Why do some people yell and scream when they are angry, instead of expressing it more calmly?

For some people, like myself, it is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. Again, like myself, ther are medications for this, which ususlly work.

when people say its a lack of self control..I do not agree. When people are hurt constantly all of their lives all the time they change. When nice people who where meek and quiet and understanding were being ignored they turned sour. Im not saying its acceptable tot yell all the time but one thing I dont understand is why do people ignore when people are kind? When you are communicating a postive way...why is that taken for granted? Why is that ignored and then all of a sudden when you yell about it your a jerk. Weren't you the jerk when you took the kindness for weakness?

Reality is people scream in anger because there is an underlying fear to not be heard or understood. Once you know this, you look at a person who is screaming in anger very differently. Have you ever asked an angry person ( and you have to ask them from your heart): " Please, I do not understand what you are saying. What is it you need from me ? " It takes all the aggression away. Most of the time when an angry person feels that they are truly listened to their anger dissipates. Many people in this world are totally frustrated to the point of despair because they feel no one hears them.

The difference lies in how they handle frustration.


Both can be pissed, but the one who handles frustration "better" will be calm about it.

While the one with a low tolerance for frustration will blow a fuse.

There are different ways people react to anger. Soem tend to be very silent while they're angry, while others haev to let it out. IT's just how that is. Although at times it does go too far.

Usually it is because that is what they were taught. We learn how to deal w/ emotion by the people in our envioronment. Something for parents to think about.

i do that sometimes, when im at the end of my tether, i am learning to not let things get that far now. i dont know why i do it. sometimes things just get too much.:)

As A Therapist the reason i give to why people yell is actually quite simple they yell because they feel they are not being heard

you know i have no clue...
most people dont know how to handle they're emotions

I wouldnt yell or screm AT someone - nor in public,... I think people do that because they know no other way to react or respond to their emotions or feelings.
When I am upset or angry I do explode in private a bit.

A few nights ago while driving home I was very upset/angry about something, I couldnt keep it together so I pulled over, and just let it all out. I yelled, I screamed and I cried uncontrollably for 5 mins or so.

After that I felt a lot better, like I had cleared my head or something. I know that may sound strange but It felt good to just let it all out.

I deal with so much stupidity every day that sometimes you just reach a breaking point. I will try to talk calmly to people but most of the time they just sit and nod and continue to do whatever they are doing that is pissing me off. Sometimes you have to put a little fear into someone to get your point across. I don't do it for no reason at all. I have put up with a bunch of crap before im in someones face about it.

Because they are jerks. Because they get away with it. Because they have no self-control.

They panic

Unless we're totally drugged out (or like my English teacher), our mind tells us to take it out on something. Or there's some sort of change going on in your life that provokes you to flip out.

Calm anger? Now you can pull the other one.

Emotion is a funny thing. All people experience emotion and feelings differently since we all have different personalities and backgrounds. Some people may be able to control their emotions more than others. Some people are more strongly effected by the emotions that they feel, and their body reacts accordingly. It really just depends on the personality of a person, and how they deal with emotions in general. A shy, quiet, reserved person might express anger by giving someone the "silent treatment", whereas a loud, outgoing person would probably be more likely to yell and scream. Reactions to emotions can be as unique as the person experiencing them, because no two people will have the exact same personality.

That was the way my mother controlled the family...

to get their way

because they are ANGRY ...GGGGRRRRRR

Maybe the people you are talking about feel like that is the only way people will listen to them.

Personality and past.

LACK OF SELF CONTROL

An auditory person will always react with their voice- talk, speak loudly, then yell and scream.
To the degree that they raise their voice, is the degree of their frustration.

I doubt even you are always rational when you are angry. Why are there people who yell and scream when they are angry? Well, that seems pretty obvious. 'Cause they're angry. I'd rather a person who is angry yell and scream at me than talk to me in a calm voice in a way that makes me think everything is all good and fine! Anyway, if you're angry, it may be a good idea for you to go for a walk... calm down... and then speak... when the anger is gone. Calm and angry at the same time... er, that doesn't sound right if the person is truly feeling calm inside. Not true anger, is it?

emotion rush up and cannot controll over it,or chain reaction for yelling partner

People usually yell, because they have high blood pressure and get upset easily. They know that the person they are yelling at can hear them, but they think it'd be easier to get the point across by yelling and scaring their opponent.