When someone is misled and betrayed in a loving relationship, does that mean that it wasn't real and that there wasn't anything there to begin with?
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Not really -- the person you hooked up with sounds less honest than you were expecting him or her to be. It's hard to tell sometimes how dishonest a person is in the beginning of a relationship. It can be scary to be honest sometimes. Some people have difficulty making statements like "you're not the one", or "I'm not that interested", or "I've found somebody else", or "I still want to pick up one night stands." People avoid honesty by being dishonest... it's a slippery slope that leads to a lot of anguish and pain. It probably was real in the beginning, but it sounds like it became less so for your partner as time went on.
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Here is the flipside to the coin, in your situation. in my experience, i have learned that if a person misleads or betrays you one time, they will do it again. i hope this never happens, again to you. the world is full of temptations. it takes a very strong individual not to cross the line. once that line has been crossed, trust is no more. the relationship goes downhill and someone will again be hurt. don't let your guard down and alway be alert to the symptoms of a betraying person, especially in a love relationship. temptation is what got adam in trouble, from eve.
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No. Of course not. Things change, they're always changing. Something that was true when it was said can be untrue the next day, and it's just how life works. Not really your partner's fault, as much pain as that can bring you. That could be you the next time. We're all victims of time and circumstances. I think, for the "misled and betrayed", perhaps it wasn't misled and betrayed, just how things developed, and you feel that way, naturally. But you know - hurt, suffering - things happen.
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Of course not, for you it was very real and very much 'there'.
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No it doesn't. It just means that person became selfish and put themselves and their own selfish need before you and the relationship. It happens alot unfortunately.
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