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by Marcie on November 12th, 2007
Oh yes, I know I will never be able to fake orgasm as good as those girls do! <pout>
by MamaBeeMinnie on October 11th, 2007
I know my husband views it on occassion... it doesn't make me feel insecure at all, I don't even think about it actually. I'm indifferent to it, it doesn't matter to me if he watches it or not.
by lady fuschia on October 11th, 2007
Not generally no. I mean, if a guy was sat watching porn while I was in the room and not paying me any attention, that would make me feel insecure. But in the general scheme of things porn is fine - in the right circumstances I even enjoy it.
by Chaysgirl24 on November 21st, 2007
Kind of because I am not as skinny or as pretty as them girls...
by anglrckx on November 15th, 2007
no I like it, especially if I have someone to watch it with.
by Littlemisswallflower on November 12th, 2007
A little, yes, actually.
Never realized what it was till you said something though.
by Gigglez on October 11th, 2007
Oh yeah especially when I see one of the women with a pair of shoe that look real nice on her feet ...I feel upset and wonder "Why can't they look as good on my feet!"... =)
by Fun on October 11th, 2007
Hells no... it makes me feel embarrassed.
by Jane on November 15th, 2007
a little bit. Depends most of the time i'm better looking than the women but some of the time they are just so fit it makes me feel sad.
by Eltinwe has a life Swan - DYOH on November 12th, 2007
Nah. Just kind of grosses me out a bit. I'm happy with my body and my sex ability... and real beats out fake every time. It's the fakeness that grosses me out. Sex is intimate and personal, and faking it isn't pleasant.
by Ashleyred on October 11th, 2007
No but if you're in a committed relationship and are constantly watching porn I think you need to figure out what you're missing. I know people who watch porn as a couple to get ideas, which could be a good plan.
by Anonymous on December 3rd, 2007
Yes yes yes... its like if you want that just ask me and i will do it, and when i caught my husband watching it my first thought was " do you want me to go to the gym or something" its just why watch it if i am right freaking there ya know
by kitten is smiling... on October 11th, 2007
Not in the least. I don't watch much of it, I prefer to watch my husband make love to me.
by PrettyPirate on October 11th, 2007
No. I don't understand why it would make anyone feel insecure.
by -O-uknow on October 11th, 2007
Makes "me" horny.
by LadyLuck on October 11th, 2007
No - I was watching Til Death last night too. Porn is entertaining to me.
by Crazy is looking 4 Imperfections. on October 11th, 2007
No, makes me feel better.
by invisible0007 on October 16th, 2008
Porn just make sex cheap. And disrespects women. It does not make women insecure it makes women ashamed of being treated like an animal for only sexual pleasure with no brains or integrity.
by Anonymous on May 21st, 2008
Sometimes I feel like I am watching WWF because it is so fake.
Yes. I get insecure. Then I have some realizations:
-I have greater priorities than to become a living sex goddess.
-My smaller than A cup boobs are 100% real, just how my husband likes them.
-I watch more porn than my husband.
by paranoia is just fine on December 4th, 2007
No. Why would a video make me feel insecure?
by Andrea Jones on November 13th, 2007
nope, whats good for the goose is good for the gander lol.
by fall3nang3l on November 12th, 2007
No, not insecure but puts me in the mood for some good, good lovin'! lol.
by prettybird on November 12th, 2007
No! it makes me want to have sex. Plus it gives me tips.. haha.
by Anonomous on November 12th, 2007
Actually it makes me feel a little better to know I have more class and style then them women on porn.
by APACHEmeansENEMY on October 11th, 2007
no, it makes me feel vaugely repulsed.
by Melza. on October 13th, 2009
No.
I like watching a bit of porn myself.
by anonymous on September 15th, 2009
I answered earlier but wanted to add something. I guess it doesn't make me too insecure because it gives me some freedom. By my man getting stimulated by porn he has kind of given me the green light to find my own outlet. So I would say 'cool watch your porn, I'm going out with my ladies dancing at a night club, maybe some hot salsa type of dancing with the guys there, but don't worry it's not about you I still love you, I just like the rush' or I could book in an all over body massage with Mr HOT masseuse and think about him later while with my man. Now i am not cheating, just getting stimulated / excited like him. Fair is fair I say.
I asked my hubby about this fair trade - he tried to sound cool with it but boy was he jealous and boiling insecure! Anyway that fixes any insecurity I have with porn - it might work in a ladies favor really if it plays out like this...
by alieninastrangeland on August 18th, 2009
The biggest fear of a man's life is that "it won't go up". Porn is made to make them feel invincible, always in control and "always able to get it up".
THAT is what they pay for. There is no effort in masturbation and no one to think of but themselves and they get to be anyone they want to be.
Sadly what many men don't realize is that porn leads to emotional, and often physical, impotence. After a while "it won't go up" at all anymore.
by blondie44 on July 12th, 2009
MEN- DOES PORN FOR WOMEN MAKE YOU INSECURE?
by Anonymous on April 9th, 2008
yes my boyfriend tells me im more beautiful then them but i dont believe him
by altgirl84 on December 18th, 2007
No it turns me on. And it's very fun and hot when I watch/enjoy it with my partner.
by wonder77 on December 10th, 2007
my boyfriend and i are together for 2 years. i found out that my boyfreind was watching girls on the internet in last february and now i m obsessed with it. He doesnt know i know. I look on the History of it's internet to see what he watch. it's not even porn, it's girl in underwear, caught by a hidden cam or girl who expose themselves stripping (you tube, myspace stuff like that). I feel so ugly, so "not enough". I dont want to deal with my boyfriend about it cause i dont think it will be better, even if he knows it hurts my feelings. We once argued over music video with girls almost naked, like hip hop videos. Didn t change anything. Well, he doesnt watch video in front of me anymore. Sometimees, i stay awake just to be in the same room so he cant watch video of the stripping girls. At first, i thought it was because we were fighting alot but even when everything is fine in our relationship, he still do it. Even after sex he does it. So dont tell me its jusst for masturbation purposes...I'm young, beautiful and i know i give him good sex. But i cant help but wonder what will it be when i ll be older, fatter, etc ? I prefer that he watch it than cheating on me, but i don t think i would feel worst if he was actually cheating on me. It's like slowly but surely, my self esteem and my self confidence have melt. As i said, i didnt talk about it with him, but it's always in my head and it makes me really sad. And often, i m angry with him and i dont want to tell him, so i swallow and i shut up, but one day, i may expose... i just don t want him to know i spy on him (on his computer). It's weird, but i want to know when he do it and what he watch. I'm really obsessed and it just getting worst day after day. I dont know if i'm hurting myself for nothing, because i know my boyfriend loves me, and thinks i m great and beautifu. But i cant help it. Could i find a man that i love as i love him but doesnt watch other girls, in any way ? I would like to be THE ONe ANd OnLY one. is it too much too ask ? So y es i feel insecure.
by Anonymous on November 20th, 2007
I am engaged to my fiancee of 3 years & would feel very insecure if I found out he was watching it without me. I have no objections to watching it together though providing he pays me some attention!!
by Zack on November 15th, 2007
It makes me bored these days, but I have dabbled in it a few times. Whoops. This was meant for women. Sorry.
by AntigoneRising on November 12th, 2007
No. I cannot say that porn has ever made me feel insecure.
That doesn't mean that I view/watch porn, or am ok with having a partner that does so. The reason is that I don't think that human sexuality should be a commercial commodity. I don't think that treating anyone's sexuality, but particularly women's as porn emphasizes, as something that you pick and choose like shoes - any color, any shape, as many as you want, whatever you are in the mood for - is healthy, or the way I will tolerate myself or my gender being viewed by my partner. I don't decouple the person from the image. Those are humans there, and the fact that I don't personally know them doesn't make a difference. I don't like my partner sharing his sexuality with other people. He feels the same way.
by Runs with scissors on November 12th, 2007
No way,why would it make anyone insecure about themselves,body or relationship? To me there would be no threat there,the ones we did see,I remember we used to laugh about the people that had a big pimple on their butt,or a bugger hanging outta their nose,lol.
by lizizhere on October 11th, 2007
Not at all, when I was younger it did but now it don't it just makes me feel all warm & fuzzy inside(ok horny) ;O)
by dillydally on November 10th, 2009
Not really, i enjoy porn, but if my better half payed more attention to porn than me then yes, definitely! I'd kick his sad arse out and go find someone else! x
by nice jugs on November 4th, 2009
No just horny
by anonymous on September 14th, 2009
A little I guess. Mostly though I think the problem is more what it does to the guys who watch it. They become terrible lovers - all self focused and stuff. You can really tell a guy watches porn by how he has sex with a woman. The actresses are ACTING! They are playing the fantasy of how men think women have sex. If your guy took her home and wanted to please her (not on tape but genuine) he probably wouldn't really know where to start or finish. Poor guys. Porn doesn't make red hot lovers, now THAT is really what should make a porn watching guy insecure.
by Anonymous on August 18th, 2009
What if the tables were turned?
What if we could say to these boyfriends, how would you feel if you found me looking at naked photos or films of well hung stunning men and we were imagining we were having sex with them?
I bet they wouldn't like it.
by Anonymous on December 15th, 2008
Yes it does. It makes me feel like I'm not good enough for him. What do I lack? I can't even come close to all that fakeness. It seems like it pushes you further away from who you love. Love should be unconditional, you shouldn't want to see others if you love who you are with. They should be your everything.
by Rainbow on August 23rd, 2008
Humm! Let me see.....
Put it this way, the woman may be beautiful with lots of time to give to beauty regimes. However, not all men are as well well hung in real life. So I guess the answer is....Does porn make men feel insecure??
by alieninastrangeland on August 9th, 2008
I think it depends on your point of view and where you are in your relationship. If you are both young and watch together it can be exciting and the excitement can spill over for you both. However, if you have been together for a long while and the sex has cooled and your partner is constantly watching porn alone, that is not a good sign.
Men are conditioned about sex differently than women. Sex should evolve in a relationship. As the physical cools, intimacy and pleasing each other can replace it if there is trust and love in the relationship. As with all things in life, committed sex has stages. Getting through these stages together is what makes a successful relationship.
Porn does not help relationships to evolve. Eventually it becomes same old same old thing. Unfortunately, over time it tends to keep you in the same sexual rut as well.
by ... on July 16th, 2008
sort of..
by junebug0897 on July 14th, 2008
no. it actually makes me feel good about myself knowing that i'm not exposing myself to the world.
by alieninastrangeland on April 23rd, 2008
No more than it would make a man with a small or "average" size penis feel insecure if his wife watched it!
by Jane on April 4th, 2008
I like watching porn it makes me feel good about myself because I'm so glad I dont look like those girls...well, some of em are cute but a lot of them ugh! So no it doesn't...quite the opposite
by Izzie on March 17th, 2008
nah.. my guy looks at porn.. but i know that real me is better than fake her haha :)
by Anonymous on January 26th, 2008
Well - I'll tell you this, from experience. Women who don't feel insecure are naive - because they think that what their husband does in front of them is ALL he's doing - and that's very often not the case at all.
Porn tends to escalate with a lot of men - starts with nude pictures and gets more and more hardcore from there. A lot of men start out with wives who tolerate porn, but eventually they reach a point where they crave more stimulation and they are ashamed to let their wives know, and so they start to supplement whatever they do with/in front of their wife with other sexually charged secret fantasies and experiences.
The more into porn a man gets, the more normal this whole weird world begins to look to him, and the more uptight his wife seems because she is a respectable woman.
My husband was looking at Playboy when we got married - and I was dumb enough to be fine with it. 9 years later I found a collection of some SERIOUSLY disturbing hardcore pictures on his computer. They were probably legal photos but they were so far from mainstream that I don't even want to go into it.
I had two small daughters in the house at the time, and was ready to walk out. He cried, and begged me to stay in the marriage - and I did - but I will never trust him as much or be turned on by him in the same way because I saw a very twisted side of his sexuality - one that doesn't go with the kind of man I can love.
There are times when I wonder what else is going on with him - and if I should have left - or will one day leave him.
Other men escalate their porn habit by going from sitting around the stage in strip clubs to getting private lap dances, to going to massage parlors, to hiring hookers.
Women, if you are not threatened by porn, it's because you are naive enough to think you are seeing the whole picture - I'll lay odds that you're not.
My boyfriend watches porn,sends and receives pics and video but I've totally lost any sexual attraction to him because of it. What to do?
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Comments
lol!
by Penny The Wise on January 26th, 2008
thanks. oh...oh...oh....oooooohhhhhhh! how'd I do?
by Marcie on February 10th, 2008
Heheh, not bad!
by Penny The Wise on February 11th, 2008
:) :)
by Marcie on February 11th, 2008
but never stop trying
by Esteban-- Smartest Pumpkin on February 29th, 2008
practice makes perfect! LOL
by calypso on March 5th, 2008
good aerobic exercise
by Esteban-- Smartest Pumpkin on March 5th, 2008
very witty answer.
by MaryWebb on March 6th, 2008