My girlfriend got drunk at a party and made out with a guy. The only reason she admitted it was because her friend told me first. I still want to stay together. What should I do?
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Josh Nunley
ANSWERS: 29
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It's basicaly up to you how much you love her and want to keep her. It's really your decision that nobody can tell you what you SHOULD do. Though, personally, I'd demand that she abstain from drinking at any more parties unless you're there with her. Plus, I'd give her a spanking! (Hey, don't knock it if you haven't tried it :-)
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Hi i am going through the same thing
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Well she was drunk so think about the stupid things that you've odne when you were drunk then think how much you love her and there will be your answer
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I said to her when we spoke in the nicest way. If you should find another guy, measure him against me and if he is equal or greater be with him. But if he is not accept nothing less and she cried and said I never will... she says she knows she f**ked up etc etc
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Being drunk removes inhibitions, so you're more likely to do something that you normally keep buried under your emotions. In this case, if extra freedom caused by getting drunk allowed her to make out with another guy, then that's what, deep down, she wants to do. The alcohol just freed up her inhibitions to allow her to do it.
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tell her that if it happens again that it will end.. i would feel a little better though knowing that she was drunk and wasn't sober..its hard to NOT do anything when your drunk
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Same thing happened to me. I will try and forgive her...she didn't have sex, and this was the first time she cried since I have known her. But its up to you, it depends on her past cheatings(or lack of), and how much u love/like her. Goodluck!
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I'm going thorugh the same thing. My girlfriend of almost 2 years got drunk and made out with her a "friend" of hers who she once dated while she was out of town for the weekend. She told me a short while later. This wasn't that surprising as this "guy" has been hitting on her for our entire relatioship and caught her at a drunk/weak point in judegment. Normally I would just beat this person to within an ich of his life but we have made a deal that I don't do this and she will cut off all communications with him, and never speak to him again. She was very remourseful for this incident and all of her emotions are genuine, she feels horrible as she says I am the most amazing man she has ever known, and I am very good to her. So I am trying to forgive her, but it is not easy as sometimes it just pops into my head and makes me very angry. I hope that these feelings go away or I might have to reconsider things.
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find a semi-decent hotel with a good hot tub. buy a couple of bottles of half-way decent wine. order room service and fuck her happy. ladies and gentlemen-your opinions are solicited
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Tell her she's undependable as a drunk and should give it up for lent. Leave her now, but don't be vague, she'll need to remember your words one day, so make them count! Anyone who drinks enough to act dangerously out of control as she did is destined to break a lot of hearts. Until she stops drinking, she isn't worth warm piss.
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how do you know that she was drunk and, objectively, how drunk was she? it is difficult to maintain your discretion while intoxicated, but, most of the time, alcohol does only free us up to act out on things we'd really like to be doing anyways! i'm touched that her friend was more forthright with you than your girlfriend was - i'd be curious why your girlfriend hadn't told you first. if after this, you want to stay together with her, by all means, do. but, i'd negotiate firmly with her, that she doesn't see this dude again, that she doesn't drink at parties unless you're there, that you find out what it was about that situation that she liked that she wasn't getting in your relationship and then you give that to her so that she is less likely to wander off again. of course, history is the best predictor of future events, so, even with everything in writing, i wouldn't be too surprised if she were to repeat that behavior.
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Being drunk is not an excuse for anything. If you are old enough to drink, then you are old enough to not cheat on a significant other. Leave her, she will just continue to do it.
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Start by kicking his ass!
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It only gets worse from there. Good luck.
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its completely up to you but it was only a kiss seriously does she kick your ass when you kiss your mom at night NO! But i would be alittle upset so just be glad it wasnt anything more and tell her best friend that she should not of came straight to you first she should of given the girlfriend a chance to tell you first!!! but i would stay with her just forgive never forget! but dont be controling! If you honestly couldnt trust her in that situation again to make the right choice then you two shouldnt be together gotta have trust to have a relationship!
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if you want to stay together then learn how to live with the fact that she kissed someone else. :) Good luck. If you have a great relationship and she's truly sorry then maybe you two can work past this little mishap
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And where were you while your girl friend was making out with another guy? I would say you were to blame for deserting your girl. She probably felt alone and lonely and forgotten. You are the bad guy in this scenario. you were probably outside smoking a doobie.
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The next time you're going to a party ignore her a little when you're getting ready, make sure you look great and she knows it, and when you get there leave her and flirt with some girl who looks like she's looking.
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Ultimately you need to decide if you can trust her. If you can't trust her it will be a constant problem with your relationship. Good luck!
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Hey my girlfriend did the same thing once! Lol, she was wasted, 2 days from her period, and pissed at me though. It was the kind of thing she didn't mean to do and once she realized she was doing it she freaked out and ran to me. She didn't tell me that same night but I knew something was up. She told me the next day. But she's not the type to apologize, EVER, but that day she cried for hours and apologized continuously. I love her, she loves me, so we're still together, but she knows if she does something like that again, "I'll be as gone as a wild goose in winter."
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You've gotta decide for yourself whether or not you can trust her. I'd have to say though that I'd be done with her.
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Well, I am assuming that you are young? People do make mistakes, but it is still important to look at all things objectively... Take a break and then step back and observe what she does with the time you give her. If she persues this, or any other guy, just because you have given her a longer leash, then you know she might not be as into you as you are her. But all in all remember that she betrayed you and her friend betrayed her... Do you really want to run in such circles in the first place? Birds of a feather do flock together and since we share DNA on an intimate level with those we keep company with in close proximity, I would be a bit more choosy as to what I allow myself to breathe in and share myself with even on a a molecular level.
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You said in your question that you still want to stay with her so....what do you mean what should you do? If you decide to stay with her then you have to forgive her and stop thinking about it. If you can't forgive her and get past it then you need to think about moving on. A relationship without trust is nothing but a headache and heartache.
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i would try my hardest to stay with her but the fact that the only reason y she told u was because her friend told u could be a problem. she may not tell u eveything so be warry of her and waht she does.
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she's trouble but u knew that deep down didnt u. but u like the excitement she brings into your life...good luck.
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then, stay together, as long as she doesnt want to split up, whats the big deal, just be a little mad, but forgive her...
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don't know what to tell you.... she did not confess, she was caught.
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Well, if you really want to stay together then... Get drunk yourself and make out with some random hot chick. Only then you call it even!
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Dump her immediately. She has a possible drink problem. It is no fun being with an alcoholic, believe me, I know. I am married to an alcoholic. Life is unbearable.
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