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by Anonymous on October 8th, 2007

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I have left my husband to just think and i want to try and make things work between us at first he did also, now he tells me that he wants to spend as little time with me as he can, said one reason so he can move on we still love each other what can i do?

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  • by Sarita1 Goes Bollywood on October 8th, 2007

    Sarita1 Goes Bollywood

    You say YOU left your husband, just to think.

    Unfortunately, this was the first mistake. This allowed him to also think and he has decided to move on.

    You need to have a frank discussion with him about why you thought you needed time apart and what you came up with and what he thought about while you were both apart and why he came up with this decision to leave.

    You must talk honestly and openly with one another.

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  • by American idle on October 8th, 2007

    American idle

    Give him the time he needs. If you pursue him now, he'll run faster.

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  • by Eagle1982 on September 20th, 2008

    Eagle1982

    It sounds like some professional counseling might be in order. I read the comments and 12 years is a long time but reading the differences in where the two of you are in your lives it appears he in is a place you cannot go (he wants more children, you cannot have them, etc...). I say professional counseling because there is a reason that he suddenly wants more children, possibly a little mid life crisis happening there? Wanting to feel virile, etc... If there is real love there it can be saved! Good luck and good love to you!

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  • by Costantinus on December 12th, 2007

    Costantinus

    just move on like he's doing. You started it then just carry on thinking.

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  • by luvinlife20 on December 12th, 2007

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    my husband and i went through the same thing when we were just dating. i broke up with him and then wanted him back, he told me know and wouldnt talk to me for months and then he saw that i was moving on and he came rushing back to me. i ask him why he did that it was because i hurt him so bad when i up and left that he was trying to make sure i wouldnt do something like that again. it probably devastated him when you left him, just give it time he will be back. true love always comes back.

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  • by Williamstown on September 27th, 2008

    Williamstown

    Sounds like you'd be better off without him. why don't you go find someone who REALLY cares about you.

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  • by Possum on September 20th, 2008

    Possum

    Get a shrink and a boyfriend?

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  • by Ezora on September 27th, 2008

    Ezora

    Maybe both you n your hubby make love and see whether you both want each other anymore. I guess it helps to make you both recall your first date together....

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  • by Pete Parker on August 14th, 2008

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    Temporary separations are sometimes recommended but they are prone to back fire as in your case. Your spouse suddenly liked his new found single life and now wants to keep it. You need to get back in his life by talking to him and sharing why you left and why now you want to come back. He needs reassurance from you before he is willing to recommit to your marriage. It will take some doing on your part but if he loves you faintly, you still have a chance. He will remember why he married you and realize you are still the person he can live with. Work hard at it but don't stalk or argue. He is a slightly different person with a different view of you and your previous bond. You just need to reassure him it can be better than it was before. Good luck.

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  • by wthing8 on November 29th, 2008

    wthing8

    You are fucked. He now realises what you are...it is over...move on...it is obvious he already has....

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  • by once burned on April 6th, 2009

    once burned

    Like mine you chose to leave your husband and now you want him back? To late!Your husband will always love you,this I can assure you.But you left once and true love or not he will never trust you again.

    Find someone new if you have not already and put all your time and effort into this relationship.Remember your the one that left him.Like myself I picked myself up and moved on with my life never to look back.

    If you were meant to be together you would have never left in the first place.

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  • by mwat935139 on December 16th, 2010

    mwat935139

    Nothing, he's ready to move on.

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