How do you stop the tears after your first love breaks up with you?
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ANSWERS: 43
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You can't. It is natural and you can't stop it. Time will heal. It is ok to let go of tears.
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Jack D., Tequila and Bacardi 151.
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You dont. You allow the emotions to be processed in a normal and natural manner.
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Move onto your second love.
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Your first love will not be your last love. Crying is part of dealing with your loss. Don't fight the tears. Memories last a lifetime. Try to remember the good times. Let go of the bad. Trust me. You'll have them forever. From an old song: Only love can break a heart; only love can mend it again...
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Find someone better.
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drowning your sorrows is not the answer. tried that and wound up wasting an entire year of my life.
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only time heals pain....there are many more to come
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You don't need to stop them. However, here is my advice: Cry, but don't mope. Don't feel bad about yourself just because your 'first love' broke up with you. It's not worth it. If you're a writer, you can try writing poetry. It can help. Anyway, I hope everything gets better for you.
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For me, it was the Beach Boys. Sad, sappy music that let's you cry it all out and THEN you pick yourself up and move on with your head held high.
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The only thing you can really do is to let it all out. Only TIME will heal that type of wound. Just tell yourself that you will be ok.
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creative expression is usually a good release. but another way to deal with it is to just keep busy.
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you can't, sometimes i still even cry.
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go out with your mates get wasted and hook up with someone new a you'll relise there are plenty of fish in the sea
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I would be very sad, but I would try not to let the sorrow consume me. Concentrating on positive thoughts and maintaining interest in people and things around me, would help me adjust and move on from the break up :)
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I know you don't want to hear it but, time will do that for you.
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NEXT! (#2).
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You can't, so don't try. Just cry as much as you need to, and make sure you stay around your friends, I guarantee they will make things seem better by getting you to laugh, looking at the brighter side of things, etc. As time passes, you'll cry less and less, and eventually things will start to seem ok again. I promise. Just hang in there, and make sure you talk to people about what you're feeling. It's a good way to get closure on the whole thing and put it in perspective. I'm sorry for your troubles, believe me, I've been there several times. It seems like you just want to die and that life has become meaningless. Those feelings will pass, and you'll be happy again someday.
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oneday you will look back and thank god for the breakup because you could meet someone who is better for you in the long run. usually do too..good luck wipe the tears away and say your worth more than for someone to break your heart.
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I would stop crying by telling myself that -no person is worth my tears ,then listen to really good music or go out partying or watch some really funny movies or go shopping ,just do what you want to do. It will take time but you will go back to normal once you tell yourself that you want to move on in life .
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With time, it is amazing how time works as a healer.
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they havent stopped for me.
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you cry until you have no more tears .. they might stop then =/ sry . its not easy
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You have to let it all out. Until you are ready to let go thats when it will get better and you will stop crying and move on. You will feel better in time, it takes a while to get over someone you love, no matter how long you were together for it could be months or years, but its still going to hurt like hell inside. The pain will still be there inside but i promise it will get better in time. No matter how many loves you have it will never get easier to get over someone it will always hurt for a while.
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Let the tears come.......Mourn your loss and it would help if you knew the truth of the breakup. This may help you for future relationships.......Hang in there...I feel for you.
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if you try to keep the tears from falling you will only feel more pain. when i broke up for my first time i was heartbroken and i kept it all back untill i had built up so much stress i swore never to date again. but when i let go an let my self get over it all on it's own i ended up with a husband and 2 kids and i love them all!!! <3
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You can stop them? I'm pretty sure it's the same as when someone close to you dies. Don't you just have to wait for it to sorta go away?
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Time. That's the surest cure. Also, keep yourself busy. The more occupied you are, the less likely you are to have time to focus on the breakup etc...
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You don't, but realize this will be the worst break up. After you survive this, you will know that you will survive in the future, so future heart break is not as severe. (At least it wasn't for me.)
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you go find a better man and then u know it was nothing special
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Imagine him in stockings and high hills chasing a rooster - you gonna burst out laughing, and the tears will go away.
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they havent stopped for me yet either, and we have just been broken up for about 2 months. I know we are never getting back together because hes going to college and iam moving away. Wish there was somebody out there that would show him just how much I love him because he dont relieze just how lucky he is.
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You cannot stop it. You just let it happen. Eventually the tears will stop and you will be able to live and love again. Just let them happen...let them happen:)
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honestly you can't. It's really hard and hurts a lot. My suggestion is go out with the girls/guys and have some fun try to get your mind off of it.
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m first love never broke up with me he went away and asked me to wait for him and i did for 3 years then when he did come back he had another gf and baby in tow but time healed all the pain but it could never heal completly
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have him break up with you in an email at work. Where you can show any emotion. I think that is what did it for me. be somewhere where you can't cry.
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im wondering that too. because im still in denial. i cant see my life without him.
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I did it by TRYING TO CRY. And then I farted and laughed so hard that I couldn't cry.
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I hope you're done crying.
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Being with friends helps so much...daily laughter is medicine that cant be bought over the counter...
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you don't. just let it all out and you'll feel better in time to come.
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Try to keep as busy as you can and time will take care of it... I know it hurts like heck... just hang in there
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Umm... They stopped themselves after a few months... Anyway, most people would say throw anything that reminds you of them away... However, you cannot throw away memories, and they are what torture you. I suggest keeping everything. Why? It'll make you stronger. You shouldn't let others put you through pain, so train yourself to be emotionally stronger (not saying to be non-emotional or heartless, just more tolerant of pain). Those little reminders will push you to your limits but you must endure it. You'll be better off if you happen to go through another break-up and you'll find it easier to move on. I know I'm a guy, but gender has nothing to do with pain from love. I know good and well what it's like to shed tears from your first break-up. Keep your chin up and try to smile, okay? Also; try to stay strong. Depression really isn't good for your health... Trust me. Hope this helps. :)
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