Ignore her because she will be stubborn as well.

By keeping your distance and remembering that it is your husband or wife that you love not her.

I have a sister in law like that and I rarely see her. Am pleasant to her when I see her and get along fine.

IGNORE her!

Kill her with kindness and ignore basically everything she says. Been there - done that. :-)

My sister-in-law is extremely pompous. She's so full of herself I'm surprised she hasn't burst. One on one, she's fine. But in group settings she condescends to all of us including her own husband. I ignore her. I don't see her more than one every few years now that they have moved away. I think it's obvious to everyone that her behavior is laughable and is seen as such. No one pays much attention to her blathering anymore.

I don't - It hurts too but I no longer care to listen to her ramble on and on about how great her and her side of her family is. This Christmas no one is going to her and my brothers home for the holidays. My mother has stated "I can not take another holiday of that woman barking orders at everyone. It makes for a uncomfortable dinner and terrible memories." Sad but true - I'm going to miss my brother...

well, i have a brother in law who thinks that of me. and you know what i said to him. go to hell, because he didnt give the time to know me and just judged me when i tried to know him. he just assumed i was much better than anyone in the family and didnt really know me.

I have a sisterinlaw who just bought a house and tries to throw it in everyone's face,further more she is a devil in disguise who I told something about money her cousin owe me and my husband she went back and told her cousin.Ido not want anything to do with her no good

I had a sis in law that thought she should be drowned in hugs and kisses from everyone and we all owed her something. I treated her the same as I did everyone else. She always talked to me more than she did everyone else at family gatherings for some odd reason. I never bowed down to her.

my sister law is very self righteous. I live in New York me and my husbgand we stay away as far as possible bgecause the family is very dysfunctional and I don't want my kids around that fighting and argbuing. I think my sister inlaw is jeoulous of me I wear a size 5 and she dosen't she always tell me you look like a meduim or large how dare her.

My sister law trys to tell my husband not to cook and clean because her husband doesnot do the same for her. So she have alot of issues with me

Since you are without defect or blemish, I wonder why you dont show compassion for us poor souls that are not perfect.

Hi, I have a sister in law who constantly belittles me. I helped her to transfer the laundry from the washing machine to the dryer and did not know that her jeans don't go into the dryer. I placed mine in the dryer all the years in the university. She accused me of trying to shrink her pants so I can have it because I am shorter than her. She also constantly cited how old I am cos' I am only 3and 1/2 years older.

If I were you, I will lock myself in my own world whenever I am with her. She seems to have a personality disorder called Narcissism. This is the kind of people who thinks they are superior in all ways. That is when God comes in and start humbling them.

Wow! I'm not alone after all. I do have a SIL who thinks everybody owes her. She's a control freak and wants to rule our lives. Extremely manipulative...my parents-in-law are afraid of her. She likes to argue a lot and she won't stop until you tell her she's right. Worst thing is she's living with us. I feel like we need to adjust to her instead of her adjusting to us She doesn't realize that we're doing her a favor by letting her stay with us. She's probably one of the biggest reason why I lost a lot of weight... Help anyone....how do we send her to Mars without hurting her feelings...BTW, she's overly sensitive, and I'm not exaggerating. Just one word can trigger an argument that will last for 4 hours...I need your help..kindly email me at cocojamempire@yahoo.com

Be nice to her smile and hope she goes home soon

Does her husband i.e your brother also agree that she is too "good" for your family;-) You can work your way up to proving that she is not(IF she is not) with some HELP from FAMILY MEMBERS...This subject needs a collective effort from the family members to prove that she is part of the family and not up up and above... there's no such place....

well kay, i have to break this down to you. i have my in laws who think they are better than every one else in the family. they try to compete for which family does the most for us ( me and my husband). they thought i was seeking attention but look who was talking. i dont really like them very much. i just have to get along with them for the sake of my husband. you know? i see your doing the same. keep it up? :)

i recently got married. My wife has been dealing with my own sister for the last handful of months. We are in our mid twenty's and my sister is in her late twenties. She would use our situations against us and pretend to be helpful but manipulate us into a worst situation to fuel her own insecurities. My wife deals with it everytime she is around her. My sister rolls her eyes at my wife, and belittles her constantly. We try to shut up and just ignore it, but that is getting old and now we are starting to argue back and comment back. Which, 2 wrongs don't make a right... so it is getting worse... the only advise i have is, move far far away and disconnect yourself from people like this. i even avoid birthdays and holidays just to avoid my sister. If we have to see her, we leave right after dinner and make up a excuse.

Just try to be polite when you have to meet up at family gatherings etc, but I woulnd't go out of my way to be her friend. Just stay friendly for the sake of the family. That way peace is maintained.

Become her best friend then the two of you can be so much better together!

hi,i also have a sister-in-law that i don't like that much.she used to be nice with me in front of her family and when it was just me and her,she would totally ignore me.it was really hard to deal with her,cause she is way too conceited.she would speak with a sweet voice and then be mean in her atitudes.i feel like she is always competing with me.i would talk to her and sometimes she would not answer to me,she was selfish,she would make a mess at home and not clean it,she would leave it there for someoneelse to clean it,and also she didn't clean her dog's mess.But i don't feel like she tried to be my friend,maybe she is jealouz because of her brother,they used to get along very well,and perhaps she is feeling like she is loosing him for me.i feel bad,cause i like my parents-in-law,but after we moved out of my husband's parents' house,i feel like she has talked to them and my mother-in-law has been different with me.she is even sending my sister-in-law's picture to my husband's cellphone. my mother-in-law knew that we were not going for thanksgiving,but she called my husband saying that she wanted us to go for thanksgiving and she knew we were not going.i talked to my husband and said that we are not going.and now my mother-in-law planned a visit in two weeks,for one weekend.i think she doesn't want to lose control over my husband.he tries to control him,when she doesn't control any of her other children.i don't want to be rude,but i will not allow that.this is our marriage,i married him,not his mom.i am polite with them,i try not to show how i feel sometimes,cause i don't hurt my husband's feelings and want to get along with them all.but i wish i could kick my sister-in-law's ass.