My friend cuts and she says she does it to make herself feel better, how do i make her stop? she's not doing it to feel cool or emo, she says it 'helps' and that i 'don't understand'
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You can't make her stop. You can only encourage her to talk to someone that can help her find other ways to deal with her anxiety and emotional turmoil. Do her parents know? Unless they are horrible parents, they should be at the top of the list of people you can talk to about it. If you are afraid she'd feel betrayed by this, you could speak to one of her teacher or guidance counselor... these people are often willing to 'discover' these problems to take the heat off the concerned friend.
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I'd dated and have had a few friends who were cutters. They did it usually when they were angry, sad, stressed and things like that... It helps them relieve their emotional pain. I feel maybe you should talk to her about it, and don't judge her. Just try to be there whenever she needs to talk about something, even if she's used to keeping it in and relieving herself. If things get worse or are already out of hand, you should perhaps try group therapy or you may need to suggest some heavy duty therapy or counseling.
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Probably a cry for help. Thats why I've contemplated it.
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I can relate to her!
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She needs to want to stop herself. I used to self harm to make emotional pain (in my head) feel real (physical pain). The release of seeing blood can feel that it helps make things real. Also, she will able to control the cutting, which she may feel unable to do with emotions. Please encourage her to seek help. You don't have to understand but, just be there for your friend to talk to and be with. Don't judge her, she's just using this as a way of coping. Also, please make sure she has first aid on hand.
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u cant stop her u can only talk to her and help her out. And be supportive when she needs u... And most people dotn do it to be emo or cool.. And i know wat u mean by u dont understand.. I knwo a bunch of people who are in ur sittuation. I think u need to sit down with her and talk this out and try to get her to make u understand it.. I mean ur not going to understand it completly untill u have went threw it.. I mean for me it was a way to release how i was feeling and i felt like I was in control when i did it. But i really was out of control... u knwo what i mean?
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you can not make her stop. it is a copeing thing all you can do is be her friend she may need to chat about how she feels more so you understand why she dose it i know same people do it and are judged and get people moaning at her cos of it your studit doing that same say or your mad comments like this dont help to get her out of depression of every day stuggles. she will be ok if she knows your there for her that is what she need and some one to listen she may feel so far away and think her life is going no where. feeling unloved alone lost are feeling you allso have which can create self harming i know i do it my self people family friend and certain indivuals dont unstand it is how you cope she is not if she is selfharming i hope she is well and i hope yu watch over her good luck with your friend
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ya cant make her stop ... and it does help ... thats y i do it
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if she is addicted to her brains natural pain reliever response then maybe she needs medical marijuana
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then give yr friend my email we chat turstonernie@hotmail.co.uk
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Take her to a counsellor so that she can find help. Talk to her and let her know that you are there for her.
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the reason why your friend thinks it helps is probally because when a person cuts them self they normally have emotional pain that isn't easily solved. So when they cut them selves they know that the pain that they are feeling is real and it will sometime go away. Also it makes the person feel as if others now know how much pain they are going through and they don't need to tell them, they should just know.
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im sorry, but u dont understand. cutting does make ppl feel better, it releases an endorphin in your brain that actually does make u feel better, i do it and i understand y she does it
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