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by MRSHINYSHOES on September 29th, 2007
I don't think they were jealous. Surprised? Yes, because you don't see too many Asian guys with white girls--it's usually the other way around. The reason why they were talking behind their backs is because they were probably saying things like "Why would he want a white girl for? There are so many beautiful Asian girls out there. His parents did not raise him properly. There is something wrong with him." I know, because I speak from personal experience.
by MP1116 on April 30th, 2009
Wow. Well, my wife (asian) and I went here:
http://www.eastbuffet.us/
The cook refused to serve us, shaking his head and laughing when we tried to order at the standing kitchen. He blatantly ignored us and helped other customers. He then started making comments in Chinese to the other help standing around, who laughed at us too.
I tried to ignore it but it got on my nerves, so I reported it to the BBB, Mayor's office and NYCPB (Consumer Protection Board).
I find that when my wife and I go into heavily Asian areas, we got dirty looks from EVERYONE, male or female, any age group. Typically, it is because we go into areas that are culturally Asian, not American, hence our relationship is completely unacceptable to them. The feeling that I have "taken one away from them" is likely the cause. It could also be outright hatred...they say white people are the most racist, but that is so far from the truth. The refusal of service was one of the worst things that has happened to us, but its far from the only thing.
Even in our hometown, where interracial couples are common, we were refused service at an American-style restaurant. We, and one other interracial couple, found that we were the only ones still sitting int he waiting area an hour after we were told it would be a "15 minute wait". We were seated behind a wall that blocks our view of the reception podium. When I was on my way up to ask when we were going to be seated, and saw that the rest of the waiting area was empty, I was a little annoyed. When I saw 3 couples come in off the street and get seated, I lost it. We walked out, and the other couple followed us about a minute later. The girl at the reception podium gave us a blank look as we left with a hint of a sneer on it. We never went back.
The fact is, interracial couples will encounter prejudice, jealousy, hatred, or whatever else you want to call it no matter where they go. Even in this day and age, racism and intolerance is one of the worst problems of the human condition.
by Laura_lee on April 21st, 2011
Re: Daniel229 on November 12th, 2010
You should not throw away your Chinese cultural values in order to "avoid racism", just be yourself and stop trying to be a caucasian person when you are Chinese. You are being mean towards your own culture by throwing about your Chinese cultural values. I do not agree with you that "living in American means making your own choices and hopes involving assassinating your own Chinese values. That is very rude of you to say "many of the younger generation of Asians growing up in American prefer to go for a mate outside of their race". I have never heard of that level of whitewashing before coming from a Chinese Asian person before. You are wrong when you are suggesting that caucasian women are in any way better for Chinese men than Chinese Asian girls. You don't have to impose caucasian culture like that on other Chinese people. YOU ARE NOT LETTING other Chinese people making their own choices. You don't have to encourage interracial dating like that by cutting down Chinese Asian girls to support and defend caucasian women. Black hair is the most beautiful. If you go into a Chinese restaurant and you don't get service, you might try asking yourself, could it be because you are mean towards your own Chinese culture. You should be more understanding that perhaps Chinese people who are smart enough not to become mentally ill from being whitewashed too much, that they do not want racial extinction when Chinese men are acting so mean towards their own Chinese culture.
Re: Awesome on December 23rd, 2009
Caucasian girls do NOT tend to be physically more appealing to men as you have said, "Asian mothers don't allow their sons to marry white girls, and somewhat feel threatened....'''
White people can be worse when they are racist, when they are on power trips or think they are in control..are more racist, worse than any Chinese person you are complaining about in Chinese restaurants.
How can you be so mean and racist towards your own Chinese people? You shouldn't even be encouraging that you date mostly white girls with blonde hair.
Chinese girls tend to be more physically appealing to men than caucasian women. Chinese girls are not too short and not too tall. Chinese girls do not look like elephants and do not look like ugly elephants like them. Chinese girls are naturally slim and not too tall and not too short. Chinese girls have nothing fake in their bodies. Caucasian women are wearing fake things, top and bottom, wearing fake things in their bodies.
Guys are supposed to be taller than girls. Guys are supposed to be significantly taller than women. Guys are supposed to be taller than the women they are dating. Chinese girls are 100% more attractive than caucasian women. Chinese Asian guys like you who say, "caucasian girls tend to be physically more appealing to men" are stupid. You are dumb when you have said and are thinking that caucasian girls are more physically appealing to men. You have a stupid brain. You have a stupid brain. Chinese girls can go outside in public and they wear clothes outside in public. Chinese girls wear clothes that are modest, conservative and are geniune, and are 100 times more conservative than caucasian girls.
Chinese girls who marry Chinese men are a lot nicer to their husbands than caucasian women. Caucasian women do NOT tend to be physically more appealing to men!! Chinese girls are natural.
When a Chinese woman married a caucasian man, she will treat him nicer than a caucasian woman, and the Chinese girl will be loyal to her husband, and have a good personality towards her husband. When a caucasian women marries a Chinese man, she tends to have two hearts, one heart for her husband and one heart for another man who is not her husband. The caucasian woman tends to be promiscuous and cheat and have an affair on her Chinese husband. Chinese people eat with chopsticks and Chinese men like you who get married to a white woman will eat with forks and spoons and throw away your Chinese cultural values.
Caucasian women are NOT more physically appealing to me than Chinese girls. Caucasian men who marry Chinese girls, those Chinese girls are 100 times better than caucasian women!!Chinese girls have one heart towards their husbands and are loyal and geniune towards one man.
Chinese Asian mothers who have sons are thinking that Chinese girls are more physically appealing, more polite than white women!! Chinese Asian mothers are thinking that Chinese girls are more attractive, more polite than white women and those mothers are thinking the RIGHT THING!!!!!! Chinese girls CANNOT marry any Chinese Asian man who makes such rude and racist comments towards Chinese girls by saying what you indicated incorectly," Asian mothers don't allow their sons to marry white girls, and somewhat feel threatened because Caucasian girls tend to be physically more appealing to men". Once you have said that, you have THROWN away your Chinese cultural values!!! In addition, Chinese mothers WILL NOT ALLOW their Chinese Asian sons who have said what you said, will allow allow the son to marry a Chinese girl once you have said that. You are stupid for saying that (saying incorrectly) that mothers are threatened by caucasian women because Chinese Asian girls are more physically appealing to men than caucasian girls.
I am a young person and I am smart enough to tell you that it is not true that men find caucasian women more physically appealing than Chinese women. Chinese Asian girls are very beautiful. Black hair is the most beautiful.
by Anonymous on February 9th, 2009
For some people who might be racially-conscious, they view it as someone being "taken away" from their race.
It's possible that the workers weren't jealous or anything, but if they're talking about the couple behind their backs, something's up.
by Shirou on November 21st, 2009
i'm an asian too so i hope this is not offensive..
we all know first asian is famous for "small everything"
And we all know that females sometimes have high standard for guys.. But love is blind and unexpected.. It's not really our place to judge people from what they look like..
And btw,people gossip when they're jealous.. Just ignore them.. Bruce lee did marry a white woman right??
by Daniel229 on November 12th, 2010
This topic hasn't always been up in my mind since I got into high school where I met my first love in whom I'm glad we are still together after 6 yrs and long distances off because of college.
I'm a Chinese born in America and she was German-American with blonde hair/blue eyes.
We faced alot of challenges together some of her friends and mine disagree at first about us getting together as well as my parents took nearly 3yrs to accept her as my girlfriend. Usually when i take her out to eat I try avoiding any asian restaurants because the match is very different because they never seen it before, but over time they learn to accept the way things is, since living in America is all about making your own choices and hopes.
I just want to let it everyone know that it may seem strange at first but many of the younger generation of Asians growing up in America prefer to go for a mate outside of their race
by Ron-T on November 21st, 2009
people do that every day and you notice it only now,ever heard of backstabbing.
by john1023_va on May 27th, 2010
I can tell you it is not jealousy. Chinese people care a lot about their customs. One major factor is the cooking. They are probably wondering how is he going to live a normal life eating burgers and pizza. We chinese people can't image living on an American diet. It will be a lot different the other way around, b/c in Asia, the females do most of the cooking at home. Food is not the only issue. Children is another major factor. In Asian cultures, older generation regard the continuence their lineage to be highly important. Especially when their last name is passed on to a foreign baby, it is out of the norm. Also white women have the sterotype of being promiscuous. They are probably asking something about that also.
by hyphen on December 28th, 2009
I'm an American of Chinese decent and my girlfriend is English of Swiss decent. My gf and I don't often get those type of reactions. Instead they are more interested in us because she's more fluent in Mandarin and Cantonese than I am. Also, it's more acceptable because I look Chinese-American, not Chinese-Chinese. (Basically, I don't have stereotypical features) I'm also a 3rd generation American, which means that we are more of a liberal family that accepts different cultures and are more tolerant compared to other people.
However, when we went to China for a visit, there was an old lady that gave us death threats. That did hurt our feelings but we eventually brushed it off.
We tried to understand them in a different cultural anthro-perspective. It is less about "taking my people away" but more of the idea of homogeneous and collectivist society.
They were born into a country that tries to strive for harmony in a homogeneous and collectivist society, therefore, accepting inter-racial relationships is something new for them. They, particularly the older generation, have a different understanding of relationships.
by hyphen on December 28th, 2009
I'm an American of Chinese decent and my girlfriend is English of Swiss decent. My gf and I don't often get those type of reactions. Instead they are more interested in us because she's more fluent in Mandarin and Cantonese than I am. Also, it's more acceptable because I look Chinese-American, not Chinese-Chinese. (Basically, I don't have stereotypical features) I'm also a 3rd generation American, which means that we are more of a liberal family that accepts different cultures and are more tolerant compared to other people.
However, when we went to China for a visit, there was an old lady that gave us death threats. That did hurt our feelings but we eventually brushed it off.
We tried to understand them in a different cultural anthro-perspective. It is less about "taking my people away" but more of the idea of homogeneous and collectivist society.
They were born into a country that tries to strive for harmony in a homogeneous and collectivist society, therefore, accepting inter-racial relationships is something new for them. They, particularly the older generation, have a different understanding of relationships.
by V-MaN668 on January 17th, 2010
Asian males are fools if they are with Caucasian females. Funny thing is from what i've seen it wont last long. Caucasian only likes their own kind but they seem to joke and play around with a different race. I dont understand why asian men fall for caucasian females because racism is still at large and asian people get racist comments from caucasian. My personal experience is although i live in the U.K. around caucasian people that doesn't mean i need to date a caucasian person just to make myself fit in. That's why asian males are plain stupid getting in on with caucasian females. I dont know is it a trend these days but what happened to family honour and generation, i bet your great great grandparents would disagree with caucasian with asian couples. Look at hong kong back then, caucasian took over it, plain greedy and big bullies in my opinion, taking a piece and everything and thinking they are a better race. China is at power so i dont know why you people mix the culture up with caucasian individuals.
by Anonymous on February 14th, 2010
I think it's sad when people are so against mixed couples. And it makes me mad when I hear Asain guys say all white girls are racist and just pretend to like asain guys. That is so not true. I'm a white girl and I like only like Asian men they are the only guys I will look at(unfortunately I have never really been friends with a person of Asian descent, I feel to shy to talk to people) anyways when I told my family they were like why Asians? and my grandmother had nothing good to say telling me I should only be with white men. That made me so mad ..... I get a lot of comments when I say I like Asians, some people make fun of me but I can't help who I like. I think because of all this I get embarrassed in front of Asian guys and I think there is no way they like a white girl when there are so many cute Asian girls.
by drake_onian on May 19th, 2010
I am an asian gay male who has dated every type of person from puerto rican to indian to black but mostly caucasian. Funny, I'd always thought I'd end up with a black guy. I grew up in a very diverse society (Hawaii) and most of my relatives are mixed race. Even I have a little bit of Portuguese (8%). My sister is dating a full Japanese guy so they will have kids that are 3/4 Japanese. My parents don't care what race we marry since they have the ability to see beyond the superficial. I currently live in New York City which is also VERY diverse and there is definitely a noticeable amount of asian-caucasian relationships here. Whereas in Hawaii, asians would marry African Americans, Caucasians and Latinos, New York seems overwhelmingly prone to the asian-caucasian mix which makes me wonder what the other races must think. What do Black and latinos, who commonly marry, think of this other combination? Do they feel excluded? I jokingly told my boyfriend, who is Norwegian, Irish and Italian, a Chris Rock joke that should the revolution come, his ass would be first to go. Of course, should a revolution ever truly come I would protect his life with my own. I guess that's just love, which for me has nearly nothing to do with race.
by member777 on April 20th, 2010
I am a successful and good looking Chinese American guy that attracts beautiful and intelligent women of all ethnicities. This posting comes as a surprise to me as I have never been refused service at any establishment when accompanied with a white female, in fact it’s quite the opposite. I am frequently given preferential service at restaurants and invited to events hosted by the wealthy/attractive crowd in the LA and SF areas.
The restaurant that refused service to the interracial couple was probably in some Asian ghetto run by backwards bitter old Chinese folks. I’m sure that if this couple went to a bar in the hills of Kentucky for some hillbilly moonshine, they would be refused service as well, but I’m sure they can live with that.
If you are a successful and attractive person in any modern city in the world, you can date whomever you want and will be treated better than the average citizen regardless.
A large proportion and possibly the majority of influential Asian Americans in this country married or only date Caucasians. This list includes Kristi Yamaguchi, Connie Chung, Tiger Woods, Bruce Lee, Lucy Liu, Elaine Chow (former Secretary of Labor).
I am now married to a gorgeous blue eyed blonde and our offspring will be genetically superior [1] than our “purebred counter parts” and they will go on to conquer the world!
[1] http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200512/mixed-race-pretty-face
by Awesome on December 23rd, 2009
I'm an asian male and I mostly date white girls with blonde hair.
And they aren't surprised, they are most likely being racist.
How do i know this? Asian mothers don't allow their sons to marry white girls, and somewhat feel threatened because Caucasian girls tend to be physically more appealing to men.
My mother doesn't even know I date white girls.
While Asian fathers don't care who their son or daughter dates as long as the person they're dating is decent.
Asian mothers do allow their daughters to date white guys though.
And what I've also noticed is that many Asian men are starting to date white girls.
Especially the younger generations. There are more Asian male and white female couples at my school because Asian males are starting to open their mind.
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***If other tell me what it is*** I just wonna know how may girls have been treated like I have in the past.
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You're reading I saw an Asian male-White female couple today at a Chinese restaurant, it seemed like the workers at the Chinese restaurant seemed very surprise and jealous and I can tell they are talking a lot about the couple behind their backs, why is that?
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Agreed...that's another possibility. I'm white but I happen to prefer and have always preferred asian women. It's not unheard of for an asian man to prefer white women, and thus get some negativity from "his own people" (I don't like saying it that way, but you know what I mean).
by MP1116 on July 18th, 2009
I do. Lol. It's becoming more common now. I dated a white girl when I was younger and there was always a lot of "talk" from "my people" (I'm half Chinese, half Japanese). We broke up eventually as we grew older, partly from pressure reasons, but she still loved me. :)
by MRSHINYSHOES on July 18th, 2009