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My brother told me first, we are only 16 months apart in age, so were really close. It was many many years before he told anyone else in our family. But our 2 other brothers had certainly figured it out and I think they finally told him that he didn't have to worry about hiding anything or be afraid they wouldn't accept him. The way he told me - he called and said he needed to see me, he had something important to tell me. So we went out for a drink and he just came right out and said it. I just said Thank God, he had me scared to death something horrible had happened.
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I really hope and pray all will go well for you. Their may be some shock and saddness at first, because they may have to say good-bye to some of the dreams they may have had for you. Just be patient, love really can bring people around and don't under estimate their resilience.
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What i would do is, for the first few weeks act like you do not have something to tell your family, but question them on what they think of being attracted to the same sex because, if your a personal person you wouldnt really want the whole neighbourhood to know even though there is nothing wrong with it but if you do not want to be pused away then i would take the risk of asking the general questions. If thats any help :)
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I have many gay friends, and the best coming out to a family I've heard was classic and wonderful. A friend of ours sat his parents down (about 20 years ago), and said something to the effect of "Mom, Dad, I don't like girls, I like guys, in THAT way" (his Mom told this story), they looked at him and his Mom said "Yeah, we know, we were just waiting for you to tell us".
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I came out at Thanksgiving Dinner in the 1970's. I asked my mother to pass the mashed potatos to a homosexual....and she handed them to my father. Even though they are gone, I still laugh about it to this day. My mother had no idea if she was a hetero or homosexual.....so backwards.
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I wouldn't have an official "coming out" I'd bring my dates with me to what ever family function I attended and that would be that.
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I wrote a letter to my mom and left it for her that way i wouldnt have to see her immediate reaction and she would have time to think about. in the end i was being redicoulos for worrying. escpecially since my mom had gone with me to a pride parafe the year before. she told me she loved me unconditionally. of course since she is my mom. i hope everything works out for you.
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