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If he has financial aid that will be adversely affected by your income, WAIT! I got married while still in school and lost a lot of my benefits. Otherwise, do what feels best for both of you. As the time passes, people will learn to accept the differences. Best of luck to you!
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If you got your shit togethor, and he has his, i dont see why you can't have kids. Just make sure they are taken care of, there is nothing worse than kids with parents that dont have their shit strait.
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And your ethnicities matter because?
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Our parents are all rather traditional (mine are American/British, and his are Chinese immigrants) as a result of their respective cultural biases, all of them find the age thing rather alarming. My family also doensn't like that my fiance is from a poor/struggling background - his family is from mainland China and is having a hard time in this country. My fiance got started late in college as a result of dealing with his family matters so isn't settled with his career yet. Long story short: my family would rather see me with an older, richer caucasian man and doesn't support this relationship very much.
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Age is an issues. I really don't know how long ur relationship will last. I would say wait it out b4 getting kids. Once he graduates and gets a job, he may decide to "upgrade" and move on to someone younger.
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Young men really change A LOT when they get older. Even if you marry him now and have kids, there is always a good chance he will have a big shift in his perspective. I know this for a fact. My good friend changed so much between the time he was 19 to 24. It was ASTOUNDING. His girlfriend was older and was totally destroyed by it.
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I recently broke up with my fiance since I started this post. I decided it was best to separate because of all the pressure from our families which made my fiance finally crack. He did something stupid under the pressure and flirted with some girls online by starting up a profile for singles on a dating website to see how he felt about me. He said it was a 10 minute experiment which his friend put him up to. After I found out he did this I told him I wanted to break up. He was devastated and begged me to come back. I won't, because his actions were a deal breaker for me unfortunately. I returned the engagement ring and photos to him. I keep in touch with him every now and again to see how he is doing. I know he still misses me but I will not date him again or marry him in the future, our lives are too different now. He is a good person with many fine traits. I'm sorry that he succumbed to a moment of immaturity which undermined my trust in him. I'm sure he will make a very fine husband to someone someday, just not to me...
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i know a woman who's 11 years older than her husband, and now that she's in her 60s, you can still see the love in his eyes when he looks at her. his family hated her when they married, but she turned out to be the best thing in his life... there is no tomorrow or "what if" do what truly feels right for YOU if the parents' issue is something that in your gut you cant ignore, listen to your instinct, follow your instinct.
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If it was me, I would marry after graduation. And both sets of parents should be happy if the two of you are happy... they're not the ones getting married. Are you two still engaged or did you get married already?
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