When your husband has touched other women inappropriately, goes to night clubs and tries to pickup other women, tells you your not what he wants anymore, goes to strip clubs on a reg. basis, drinks every nite excessively, is he cheating?

He's cheating you out of the love care and respect that you deserve as his wife.

Why do people thing that "cheating" is some line drawn in the sand, and it's ok to get close to it but not cross?

It does not mater if he is "cheating" or not. If you are unhappy with what he is doing, confront him about it, period.

Either he loves you and he'll stop, or the relationship is not built on much.

Does it really matter? Sounds like it's past time for you to move on...

Not exaclty cheating in the true meaning of the word I guess, Behaving like a bastard sums it up better. Kick the idiot out, you are better than that.

Lets just say you must be a saint if you think this is a relationship. This guy is treating you with total disrespect and no care at all..

If he is not physically having sex with other women it is only because they do not want to give out. he is certainly trying hard enough.

Find yourself a man that has the decency to treat you with respect.

My god. He might not be cheating, but he's sure doing his damndest.

Get a backbone he says he doesn't want you anymore! Find some hot guy you would really like to do and bring him home see how he likes ya then!

Honey, are you serious,please get professional help..the man is a pig..wake up and smell the coffee. Get yourself to a gyno and get checked out..PLEASE!!

Oh yahhhhh
That is cheating
Move out ..he has no respect for you.

Well... here is my opinion. Does touching other women inappropriately = cheating? YES. Just the fact that he TRIES to pick up other women is cheating in my book. Drinking excessively is an addiction and sex can be an addiction as well. It is up to a professional to determine whether your husband has one (alcohol) or multiple (sex, etc.) addictions. For the sake of your own sanity and your OWN health you need to seek counseling and insist your husband does as well. If he does not agree to go to counseling I would DIVORCE HIS ASS. He is not divorcing YOU right now because there is something in it for him... otherwise he would. You are obviously being used and abused and if you want to tolerate it that is your decision. It is a shock for you to even ask if he is cheating. It seems more like a cry for help. I hope you do the right thing and stick up for yourself.

Uh......that's almost like saying "If water starts to boil in a kettle on the stove, is it really hot?"

oh Please.... read your own question.

There are so many good questions on answerbag yet questions like these get all of the points? Useless.

It's worse than cheating. He's just a shitty husband. Get rid of him.

and I imagine you're working 2 jobs to pay the bills too. He sounds like every women's dream. What a keeper.

He would not be cheating either if he was making love to other women on a regular basis, and told you about it.

The main question is not really how this it called, I think, but rather whether you want to accept this kind of behaviour.

The very fact that you're asking us indicates that you are a doormat and a pushover for letting it happen. There's no way he isn't.

Yes..and abusing you. Going to strip clubs and TRYING to pick up women constitutes cheating whether he is successful or not. Why on earth would anyone put up with such as this? Cut your losses and give yourself a chance to find a real man.

It sounds as if he is begging you to kick his a$$ out the door. Oblige him.

I feel like I'm answering this question over & over. The behaviors you describe are cheating unless you're truly OK with it, which you're clearly not. He's cheating and disrespecting you.

Not sure if cheating is the word but I wouldn't be calling him a husband any longer.........

I don't know for sure about cheating but it does sound like he's trying to make a point that he does not want to continue in the relationship.

he is flaunting it in front of you. if he hasn't yet he will. get rid of him now.

Personally, he sounds like a guy who doesn't know what he wants. I would change the locks while he is out doing his thing. I wouldn't want to sleep under the same roof with someone like this. If you have children with him, I feel twice as sorry for you.

Ok...on the chance this is not a trick question I will answer.

He is too chicken shit to end the relationship so he is trying to get you to do it for him.

I would end it.

This question was asked a while ago sooo I hope by now, YOU"RE NOT WITH HIM ANYMORE!

It means he might cheat because you are not what he wants anymore....and from his actions what he wants is to touch other women go to night clubs to met other women....sorry...good luck..get a good ass lawyer...

At that point it woudlnt matter its time to get out

Are the things that you describe your husband as doing, with your obvious knowledge, things that you can live with? Can you then also accept that you are 'not what he wants anymore' and still carry on with your relationship with him?
If your answer is yes to both things, then stay with him if you want, until he actually DOES cheat on you. Then, you will not only have the answer to your question, but an iron-clad basis for your pending divorce!
If I am correct in guessing the calibre of this man (your husband), get your pen ready to sign the necessary divorce papers and get what you will be wearing to court dry-cleaned! Oh, and good luck!

He is an ass

Uhhh, yeh. Even if it hasn't gotten physical yet (and if it hasn’t, it will) he has obviously already cheated mentally and emotionally.

If there is any chance of you two coming back together again, seek counseling sooner rather than later.

If you seriously need to ask that then you gotta do something with your life. In other words. YES!!!!!!!

Good god...yes...Drop him...What are you still doing with a creep like that?

Hell YES!!! He should be with you!! Doing things with you. And he pretty much said he was looking for someone eles! I would run..

mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm who cares what category its classified under cheating or being a dick hole...he still a prick.

Girlfriend;
If your husband HAS touched other woman, and does his best to pick up woman.....And has already told you that he isn't interested in you: Please sweetie for whats left of your self esteem and god forbid any kids involved you need to keep a diary of happenings and dates. Do as you normally do until you have all your ducks in a row, and terminate this marriage. You deserve so much better. Nobody deserves that treatment!Good Luck to you Hon....Don't forget to say your prayers and give thanks for your blessings.

Yes and he would stop being my husband

he is behaving absolutly digustingly, showing no respect to you whatsoever. seriously leave him, and find someone who appreciates you. what does it matter if he is cheating, its the stuff leading up to it which is half as bad.
sorry to sound coldhearted but iv been in the same situation and i wish someone had given me a good talking too

Touching counts as cheating. He is also emotionally cheating on you. It sounds as though he wants to leave the relationship but is too weak to make the decision and is therefore trying to make you make it on his behalf. I would leave and find someone who deserves me, wants me and makes me feel good about myself. You are being abused by this man and soon your confidence and self-esteem will be so destroyed that you won't be able to leave.

YES, YES.......and did I say...YES?!

(forgive my bluntness, but.......D U H!!)

YES!

I cant tell you if he is cheating, but you need to quit allowing him to abuse you, You know what he is doing is wrong, get out of that relationship, and find a man that wants to be with you, treats you with respect and loves you, DO NOT SETTLE FOR LESS!

Last sat. nite my husband and I went out for the evening. We went to a local casino, we agreed to meet up at a later time and get a bit to eat. Little did I know, he went to the casino nite club. When we met up to eat a late supper, we went to the casino restuarant and 4 other gentleman followed us in. They sat directly across from us and start to harse us.I was scared, not knowing what was going on. They did not stay to eat, they got up and one man put his hand on my scoulder and wisped in my ear that my husband was in the nite club, hitting on alot of women and one was his lady. He said they were going to get him. I was scared and shaking. My husband has done this before, I feel like he put me in harms way, but he's angry with me, because I didnt defend him. what do I do.

I can't believe you are asking this question. Obviously, you think there is a chance to save your marriage. If so, confront him with your concerns. As far as I can see, your marriage is already shot. Sorry.

Seriously?

It sounds like it to me. All these things seem to add up to a dead or dying relationship between the two of you.

yes.

Yes...sounds like it to me anyway!!

Do you mean is he having sexual intercourse with other women? Maybe, but at this point, what difference does it make? He is NOT the loving, supportive person that a husband should be. Your marriage is NOT the unified partnership that it should be. Whether he's technically cheating or not, he is being unfaithful to you simply because he's not treating you right. Frankly, I think he is abusing you emotionally. I think you should leave him.