Do you think it's wrong to have kids and not ever want to get married?
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Psycho the kid
ANSWERS: 9
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Nope. I personally do not want to get married, but I do want kids. This doesn't mean I will be a single mother, I may have a partner in life, I just don't need a piece of paper to tell me I am in love...
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No. As long as the couple takes care and loves the children, providing a stable environment.
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i was born out of wedlock, so maybe this is where my opinion has stemmed from. i dont believe that people should have to get married to prove to eachother and the outside world that they love eachother. once upon a time it was the ideal 'happy ending' but these days there is so much hype over a wedding like the dress, the cake, the reception, the honeymoon, the guests, the church.....where does 'love' come amongs this!? there are plenty of ways to show your partner that you are commited for example moving in together, having a joint bank account, changing your surname by deedpoll, having children...all of these are relationship milestones that you commit to before you marry. there is no law on having children out of wedlock, it is often much more acceptable these days for that, and i for one certainly do not think that having one without the other is 'wrong', afterall who am i to judge another couples relationship?
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Getting married is, in my opinion, the public announcement. Married or not, you stand by your kids. A good, but not the only, way to do this is for the parents to stay together as a couple indefinitely. A marriage is simply a public announcement that you are going to do that. Which, if it the case, is a nice thing to do.
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In my opinion, yes, I think its wrong to some degree.... I personally made the choice that I don't want children until I am married... I want to raise a family within the bonds of marriage.
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No. I think anyone who can provide a stable home with family/friend support should have children if they want them. There are many reasons people do not want to get married, and with how high the divorce rate is getting married shouldn't be a prerequisite. Love and quality of care is.
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No I actually had 2 kids ages 2 & 1 before I got married and then had my 3rd. I have a cousin whom had children many years ago who are now having grandchildren and he never married his significant other and there still together so basically its like there married without the paper....who cares as long as theres love and stability.
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I do think it's wrong. I don't think people should diminish the importance of the father in the family. They are as important as the mother. Without a Dad, no matter how loving you are and how much family support you get, a child needs and deserves a Dad. But I understand how you feel. I really want children and am running out of time. But I don't have any marriage prospects. It's depressing. In a few years, If I'm in the same boat, I'll adopt from a country that has more kids than they can find families for. In that case, one parent is better than life in an orphanage.
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No. As long as the kids have loving parents. That's all that matters.
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