Whenever my boyfriend and I have a disagreement, he doesn't ever want to talk about it. He always asks me to leave him alone for a few hours, but then I'm upset and worried. What can I do?
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Pray for him, for the Holy Spirit can deal with him, and if he lets Him, he can change and be more open with his feelings with you like he should be.
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people have different arguing styles you just have to learn to deal with his way of coping with an argument or sit down and talk to him about it
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He probably just wants to cool down. So he doesn't say something he doesn't mean to you. Cause if you keep prodding and asking and bringing it up while you are there then you will make him say things just to get you off his back.
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read "Men are from Mars, women are from Venus", women think differently. Im 27 now and pretty screwed on in the world and it honestly took me until last year before I realised how much it means to give a guy their space. This book really describes how differently us girls think to the guys. Try to imagine how your dad/uncle etc would relate to what you are saying/shouting about!! Do you think they would listen to it? Guys dont listen to us!! I hope it works xxxxx
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Ask him if he is willing to discuss it after he has cooled down and thought for those few hours.
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He didn't say leave him for good, he's asking for a few hours. Stop being so damned needy.
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a lot of men NEED that cool down time. What you need to figure out is if he is using it to cool down and work things out, OR if the time is being used to think up lies to use against you.
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So long as he does finally discuss the issues with you, this seems fair enough to me, in fact quite promising. He knows himself and his reactions, and he obviously doesn't like having to react "on the spot". Respect it and if you need to let your feelings out, write them down or talk to a trusted friend or family member who won't repeat what you say. If he does discuss the issues with you, even if it's a couple of hours later, why are you upset and worried? He's giving you time to calm down and look at things objectively too. Although it might feel better to just "get things off your chest" it can also mean your words are unwise, unreasonable or just said in the heat of anger.
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Well you could always try leaving him alone for awhile like he asked you to. People are different and have different ways of dealing with things. He may just need to regroup and calm down before discussing whatever it is with you. Your being upset and worried will only make it worse.
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Well, women are very verbal and want to jaw jaw jaw. If a man becomes angry he does not tend to jaw he either clams up and withdraws from the situation, or becomes physical. Best leave him alone until you are able to talk about it calmly. However, yes he must talk things out until you both understand each other.
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