Sure.

Yes. Absolutely. And I have. Personality means a lot to me. Character is not defined by attractiveness. Neither is intelligence. So here are three very important attributes that easily trump "attractiveness." Personality -- Character -- Intelligence.

Subject: FW: Craig List Ad THIS APPEARED ON CRAIG'S LIST What am I doing wrong? Okay, I'm tired of beating around the bush. I'm a beautiful (spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I'm articulate and classy. I'm not from New York. I'm looking to get married to a guy who makes at least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in mind that a million a year is middle class in New York City, so I don't think I'm overreaching at all. Are there any guys who make 500K or more on this board? Any wives? Could you send me some tips? I dated a business man who makes average around 200 - 250. But that's where I seem to hit a roadblock. 250,000 won't get me to central park west. I know a woman in my yoga class who was married to an investment banker and lives in Tribeca, and she's not as pretty as I am, nor is she a great genius. So what is she doing right? How do I get to her level? Here are my questions specifically: - Where do you single rich men hang out? Give me specifics- bars, restaurants, gyms -What are you looking for in a mate? Be honest guys, you won't hurt my feelings -Is there an age range I should be targeting (I'm 25)? - Why are some of the women living lavish lifestyles on the upper east side so plain? I've seen really 'plain jane' boring types who have nothing to offer married to incredibly wealthy guys. I've seen drop dead gorgeous girls in singles bars in the east village. What's the story there? - Jobs I should look out for? Everyone knows - lawyer, investment banker, doctor. How much do those guys really make? And where do they hang out? Where do the hedge fund guys hang out? - How you decide marriage vs. just a girlfriend? I am looking for MARRIAGE ONLY Please hold your insults - I'm putting myself out there in an honest way. Most beautiful women are superficial; at least I'm being up front about it. I wouldn't be searching for these kind of guys if I wasn't able to match them - in looks, culture, sophistication, and keeping a nice home and hearth. it's NOT ok to contact this poster with services or other commercial interests PostingID: 432279810 THE ANSWER Dear Pers-431649184: I read your posting with great interest and have thought meaningfully about your dilemma. I offer the following analysis of your predicament. Firstly, I'm not wasting your time, I qualify as a guy who fits your bill; that is I make more than $500K per year. That said here's how I see it. Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me, is plain and simple a crappy business deal. Here's why. Cutting through all the B.S., what you suggest is a simple trade: you bring your looks to the party and I bring my money. Fine, simple. But here's the rub, your looks will fade and my money will likely continue into perpetuity...in fact, it is very likely that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won't be getting any more beautiful! So, in economic terms you are a depreciating asset and I am an earning asset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation accelerates! Let me explain, you're 25 now and will likely stay pretty hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in earnest. By 35 stick a fork in you! So in Wall Street terms, we would call you a trading position, not a buy and hold...hence the rub...marriage. It doesn't make good business sense to "buy you" (which is what you're asking) so I'd rather lease. In case you think I'm being cruel, I would say the following. If my money were to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need an out. It's as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating, not marriage. Separately, I was taught early in my career about efficient markets. So, I wonder why a girl as "articulate, classy and spectacularly beautiful" as you has been unable to find your sugar daddy. I find it hard to believe that if you are as gorgeous as you say you are that the $500K hasn't found you, if not only for a tryout. By the way, you could always find a way to make your own money and then we wouldn't need to have this difficult conversation. With all that said, I must say you're going about it the right way. Classic "pump and dump." I hope this is helpful, and if you want to enter into some sort of lease, let me know.

I'll be honest. Frankly, if there were in the same place a real hottie just sitting there mutely, without uttering a peep, not even a fit of cough, and a quite unattractive girl as silent as the hottie, my first instinct would be move towards the hottie. But if the plain girl was speaking, and she seemed brilliant, funny, witty, with a nice personality to show, I'd really like to get to know her, looking forward for a long conversation with her, and, if knowing her better I'd finde she's really so interesting, I'd like to talk with her for my whole life.

To me friendship and love is synonymous. I consider all my female friends as potential romantic, well, really sexual partners. Girls who are below a certain threshold of physical attractiveness, even if they are exceedingly smart or kindhearted or whatnot, I treat with due respect, but in a cool, detached need-to-contact basis, that is nothing non work-related really comes up between them and I. So at the risk of sounding like a pig, no, not really. (Doesn't mean you don't have to be polite with them).

I would, in the past I wasn't and I was ending up with some friends that haven't been the best. I also find it hard to be friends that I find physically attractive because I know I will want more of a friendship if I find them to be really good friends. But either way, if they are a friend, helpful and trusting, we need to keep them. It's harder than most people think to find a friend with all great friendship qualities and you should accept them in any way they come.

Yeah, if she had it going on internally..that is to say, she had a good grasp of the truth, in conservatism of course! This element is highly attractive to a man, even if no other relationship beyond an honest to goodness plutonic friendship is consumated! A woman that seeks the truth in things is totally priceless. Praise God.