa used to have women in power who had multiple husbands, but now, in this male pig earth culture we have, its never gonna happen.
by Nitroduck on October 19th, 2007
Monogamy!!! I can't keep one happy what the heck would I do with 7? I couldn't see a woman enjoying three husbands either... That's a lot of beer cans in the sock drawer and socks under the couch.
OF course, it might not be bad, because after you finished with "biznezz" there would be someone around to pull off all of the gummy bears.
by pregnant-rae on April 16th, 2008
I believe that social monogamy is the best answer. It is actually kind of straddling the line of both. Social monogamy means that an animal prefers to stay with one partner, but may have extra-pair copulations. Studies some that women are stronger mentally if they marry their "first loves" where as men are better off to have multiply partners at different times. I think that relationship need to be more open, verbally and sexually. With social monogamy both partners don't have to have extra-pair copulations, but if one partner does then they can.
by weatherman taking week or so off on October 19th, 2007
Up until about 3 months ago, I would've answered Monogamy, but I have been dating two female roommates individually, spending time at their place, and see no indication that the arrangement is unacceptable. And I like them both very much and can't decide between them, at least at this time. I'm almost expecting them to ask me to move in. It might be a moot point if I keep spending nights over there either on the couch or in their bedrooms.
by Sodahead on October 19th, 2007
The more the marrier is what I always say.
by Mini_kilt on October 19th, 2007
In Marriage? Likely Monogamy, but I don't think it's how we were made to be. It's obvious to me that a society that pushes sticly monogamous relationships is simply pushing couples to seperate. It's obvious because that is what's happening, and you can say it's for reasons other than this, and you may be right, but I honestly believe that with over half of the worlds populations being non-monogamous, we were hardwired to want something else (for breeding purposes?)
by Saltlick on October 19th, 2007
It seems to me that people cheat, can't survive being cheated on, and that's just the way it is.
I think the alternative is threesomes. Maybe polygamy but it wouldn't surprise me if that came with its own problems. It's more complex and will have more ways for things to go wrong. Simpler systems are generally better.
So monogamy is the better way, but probably with occasional threesomes when the kids are away at summer camp.
by Doggie S on October 19th, 2007
Polygamy.
Let's just admit that many people can't restrain their you-know-what.
by starrrgazer on August 13th, 2008
Monogamy
by Malikitts on August 13th, 2008
That would really depend on the couple. Many many couples need monogamy and I can truley respect that. I think it's wonderful.
However, many couples find that polygamy in fact enhances their own relationship with their significant other. In one sense, polygamy can be having multiple girlfriends/wives etc. with equal dedication, or it could be having one significant other with other 'affairs' on the side. It really depends on how you view it personally and how you would deal with it.
by Anonymous on August 13th, 2008
This is only my point of view and i will be open minded to other peoples opinions and beliefs.
If two people in a relationship both agree or consent to having more then one partner or having casual intercourse with another person at any time during their relationship; or have more then one wife or husband, then i think its ok. So long as BOTH people agree to it. If you are entering a relationship where that is not the case, then you shouldn't proceed any further because it is very selfish and disrepectful of that other person.
Personally, i'm for monogamy. I would feel worthless and disrespected if my partner cheated on me. To me it says 'your not good enough, i don't find you attractive anymore, there are still holes that you can't fill, etc.' I would never forgive my partner if he ever cheated on me, and i could never bring myself to cheat on him. I love and respect him so much i want to spend the rest of my life with him. I think if you can do that then your relationship is truly something special.
After all, there are animals in nature that devote the rest of their lives to just one partner, i don't see why, as a higher species, that we can't do the same. Again, i'm not going to condemn anyone who has multiple partners, if it works for you and your partners and you are all very happy then i think there is nothing wrong with it. But personally, in marriage i think nothing says more about the devotion you have to someone then if you are only in a relationship with one person.
by Cowboy-Matter of Fact on April 20th, 2008
I'm not willing to *share* in such a manner, nor do I think I could love and respect a woman who was willing to *share* me. I think that should answer the question.
by Sugar-licious a bellydancing rum maiden on April 17th, 2008
Especially while your other wife is taking care of your 25 children, lol!
by Sugar-licious a bellydancing rum maiden on October 23rd, 2007
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There are many parts of the bible when men have more than one wife. For instance, Moses and Abraham, just for two easy ones. there are plenty of others too.
by buster on October 23rd, 2007
My husband has had a mistress for many years. It works for us.
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