As a girl....being drunk is a totally legitimate answer for what she has done. all girls like other girls when theyre drunk

being drunk is not a valid excuse for cheating...with anyone..its just that, simply an excuse, a way to avoid taking responsibilty for ones actions. you haven't asked a question so i'm not sure what you are wanting to know...

If she drinks that much still, I'd have my suspicions along with other worries regarding the marriage. What causes you to want to ask this question 2 years after the affair? New developments?

Have you ever heard the saying "A straight girl is just a sober bisexual"? Sounds funny, but I think it's true in a lot of cases. I seriously wouldn't worry about it. It's been 2 years and she obviously isn't a lesbian or planning on leaving you.

I wouldn't have tolerated it... Being drunk is no excuse and whether it was with a girl or not makes no difference either... the dishonesty is the key factor here and i personally think you would be better off with someone who respects you enough to be honest with you...

As much as the cheater for me was the lying and deception. I did not learn about this because of a confession. The other woman was here and told me. I believe the other woman is a Predator and worked to get control of my wife. I am having trouble that my wife lied to me and when the other woman propositioned here 3 times (or so) in the last two years my wife turned her down but did not change the friendship. I find that difficult to accept. I am struggling here and welcome feedback. I also think saladeater is foolish to say all women want women when drinking. If true, there would only be lesbian bars and not bars where men meet women. My thanks to all.

As much as the cheating for me was the lying and deception. I did not learn about this because of a confession. The other woman was here and told me. I believe the other woman is a Predator and worked to get control of my wife. I am having trouble that my wife lied to me and when the other woman propositioned here 3 times (or so) in the last two years my wife turned her down but did not change the friendship. I find that difficult to accept. I am struggling here and welcome feedback. I also think saladeater is foolish to say all women want women when drinking. If true, there would only be lesbian bars and not bars where men meet women. My thanks to all.

As much as the cheating for me was the lying and deception. I did not learn about this because of a confession. The other woman was here and told me. I believe the other woman is a Predator and worked to get control of my wife. I am having trouble that my wife lied to me and when the other woman propositioned her 3 times (or so) in the last two years my wife turned her down but did not change the friendship. I find that difficult to accept. I am struggling here and welcome feedback. I also think saladeater is foolish to say all women want women when drinking. If true, there would only be lesbian bars and not bars where men meet women. My thanks to all.

Discover what the problem is. Was it because She had a one night stand with a Girl you do not like. Or that she is still friendly with the girl and that is a reminder to you?? Get over it, she is still with you so she loves you. Maybe you should get her to wear sack cloth and parade around the town ringing a bell, If she trusted you she would have told you the next day. You did not marry a Saint only a Normal woman with faults like us guys. Talk and forgive otherwise it will eat you up.

You don't say what it is that you want to have happen in your relationship from this point on. It sounds as though you have determined that she needs to end the friendship with this woman which is reasonable. There is no way to know that the sexual side of their relationship has ended without 100% no contact between the two of them. It's reasonable that you would ask for this as a determination of a continuation of the marriage or not. The first thing you do need to do is to determine what your own personal boundaries are. Once you've determined what those are, you need to determine what are set in stone and what are things you will compromise on. Once you've decided that, it's time to determine what you want from your marriage, to continue or not. If you want to continue, it's time to present her with your personal boundaries and the things you are willing to do should she not be able to live with that, ie, "I choose not to be married to someone who is continuing a friendship with a person they cheated on me with. If the cheating is continued, I'll have to leave since this is something that *I* can't live with." It's then in her ball court as to what she chooses to do. Do ask her to take time to consider it.

You're married, a relationship based on commitment and the forswearing of others. . There is only one way to know, and only one way she can show, that she is committed to you above all others. She chooses. Either choice reveals her. . Tell her you want her to dump the friend. . *Don't* deliver an ultimatum, no threats. You need the information, to know what she will choose without coercion. . If she keeps the friend, she's just not that into you. . You can decided what to do from there. .

I would not consider her having sex with another woman as cheating. My wife is Bi, and she has girlfriends that she has sex with, and we also have threesomes from time to time. It actually turns me on so much knowing that my wife has girlfriends.