What is the big deal? I am a teen dad and I have know teen moms. Does teen parents make them bad people? NOOO you sound like a royal bitch to me.

So she made a mistake 5 years ago. We all make mistakes. Has she learned from that mistake? If so, write it off to experience. Is your son up to taking on the role of stepfather? Make sure hi thinks about it carefully, but at the end of the day it is his choice. And once he has made his choice, live with it. Make friends with the girl, even if it is hard to do so. Once your son has made his choice, for better or worse, you can only do harm to everybody if you try and reverse it. Children grow up. You don't own them. 18 is time to make his own choices, and you to give your advice once, then bit your tongue.

You feel exactly as you should feel, and I totally understand how you feel. Buthe is 18 now, and is considered an adult. If he is this old now, he should first of all, be ready to make his own choice, and second of all, be ready to face the consequences if there are any. As for the mom, you should consider the fact that she has been able to manage a child for 5 years now, and I would see that as an extremely responsible woman who would no doubt be able to take care of a relationship like this.

Sorry but with a mum with your attitude, no wonder he is shy. She is experienced enough to train him her way, he loves her, he is not worried how many guys she has been with, so why should you, Is it a bit of jealousy because of what she has done.

It wouldn't be fair to judge an individual teen girl based on a generalization. I can understand your concerns, but since your son obviously cares about this young lady, it's in everyone's best interest to give her a chance. After all, a 13 year old is not an adult and doesn't always make the best choices. Maybe you wouldn't have approved of the girl when she was 13 - but people change a lot in 5 years, and it's quite possible you'd approve of her now! Something else to consider - do you know the circumstances of this girl's pregnancy when she was 13? Do you know whether she was forced, a victim of incest, persuaded by an older boy? Having a baby at 13 doesn't mean the girl was promiscuous. Your disapproval will push your son away, so I urge you to meet this girl with an open mind and loving heart. The important thing is - does she love your son? Please, open up to her. Your first impulse may have been right, but what if you are wrong and you ruin your relationship with your son based on your own prejudice?

That would be your sons choice at 18 not yours..Some parents just need to butt out.

He probably is making a mistake, but there is probably little you can do about it. If he's still living at home and on "mommy welfare" you may have some influence, but it's going to be difficult to deal with a "first love" especially at 18. The best you can probably do is to get your son busy on something else. If he isn't working full time or going to school full time -- make sure he starts. Don't give him opportunity or incentive to get into worse trouble. Keeping him busy is a good start. Don't give him money. If he wants to "date" make sure he earns the money himself at a real job even if it's only part time. If he's not in school, perhaps it's time for him to experience the "real world" and learn how hard it is to support himself...much less a ready made family. You also need to stress to him that this 5 year old girl doesn't understand "break ups" and falling out of love. He should really not get too connected to her for HER sake. It's irresponsible for the young mother to have allowed this so soon. It's not good for this little girl to have men come in and out of her life and it looks like that is what is going to happen. Unless he has a job to support them and a wedding date lined up, he really should limit his exposure to the daughter.

You need to do something about it tell the other kids mom or someting.