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  • honestly, kind of swordsman. by this question it makes me think if you've done ANYTHING with a girl......but your NOT loser for not having sex. if your just waiting for the right girl than thats sweet and sincere, but by the looks of things you've never even glanced for the right girl. and you might wanna work on your grammer it's am i considered a loser..sorry
  • Hey man, just know you're not alone. I'm in the same situation. Just give it time.
  • Yes, if it's okay with you, it's okay with me. There is a lot more to life than girlfriends and boyfriends.
  • Yeah, sure. You could be homosexual, asexual, physically or mentally unattractive, a hermit, too nervous, or just not interested in having a relationship. I wouldn't judge you if you were any of those things.
  • Yes. As long as you've never dated/had impure thoughts about Richard Simmons, you are in the clear.
  • He says it's okay:
  • I... don't know. Have you wanted one?
  • How would it change anything if I said no? Course it's okay, I'm a girl and I think we're kinda overrated ;) Honestly, I know plenty of people in your situation and they're doing absolutely fine.
  • Of course it's okay. In the real world nobody's giving you points for whether you date or you don't date. If you're a college student, you may have trouble making tuition payments on time. Dating can be very expensive these days. There's always the blow up doll option--now there's a cheap date!
  • I'm 27 and never had a girlfriend since I'm so overprotected
  • When you truly want one, you'll get one. Best I can tell you, mate.
  • Yo Man. Thats most certainly ok. Alot of other people were in the same boat (i didn't kiss a girl until i was 16). Don't beat your self up about it and feel pressured. The best girls don't go after the 'players' and i think in general there more attracted to the unspoiled guys. Be yourself and when its time,you'll meet someone who likes you. Thats what happened with me when i was younger.
  • No. That's perfectly normal. Trust me when I tell you. Dont look for a girlfriend, she'll find you
  • Not at all. You should consider yourself virtuous. We have an obligation to save ourself for marriage. You have a special gift to offer your wife that many others have already lost. Hold onto that. Continue to guard your heart. Hopefully you are going to college. I believe that it is wise to wait until you are nearing completion of college before you consider a girlfriend. That way your wife will be someone that holds the same interests as you. You will also be prepared to take care of her and will be financially able to provide for her. PLUS, the best thing of all is that you have saved the most precious gift for your wife. That is awesome. Some colleges have a group of students that are pledging to be a virgin until marriage. The campaign is called True Love Waits. You can find out more at: http://www.lifeway.com/tlw/faq/leaders.asp Keep up the good work. I am proud of you.
  • Omg get a life loser I had sex when I was 16 and I have had a boyfriend since kindergarten
  • that doesnt make you a looser at all you will get a gf when you find the person you rerally like & you will have sex when you're ready ivegt a bf bt we still havnt done anythn i guess its bcso were not ready it will hapn when both people are ready
  • No, you are not a loser. In fact, you aren't missing out on much when it comes to dating before 18. Seriously.
  • your not a loser you just need to know that you cant live without love your whole your going to want comfort just try once in a while
  • of course not! you will find a perfect girl for you who hasnt have a boyfriend or sex either and will be crazy about eachother there are so many people who havnt had or done those things at your age or older and you have plenty of time to find the perfect person for you
  • no u are definantly not a lozer, in any way at all. I mean it's perfectly fine that you've never had a girlfriend, the right one will come for you some day. And the thing about sex, according to the Bible you shouldn't even be having sex, until your married. There's more to life. The right one will come someday, and if your friends are being stupid about it then just ignore them. christian-advice@hotmail.com
  • Absolutly not. you want that first time you have sexually intercourse to be with the person that you want to be with the rest of your life. you dont just want to do it with some loser because you feel like being 18 should want you to have sex. who cares what other people tell you you wanna wait for someone special
  • NOO!! WHEN TIMES COME YOU WONT BE A LOSER!
  • No. You're not a loser. My boyfriend never had a girlfriend until 17, and his first girlfriend is me. One of the reasons I like him to begin with is because he doesn't date just anyone. He's 18 now and is still a virgin, but that doesn't change how I feel about him. I still love him. Yeah... you're definitely not a loser. :)
  • Not at all.
  • Hey man, im 19 and Ive never had a girlfriend or kissed properly or had sex. I guess im just waiting for the right girl to come along and I know that she will be in the same boat i am! If you truly love someone,and they love you back they will respect who you are, not what you havn't done dont worry about it!! when the time comes, you'll know!!
  • its ok...i mean my mom didnt until she was 19...and its not bad if u havent had sex or a girlfriend...as long as u have kept ur mind on school and ur education during those times its ok...ur being smart...if ur shy that might be a problem too...try talking to girls and it will help...alot of my friends had the same problem and i helped...its ok...ur not a loser because of that...ur just a smart nice guy who girls are afraid to get ahold of...u dont have to be some pump football star to get a gf or have sex...its ok ur just being smart and keeping ur mind on school...it'll come to you soon
  • Hey the whole sex and dating thing is really overrated,look at the bright side you never had to deal with heartbreak,never had to deal with all the drama of a relationship..You are perfectly fine. Who cares what people think..Just live life,nobody has anything to prove to nobody and you dont have to do what everyone else in society is doing..Follow the beat to your own drum.
  • I am 21 and have never held hands with or kissed a girl an not too concerned about it. live life and love it, there is a lot of fun to be had, go adventuring and let the girls come later. my dad didn't get married till he was 27 and I am still around. and my grandpa didn't marry until he was 30 (though he had to fight in WWII so things were a little delayed for him)
  • I think your grammer and sentence structure make you a loser. All that other stuff is normal, it'll get better.
  • No, that makes U a 1 in a Million Winner! Today U'd think there was a contest for Kids to have Sex at the Earliest Possible Age like it was "Big Magic" or something! Why start life behind the 8 Ball??? Get Established in Life First Learning all about Urself forming "Norms & Standards" so U can properly Integrate into Society. John
  • dats just soo wrong to hav never had a gf and yuur 18 im 13 ffs and had 7 girl friends on and off and my 1st girl friend was 2 years ago i was 11 it lasted for 6 months i have lasted longest for 7 months i must say yuu need to get one oh an im sowi if ive offended yuu but its just the way i feel
  • hi. im almost 18 and though ive had sex b4, i made sur it was with some1 i was with for a while, infact its alomst 2 years. it just means that you havnt found the right person to love. but you will. just dont be shy and be nice and funny and girls will come to you. :D kysky
  • nahh its fine when you do have a girlfriend and you two do have sex shell appreciate tht your not the type who goes around sleeping with random women. Your fine just chyll and things will happen naturally
  • Having sex just to fit in is a bad idea, and can lead to harsh disappointment. Especially when it concerns the girl. And you're only 18? It's no big deal. You're still a kid, as far as I see it. You still have time to let loose. Your 20s is a time meant for fun. Btw, I did not have any real relationship until after I graduated high school. I am comfortable with that.
  • No. The people who answer yes to your question of whether or not you are a loser can not see the situation from both sides. If you are saveing your-self and waiting for marrage, I respect you. It also depends on whether you are ready for a sexual relationship. When you add sex into the mix, more feelings and thoughts are invloved and in the long run makes the entire relationship more complicated. And these relationships where it is just for the sex don't work. One person usually ends up getting their feelings tied up into the relationship. Just wait until you think you are ready. Don't conform to society. You should'nt have to change your-self for others to like you. I personally know a few men who are older than you who have decided not to have sex untill they are married. It takes alot of dedication to make a decision like that. I have the utmost respect for these people.
  • no not at all. you have your whole adult life ahead of you to do that
  • No you are not considered a loser you just feelthat way because you are probably listening to what everyone else is telling you but jus wait when the time is right you will know it just dont rush it be patient. Wait as long as you can
  • Boy, you are normal. I'm twenty, a virgin, and still happy. I've met some guys, but not the right one yet;consider yourself a normal person. I'm a girl and that's how I can perceive you...
  • the time will come when you will fall in love. patience is all it takes. and "no" it doesnt make you a loser, it's probably the area you live in, or your confidence to ask out a girl.
  • No not at all, dont rush into having sex. I rushed into it and had a one night stand. You want your first time to be special. Keep patient. It will come.
  • If you consider yourself a loser because you haven't had sex or a girlfriend then it's a problem. You have to think about it differently than I'd imagine you do. It's not a good idea to ever go out looking for a girlfriend or a hookup... relationships usually end up in four categories; practice for marriage, practice at sex, protection from lonliness or marriage. They can be all of the above or variations but each relationship falls into one of those categories at least. All of these require you to decide what kind of person you'd want to do any of the above with. Your pool of available partners will consist of the people who are interested in the things you're interested in. It's not always the best idea to pursue someone based on an ideal like beauty or popularity, so refine your taste and look for someone you'd have some stuff in common with. Make sure you never settle for someone you don't get along with. Chemistry is the single most important aspect to a relationship. Even though you may judge looks first, the chemistry is the only thing that will power anything past a first meet. So keep that in mind. Never settle for someone because you fear being alone or you won't find someone better. If your relationship sucks that means there's certainly someone better out there. If you're dating someone and you know you could never marry them, do them and yourself a favor and end it. I'm not saying you should only date people you know you could marry, but dating people you could never marry is a waste of time so be aware of the things you don't want from someone as well. When and if you do finally find someone to settle down with remember these few rules: Don't cheat Don't lie Compromise Listen Enjoy If someone would've said this to me at your age I would've spent alot less time worrying there was something wrong with me because I was a virgin. I threw mine away in the back of a car with a girl I barely knew and all it did was let me tell people I've had sex before. It did boost my confidence to the point where I began meeting girls much easier but I still would've preferred it been better than it was. Hope this helps.
  • I lost my virginity after I turned 24. Do you feel like such a loser, now?
  • I think you should have it
  • If your socially inept than it's your fault, or you just haven't found the right girl; get to it buddy because I'm sure you would love to have sexy time with a girl. It happens just get out of your bubble and find some girls
  • You're all good. I didn't start dating till I was almost 19. Why? Because I didn't like anyone enough to date them till then.
  • Of course not. I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 17 or have sex until I was 18 and now I have the blessing of hindsight (I'm 24), I'm so glad that I knew who I was and knew my own mind when I embarked on that stage of my life.
  • Never, ALl you have to do is keep waiting. trust me the longer you wait the better the gift down the road. as hard as that sounds I know, but your no loser due to you not mating with someone or the fact you not having someone. who cares!? are you happy? thats all that matters noone elses oppinion matters! YOU MATTER! and if you care for others oppinions...QUIT!! it will only hurt you later. Best of luck
  • Nope you just haven't found the right one yet.
  • i didnt have sex until i was 19. wait for something good to come along, youll get your moment. dont be pressured to have a girlfriend or to have sex.
  • it is totaly fine
  • you are to young to have intercorse
  • theres nothing wrong with that but your going to be late as far as devolping relationships
  • no just because u doesn't do all of that doesn't mean that u r a loser
  • that's up to you. i dont think there is anything wrong with that. not everyone is having sex.
  • Sex is for marriage. If you have sex without marriage it opens up all sorts of problems. STD's, emotional issues, pregnancy, etc. (We are not even talking religion either. ) It may be old school but it is entirely logical. There is nothing like knowing that my wife has not been with other men and that i have not been with other women. That seems gross to me to even think about! You wanna jack off- go for it. But keep the loving and sex to a committed marriage mate. So if you arent married- not having sex is really cool. You are not a loser. You are wise beyond your years.
  • You are definitely not a loser. That kind of thing is not the way to determine whether someone is a loser or not. Take your time, you'll be glad you did.
  • No, just wait and the right person will come along. You are still only 18!
  • Abousloutley not. You should wait until you have found he right girl. You dont want to have sex with a girl you just started going out with. Or just a girl you been hanging out with. Trust me you will regret it.
  • Nope, you are actually a fancy Gem of the past, when there was a national understanding of what fearing GOD is. You have kept the 7th commandment phisically, I dont know if mentally. But dont worry Sex is for married couples, when you do, I hope you enjoy your beautiful wife. Pastor Monch.
  • your as normal as 99% of the male population!!
  • You are most definitely not a loser. If you are being teasd about it, ignore the teasers. Just be yourself and proud of who and what you are, and let the events happen naturally. You will find someone. You are still very young! I route for the `underdog' or those who don't have much confidence in life
  • dont have sex until your married. having sex before marriage clouds what you think love is and you become more shallow and think of the physical aspect instead of the mental...and no your not a loser, your just one of the lucky ones who fight the urge, and you will end up more happy in the long run
  • hmm . . .i think you should get out more and try harder with making good impressions. this means people will attract to you more and will recognise you and will want to go out with you cos they find you are more intertesting . this could suprise you with the results. they will work sooner than you think ....good luckk (=
  • No, my husband did have a girlfriend finally starting at the age of nearly 19 and was a virgin until we married. At the time he was nearly 23. In no way were either of us losers. So there is plenty of time.
  • Man, I'm pissed off being a virgin at 17! Maybe you're just a nervous person or don't go out enough or something! I know that's my problem. But I wouldn't consider you a loser by the way!
  • maybe you r. depends on what your outlook on life is. maybe you should stop playing video games, get a job, start dressing nicer, etc. u need to build confidence. the only way to do this is to start doing the things your're afraid to do....find your weaknesses and work towards fixing them everyday.
  • It's ok !! As long as you'll not planning to get old ..like 40 and remain loveless ! That would be crap
  • no you are not a loser its normal just becase your not having sex or you haven't had a girlfriend doesn't mean anything don't trip you have a lot of time to do all those things and its great that you haven't had sex yet you want your first time to be special and with someone you love i say wait til your married but its your choice but if you do it before then make sure its with someone you love and as not for having a girlfriend its there lost not yours
  • there is nothing wrong with you. you are taking your time and enjoying life. you are not a loser. i know people who never did anything till they were 22. you are unique and havent given in to peer pressure that is around these days. this is good for you you enjoyed everything life could offer a child growing up. when its about doing these things, girls sex relationships, it is up to you not anyone else. good for you! i wish there were more people who were like you. my worst fear about being a mum is that my child might do these things and worse at 12. (which happened where i grew up.)
  • No, you are not a loser. You have plenty of time and when you find the right person it will happen. I don't know why so many of you pick on poor Richard Simmons. Isn't that quite rude? He is a person with feelings like the rest of us.jmo
  • My boyfriend's best friend didn't lose his virginity, or even have a girlfriend until he was 22. He is VERY good looking and it was his choice to do so. Some people are just nervous around girls. This is okay though. It helps keep unwanted babies at a lower rate. If only the rest of society could follow in your steps we wouldn't hear about babies being dumped in trash cans by their 14 year old mothers. Kudos to you!
  • Loser sounds right to me
  • Well there isn't more to life then having a girlfriend/boyfriend first off. God made us our own special people to spend the rest of our lives with. You all will agree with me when I say life is too hard to handle alone. But 18? that's normal, one day you will see a lovely, beautiful women walking down the street one day, and all you have to do is simply talk to her, tell her you want to get to know her. Love can come at any moment in time, you just have to be patient until god decides it's your turn to fall in love! he gave me my turn early, age 15, and he gave the one I'm in love with his turn at the same time! we both are in love and we know it, we trust god and our hearts to tell us we are. We have been together for over a year now, and the same thing will happen to you and everyone else who isn't in love yet. be patient my friend, and all will come in play. -Jessica Edgell soon to be Zeidler.
  • No you aren't a looser. You will meet the right person one day and maybe the thing she is looking for is a guy who doesn't sleep around.
  • Only if you dont learn to play chess. For you can mate with your queen as long as you like on the chessboard.
  • No you are not a loser.If you were 40 years old then yes but 18, you are still young, you have plenty of time. I was married at 18 and it is way too young to play house. If you are ready to spend some time with a female then go out and meet some girls and go on some dates and see what happens but do not get seriuos with anyone so young.
  • my boyfriend was in the same situation until he met me.
  • Look Im 19... And your not a loser.. Why jump on the ball so quickly to have sex... its scientificly proven, teens who are sexually active tend to get more depressed... And believe me on that. Im depressed.. Its normal.. Youll find your gf one day.. Hey Mabey even tomorrow.. Just be confident. :) And smile lots.. :) Girls will come and go.. Believe me.. Ive had men come and go... And 2 broke my heart .. so, consider yourself so lucky.. Honestly, I wish I could've waited till marriage.. Just the pressure ... It got to me...
  • Hey, as long as you're okay with it, it doesn't matter if the rest of the world's okay with it. And don't let anyone else tell you otherwise.
  • i don't think that it makes you a loser. there's no certain age that you have to do that by. lol
  • you are not considered a loozer!!! i think you should find a girl who you love whos never had sex either; then you two can marry and have that hapily ever after marriage!!!:]
  • it is normal u r not a loser
  • Nope. In other books, maybe. But to me no way! :D
  • Not at all.
  • You are not a loser b/c of that there are lots of people who don't have sex until their college days
  • I need to know more about you i.e. your social life and the company you keep. Are you shy and a loner? Mix with others in social gatherings. This is a problem only if you will allow it. Gain self esteem, and fun to be with.
  • Heck no. I didn’t have sex until my wedding night (nor did my wife), and it’s absolutely *amazing* how much of a bond there is, knowing that each of us saved ourselves for that Eternal commitment. As for never having had a girlfriend, so what? Different people find love at different times. Make the most of the time God has given you. I promise she’ll come along, probably when you least expect it! :-D
  • No you are considered a gem in this world of fornication and unhealthy relationships. Wait for the one. Better yet, wait for Marriage like God says.
  • me think yes
  • its totally ok.. its better never have a gf... just for the fun have onee when u feel in love... with one... never get a girl u dont think of her seriously because u will never have fun having her its gross just wait for the right time... and just wait till ur hearts tells u gooooo
  • there is nothing wrong with you when the right women comes along you will be glad that you saved yourself and so will she me and my partner wish we lost our virginity together so hold on for the right one good luck
  • Come back w/ this question when you're 38! ;-)
  • Ha you're only a loser because you asked "Do I considered a loser?" Keep jerkin' it buddy.
  • Well, some people would consider you a loser, but not everyone would. Different people prioritize different things. Like, maybe you're good at athletics, or at academics, or some kind of arts, or you're economically responsible, or you have a big group of friends, and the list goes on. If you're a great hockey player, to people who love hockey, well they wouldn't think you're a loser. Do you know what you mean? Anyway, it doesn't really matter what other people think. It matters what you think. Is romance important to you? Do you feel a big lack in your life because you've never dated? If so, you should be proactive about that. If not, don't worry about it, and try to surround yourself with people who don't judge you about it.
  • well im 17 and if that makes u loser so am i! lets be so called "losers" together!

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