My boyfriend and I have lots of fun, we have a great sex life and we can talk about anything. However, he never tells me how he feels about me/us. I feel pathetic asking him to, but I think its affecting us, so what can I do to get him to share feelings?
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Men generally aren't good at talking about their feelings -- so don't feel pathetic about this, it's sort of normal. If it's really important to you, then I think you should initiate by talking about your feelings, and ask him how he feels about what you said. I wouldn't ask him how he feels about you -- this is a very difficult question to answer truthfully -- especially the first time it's asked -- maybe nobody has ever asked him. He may not feel safe answering with his true feelings. So you are going to have to develop this skill in him by guiding him along, maybe asking questions in a more round about way -- for example, maybe a scene in a movie, or a news story you've seen that somehow rings true about something in your relationship.
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well i think u should just tell him how you feel an that u do in enjoy THE SEX but you feel he should just let you know how he feels so you wont think the relationship is based on sex an you dont want the sex to destroy the relationship
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i use to be the same when it came about talking about the relationship in general because i was worried if I would say the wrong thing about it. i have been with my gf more then a year and im 16 she turning 16 in march. you can ask her, im just the same as your bf but now i talk about the relationship alot more because shes knows how i react and what i will say most of the time. she notice that i didnt want to say the wrong thing and she understood that 100%. just give him time and tell him "dont worry if u say the wrong thing", stuff like that and he will start to open up more.
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Give your boyfriend some time (about a minute should be plenty) to start sharing his feelings. If he can't, lose him. My wife and I have been married for 25 years. Trust me on this.
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ok usually after having sex we loved to talk how was it we talk about new moves new things we did we ask each other if we like what we did i think you should start asking him how was it did you like it what else would you like to do and he will start opening up tell him you whant to make one of his fantasies come true he will love that start asking him sex questions positions the you would like to try he will start opening up good luck.
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Are there any other parts of this Q that aren't true? You say "we can talk about anything", and then in the very next sentence you mention the thing that he will never talk about. If this bothers you, then why haven't you requested that he DO that -- without feeling pathetic? If you feel pathetic to tell him what you want, then obviously you can't talk openly about 'everything'. And if you feel like this lack of communication (at least on this one topic of great importance to you) is affecting the relationship in a negative way, then you HAVE to talk about it. That's what leads me to question the sincerity of the whole presentation.
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