I keep seeing all these questions about being unfaithful. Do you think it is easier to let it go in that situation if you are just dating as opposed to being married? Does the permanence affect the outcome?
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I think the permanence effects the situation greatly. If you're married, you most likely took a vow to cherish your partner, always love them, and always be there for them. Cheating doesn't exactly show any of those qualities. If you're just dating, it's easier to let go and see that they simply didn't care for you, although it's still not an easy thing to do by any means.
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Fidelity is over-rated, whether in marriage or out. Women (and men) should not limit themselves to a single relationship over a fifty or sixty year period, unless they are just uninterested in people.
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To me it doesn't matter if you are married or just dating. If there is a mutual understanding that the relationship is a comitted one where you are both supposed to love and cherish just the other person and one cheats I think the hurt is pretty much the same to the one who is cheated on. Cheating to me is a very selfis and despicable act. In my opinion the cheater is bascially saying I am a selfish inconsiderate jerk who cares more about me and my own selfish needs than I care about my partner and how this selfish despicable act is going to affect them and make them feel. I do think to some degree that the marriage vows do come into play in respect to the degree of hurt. Mainly because you made a comittment to love and cherish that one person only for the rest of your days and by cheating you broke that vow. I give credit to those who can overcome being cheated on and forgive their partner and move on like nothing happened. I know I don't have that much forgiveness in me.
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For me personally because of my religious beliefs, I would have to say that unfaithfulness in my spouse would hit me a lot harder than the occasion when a finace did it. I have many opportunities to date and become affianced in life should I choose to. But I shall only marry once, unless widowered. Basically, how could I trust my OWN judgement if the one woman I chose to give myself exclusively to is not who I thought she was? Either I was fooled from the beginning about her concept of 'honour', or I failed to provide what she felt she needed to find in another man. Either way - I would feel that I was ill equipped to marry to begin with. But this is just my opinion and thats,
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I was just covering all bases ^_^
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