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  • Being on top is very erotic. You get to be in control. You control the pace of things, so it's great for us girls. And in my experience, they guy likes it regardless of whether the girls on top, bottom, doggie, or anything else =)
  • firstly, dont worry. being on top is lovely for you both, if your worried about rhythm then put his hand on your bum and get him to 'show' you the speed he likes, also try the position so you are crouching so your weight is being lifted by ur feet rather than your knees, this is nice as he can be inside a little deeper and i find i have more control and stamina like this! you can also take it slow and lean forward to kiss him. basically your first time ontop may be a little daunting, i know mine was, but i went out of my way to keep trying...practice makes perfect, and actually the first time i went ontop he enjoyed it alot more than i thought he would! dont be scared, give it a go x
  • I like being on top more then anything else. YOu have a lot of control there. It is little intimidating but regardless, your man will take you in any position. As long as he is getting his.
  • Don't worry about him all of us like sex no matter what. My wife has amazing orgasms on top. Frankly, she refuses to be on bottom. Don't worry, just hop on!
  • Don't be scared being on top is great you can control every move believe me you will love it so will he
  • Most guys like the ladies on top cuz it puts us in control and makes things more erotic. I'm not very good at it, but practice makes perfect, right? Here's a tip: make sure you are well lubed, unless you like pain, it'll be almost impossible for you to push it in yourself if you're dry. Also, it helps if your relaxed and turned on. You need your muscles down there loose. I find "the asian cowgirl" position the easiest to get into, but it does get tiring fast. Here's a link to the pic. http://www.sexinfo101.com/pos/images/w_cowgirl_asian.jpg
  • Being on top is actually easier! Then you can control the movement and I doubt he'll be dissapointed either way!
  • Oh, being on top is the best. He's a guy - he'll be happy. It'll free up his hands to touch - guys are tactile. It makes it easier to see - guys are visual. And as long as you're enjoying yourself, he'll go nuts.
  • I love being on top. He will love it too. Just ride him.
  • Just try it. You may like it. I was really nervous too, but once you get on top do what you feel is good. And if it seems like he isn't enjoying it as much, ask him what he wants you to do. Just try it though.
  • have a talk with your b/f & tell him of your concerns,explain that you are scared,let him guide you & teach you,once you try it,it will get easier each time,communication is important.
  • Just take your time and enjoy the moment. Dont make it feel like its a chore. Set the mood. Foreplay is great before anything, or mix it up too. Make it romantic. well thats actually his job but you know what I mean. Trust me, alot of guys are easy to please. I know this cause im a guy. I know you'll do fine and if he loves you he'll be very appreciative and happy. And if you are willing to break your back then he better do the same in return.
  • Have fun with it. Experiment. There's no right or wrong way, just what feels good and is pleasurable for each of you. Also, remember, you are on top and IN CONTROL. Can't speak for all guys, but I like it when my g/f is on top.
  • Go for it ... then tell him how you want to make love... that's what it's all about ... experimenting with each other where sometimes it will be mind blowing and other times it will be terrible, but if you have a good relationship then you should just be able to talk about it and forget the bad times but enjoy the good times more and more. Personally lady on top is my absolute fave position.... can go on for hours and hours at the ladies pace... mmmm
  • On top is fun,you control the pace,penetration,also allows for free hand to roam anywhere,try it,you will be suprised!!!Trust me, if you are pleased,he will be...
  • Experimenting is part of the fun. I say go for it, don't be so unconfident. I was lucky enough to have my first time be with another virgin and to be honest, sex only got better. Lucky for me he knew how to please but I've never felt unconfident about the positions we tried or the things we did. And if it didnt work out the first time, we always tried again.. it was fun and amazing. Good luck with it! The both of us also read alot of cosmo soo hey, maybe read a few of them before to get some insight on things and boost your confidence? There are always helpful tips, and fun new ways of pleasing your partner. It's never failed me.. or him! haha
  • It's easy, just hop on and ride it like a horse.....YEEEE HAAWWWWW
  • Tell him about your concerns and have him help you. being on top is great for both of you and really fun once you get the hang of it:)
  • You could turn around and not face him, that might be easier for you. hehe
  • i was nervous my first time on top too, but now it's one of my favorite positions. Have your man guide you the first few times and you will get the hang of it, before you know it you will be climbing on top without him having to ask and you will know exactly how to move to make it really good for you and him.
  • ....Lot's of women go throught EXACTLY how you feel... The Feeling of being on top is not only exciting and fun but it's SCARRY as HELL...Light Camera Action your in the SPOTLIGHT!!!! And of course you may be experiencing a little woman on top fright but it's ok... This is normal..just take it a step at a time let him know how you feel about and I promise he isn't going to laugh at you or get mad if you do it wrong. It's almost a flawless position do what feels right.Try all different direction and even position yourself ontop in a different area besides the bed like a chair or couch or even the floor....Listen to music the first time and just move with the rhythm or cover his eyes or make him close his while on top it may make you feel more comfortable.Then once you feel comfortable let him open them. Just take your time and have fun.Sex is educational and healthy...it's somewhere for you and your partner to grow together ..trust me with experience you'll both get better and feel more comfortable with what you are doing. Express yourself sexual....and have fun ... (Get lots of advice and make your own decisions )
  • Just be confident... he will never know the difference. turn the lights down low and wear some nice lingirie (sp?) he will be so inticed with what you look like he will probably take you off him throw you on the bed and have his way with you...lol...
  • Believe it or not if you learn how to ride on top that is the greatest orgasm you can have while having intercourse. You won't experience it with everyone but if you luck up and get the right person woe you can have the greatest orgasm. When I first tried to do it I felt very uncomfortable like I didn't know what in the world I was doing. A man taught me and I have only been able to come with that one person but I have been able to make the man come while being on top.It's good if you have something to hold on while your rocking back and forth even if it's the mans arms or a bedframe to allow you to rock back and forth.
  • He'll like it. I can almost guarantee you that. My girlfriend being on top is honestly my favorite position. And, no, that's not because I'm lazy. ;)
  • Just get on him and act timid if you are but with a smile on you (most men like to be teased) ask him how he wants it start moving slowly and eventually that'll be a good start and if you still dont feel comfortable then tell turn him over.
  • Make sure he holds the ladder and make sure you wear footwear with a good tread on them . When you get to the roof jump up and wedge your foot in the gutter. Don't look down and slowly climb up the slate. What's he want you up there for anyway ?
  • tell him how you feel about being on top and let him know that he needs to guide you on how to please him. the first time may be awkward to you but practice makes perfect. dont worry about being nervous about it, he should understand. just make sure you two communicate during sex.
  • GET IT ON!!! GO ON TOP! ME AND MI LESBIAN GIRLFRIEND LOIS DO IT ALL THE TIME!!!
  • if you havnt done it yat! dont doit,its so uncomfortable ask him how feel when he on top.hahaha
  • jus get on top and shake your ass and it so simple
  • i think the best thing to do is try it and see wat happens, maybe you will be suprised
  • Try it, I'm sure you'll like it. And don't worry, just ask him to tell you what feels good to him, and do what feels good to you...he'll enjoy just having you on top of him being able to see all of you.
  • I love being on top- ohhhh glorious! Actually one of the best things is just the fact that you have complete control if you want it. My boyfriend goes nuts when i tell him that he cant touch and i put his hands above his head and then i start moving up and down slowly. Evenually he cant take it anymore and pulls me down onto his chest and then he starts thrusting- TRY THAT! WOWZERS!!!! hahaha
  • When he sees you bieng in control and in action he will see that he does not force you into having sex. He will see your involvement in it. He will be very happy. Try it.
  • you will never know unless you try it..like any man he will be satisfied..and you might find this position more pleasing for you than him.give it a try..noting to loose and plenty to gain
  • dont worry about it he'll love it im a man and it's my faverite persition all the fun of sex and half the effort lol
  • ride 'em cowgirl! i only orgasm when i'm on top and i love being in control.
  • get him to teacher you while your on top ask him to show you how to it that way you will be able to please him the way he wants thats what i did!!!!
  • the one thing about being on top that i like is that i can control the force and how deep...sometime he thrust a little too rough and hits my cervix...whenever i'm on top that doesn't happen...once you get on top just move and watch his face. he can also guide you some. it's not too scary. you'll be fine.
  • go for it hell love it
  • take it slow at first, do what feels comfortable to you. You are in the driver's seat and will be in total control. It's a fun position and you will feel completely sexy.
  • Its my first time too on top my boyfriend realy wants me to go on top buh how do i start and were i put my legs ? help
  • just hop on and ride it like u stole it
  • The beauty of a good sexual relationship is that there is no right or wrong. Do what you are comfortable with, what feels good and what turns you on. Once you approach it like that vs. whats right or wrong, it will be truly be hot, sexy and an ever evolving adventure. And should he be critical and unresponsive to your actions it is a clear cut sign that you got yourself something worth ending.
  • your overthinking, don't be scared, once you get there, you will know what to do, it's natural, just do what feels good, and what he responds to.
  • Honey, the girl-on-top position gives *you* control of the entire experience. You control the depth of penetration, the angle of entry, the relative body positions. And you have control of a dozen or more different kinds of hip and vaginal movements. If you, like most girls, like him to kiss your breasts and stroke your bottom, you've made it possible for him to do both while he is sliding, plunging, or rampaging in and out of you. So, unless he has a two-inch pecker, it will increase his pleasure, as well as yours, tremendously. My ex had a stroke that was ecstatic for both her and me: instead of pumping her hips, she would sit with my member inside her to the max, then slide her hips back and forth with a rocking motion. The result was that it banged my phallus repeatedly on her G-spot, and gave her friction on her clitoris, which *she* controlled. For further comments, read the "Kama Sutra," the "AnangaRanga," or "The Joy of Sex," or get back to me for more details. HOWEVER, if you're scared and don't know how to please him, then you're probably FAR too young to be screwing anybody. Sublime sexual pleasue is NOT FOR CHILDREN.
  • the first time on top can be nerve racking especially if the guys staring at you whilst your doing it! hes staring because he wants to see your body because your ontop it turns him on. but if you dont like that thought of making eye contact the first time then try the reverse cowgirl google image it youll find it there lol just adjust yourself to how you find it pleasurable and look out for those moans and moments when you can tell he is being pleasured, even the thought that your enjoying being on top would pleasure him.
  • get on and enjoy the ride. You will be the driver, you may enjoy it more...than you expect.
  • My first time was so awkward. I thought for sure I would screw it up, and i did. So i tried again and again until i finally got it. Now im like saddle up cause here i go again. lol. It is awesome. Practice does make perfect and although it may take a few turns to get it right it is well worth it. Nothing like being in control!!!
  • You never make love TO that person. You make love WITH that person. For the sake of the younger folks who read these answers, I won't get very graphic. I'm sure you can use your imagination. I AM A VERY fortunate man. I had the wonderful experience of seeing my parents, both sets of grandparents and all my aunts and uncles behave as though they were constantly on their honeymoons with their spouses. They would hold hands, cuddle, hug, kiss, whisper things to each other, say, "I love you, _____!" and carry-on like many young people, who are in love, do in public. They would smile at each other and tell each other how beautiful, wonderful and thoughtful she was and how thoughtful, wonderful and handsome he was! WOW! What a great set of romance role models! No, I never watched as they were making love in the most intimate way, but I DID see and learn from their examples and inter-actions with their spouses! As far as I know, no one ever cheated on the other. That being said, one day my mother's father got in the car with me. I was driving him to the track. He "LOVED those ponies"! He was well-aware of the relationship I had with the lady I was dating and who would one day be my bride. He said words similar to these: I know your father told you what to do, but did he ever tell you how to do it? I answered, "No". He went on to say, "I'm going to tell you some things I don't think you'll learn from any one else. When you have sex, make love or whatever you want to call it, you don't behave like most other men. Most men are just interested in one thing and one thing only - satisfying their own selfish selves. That's NOT the way to do it. You have to make absolutely certain she is satisfied. No matter how long it takes or what you have to do, you have to do whatever it takes to make sure she does what she likes to do best. You HAVE TO satisfy her first. Your brain is the most important sex organ. Your brain controls what happens downstairs. When you aren't sure about what to do or how to do it, ask her what she wants you to do. She'll tell you or she'll show you. When you're making love, you think of other things - not what's going on at that particular moment with that particular lady. When you think about what you're actually doing, I guarantee you'll never satisfy the lady in your life. He went on to explain about holding hands, hugging, kissing, caressing and taking things one step at a time. He described a lot of things I heard of but wasn't sure about. During that ride, one of the last things he said was: When you are absolutely sure she is satisfied, then you can do what you know is best for you - but not one minute before. That's what I was told. Thank you, Gran'pop. I love you. I miss you! Some afterthoughts: You could also buy a book, on-line, called "Kama Sutra." You could also go on-line and make the investment in some "adult sex toys" to stimulate and arouse. There are LOTS of sites. Thanks for asking your Q! I enjoyed answering it! VTY, Ron Berue Yes, that is my real last name! Sources: My wonderful family! "THE University of Hard Knocks" also known as ("a/k/a") "life's valuable lessons"
  • Ask him to coach you through it and not to stop there. It's not a medical exam so don't be so fricken shy. It's about exchanging emotions and interests not probing for debate topics. Have fun dang it.
  • Ask Him How He Likes It :) You Might Like It. Him As Well ;)
  • I looove being on top. You have total control. I love being able to tease him and watch his face. Don't forget to touch yourself...let loose and have fun with it. Sometimes I forget someone's under me and I just have fun. He He He!
  • Haha, sweetheart, that is the best thing about sex. just trying new things and seeing if you like it. It isnt the end of the world if you or he dont like it ( but trust me you will both like this one ). Dont stress about sex so much. Trust me, usually the guy is just happy that you are naked and willing. Anything else is just frosting. So go grab your boyfriend, get naked, and ENJOY.
  • im the same way so can someone give us ladys more advice
  • Get on up and do whatever feels good for YOU!! Trust me when I say as long as there's plenty lube and friction involved he'll be happy!! Plus he gets the view and has both hands free to explore your breasts and get a little action going on your clit to really rev things up. Or if he is really the voyeuristic type, you lean back a little and work your own clit. You'll get what you want and he'll be in total heaven!!
  • Girl I felt the same way. This is what you should do.... you should hop on and just start riding until he starts holding your waist and show you how he wants it. That's what I did. I use to deny my man and tell him that I'm not with it but after him asking me time after time I wanted to please him so I just hopped on and do the shit out of him!!!!!!!!! Try it and be safe girl!
  • girl i totally understand!! felt the exact same way for about 3-4 months actually, i just wouldnt do it because i was afraid he would look at me different or just not like it. i felt embarrased and nervous. but trust me when u get up the courage to do so, it will be great! actually i dont know if you drink... but i had a couple shots to loosen up lets just say i been on top every since. you will enjoy it and he will enjoy it to.
  • I was terrified, kept putting it off.Even though i wanted to try it. One night I went for it, and i was so tense i just couldn't. I very nearly freaked out. I remember him holding me,telling me to calm down. I thought i was ready then... but i guess i got that worked up about it. Thankfully, we went on holiday a couple of weeks later and i just 'got on top' for a little while, then changed back to normal missionary. I went really slow, and gently put his hands on my hips and gently held them there.. so he could help me get the right movement etc. He told me afterwards how romantic it was that i did something for him. So I tried again a couple more times for longer each time... then finally managed to feel so on top of the world... it was amazing. The best sex we'd ever had. Go for it. If he cares for you, he'll help you.. and it will make you closer. Because i was letting go and enjoying myself and forgetting everything, he loved it so much more.
  • I personally like a girl to go on top purely for her physical pleasure while i just enjoy the view and fondle her body. If she tries she can easily get me off but that's not we do that position; she does what feels good for her and I feel like a sextoy. It's nice :)
  • just try it! some guys love it, well my boyfriend likes it when im on top of him...just try new things it wont hurt..
  • Communication and comfort is key. Definitely do not do something you are not comfortable with until you are finally ready to do so. If being on top makes you uneasy, it is important for you to tell him that it does because he is not a mind reader but try to be open and try new things in your relationship. As a relationship grows, women (and men) generally become more comfortable around each other so perhaps the next time he wants to do this, ask him to guide you as to what he enjoys, that way you will both know what he wants. Who knows, you may end up liking it too. Cheers
  • let him put his hand on your hips and he can help with your speed and then just swing those hips and youll be fine
  • how about oral sex
  • I think you should go fo rit because once you getup there your body just sorta knows what to do. And dont be nervous about it because if he is like most men, he will just be happy to get some. Some guys like it to because they can watch youre expressions and play with your boobies and observe what you like. Also, you are able to control the speed and as you're doing it watch his face. oyu can usually tell if they are enjoying it or if you need to go faster or whatnot. Just get up there and enjoy yourself.
  • ah yes.. well when ontop make sure if your a bigger girl your on your knees and not on your feet, only true riders can do it on their feet ANYWAY just make sure you start slow and make sure you can go up and down if your sittin up of course. If laying down on his stomack or like real close to his face you want to make sure roll those hips all around that will killlllll him in bed :)
  • Well if you dont get on top....hes gonna get mad. Just try it, the worst you can do...is not do it good, then you dont havta worry about him wanting you on top. But i think youll like it. Sometimes it just hits the right spot...and youll really wanna GET IT. and if your pleased...your man is pleased. Thats their biggest turn ons...seeing you wanna come all over.
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  • You can't do anything wrong when you're trying to please him and enjoying yourself. If he does not appreciate your trying to please him he may not be worth your efforts. Enjoy yourself.
  • first few times might be ackward for you. practice makes perfect. one thing is that you will feel him deeper in side you. more work for you since you have to do the moving.
  • my bf absolutley loves it when im on top. He has the best orgasms and he absolutely loves it :) even though i haven't learned how to move much
  • i love it when my gf gets on top. i've always made sex about her pleasure, because i know i will always orgasm in the process. So there really isn't anything you can do wrong. do what makes you feel good. he'll enjoy it too. a good motion is to push him in and out slowly at first and then faster and faster.
  • She took the first advice she was given two years ago and disappeared

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