Ok watched The Mike and Juliet Show, it was about gays converting to be straight. I know that i am lesbian and i didn't CHOOSE to be this way but why would you surpress what you are to be society's NORM?Can you supress these feelings forever?
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Hey I'm a lesbian too. I think a person would live to regret supressing it. You are what you are you need to make the best of it.
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I don't think so...that's probably why a fair number of Lesbians were married to Men at one point in time.....not that all of the Men were "bad" at all, but that they just weren't right for them. Guys too...a lot tried marriage to women...and failed at THAT abysmally!
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When a quesion like this comes up, I try to turn it around and wonder if I could give up having sex with women and sit on somebody's c*ck. mmmmm, no.
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Research indicates that gay people who go through this therapy end up actually supressing who they are and do not actually become straight. Many of the therapists or organizations have religious affiliations. I think it's dangerous ground to tread.
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so, these are simply people who've allowed others to shame them into being brain-washed. all they are doing is lying to themselves and others about who they are. no one "chooses" to be gay or lesbian any more than they choose their skin or eye color. if they can live a lie, so be it. that's all they are doing. I lived in a closet for too long, and I won't let anyone put me back in it! it's also come out that a lot of these people who claim "repartive therapy" works are actually guilty of emotional and physical abuse!
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dont be brainwashed, these psycological brainwashings are harmful to the mind
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i think that men and women who are gay and choose to be straight must have some serious mental problems. To suppress something like that has to be detrimental to your health. It just REALLY freaks me out. Just be gay!
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I think there are two phenomena here. One is truly gay people who are suppressing their real personality, and doing themselves great harm. The other is people who are to some extend bi, who are suppressing the gay side of their personality in order to conform to a religious stereotype. In either case, I strongly disapprove of anybody suppressing any aspect of their personality that does not harm others.
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the simple answer is yes you can ...if you want to live a lie for the rest of your life ... these so called programs are just bullshit and in fact should be banned for all the hurt they cause , you will find it is just religious mumbo jumbo behind it and nothing more ... you CAN NOT change who or what you are no matter how much these bible thumping fools would like you to believe, be true to your self and you will never go wrong:)
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Even if being gay was wrong, how could a human fix it? Seriously. Why would a person suppress it to be part of society's norm? Probably because the person is ashamed and feels guilty. Do these people have programs that convert Christians who have sex before marriage to be abstinent until marriage? I don't think so. If they don't, then they are being hypocrites as far as I'm concerned.
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I think you could suppress your feelings to fit into societies norms but you wouldn't feel normal. You would be living a normal life as an alien. How happy would that make you? I think that would be a mistake. It would be better to remain alone forever than to live a lie. Pretending to be straight would make not only you but your spouse miserable. Why inflict misery on someone else? That seems unfair. It's not a good idea.
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You can't supress them for long..they will come out in some way...there is no stopping those hormones:)...I have read a couple of articles(either in Out magazine or Instinct) where they actually sent an infiltrator into the camps..there was a lot of gay activity in the camps (DUH!!)..in fact, two of the directors went out and got married. But why should people have to suppress who they love? As long as no one is being harmed why does anyone care--that is the part I don't get. Maybe the critics aren't sexually active...I am..and I don't have time to worry about who anyone else is doing it with.
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i don't know that you would call it choice but i'm bisexual i was married for 17 years I've always been exclusive with my partners be they male or female. this doesn't mean i didn't look i did. you might have some limited success trying to "convert" bisexuals but not gay people. not to mention what it does to the children and unsuspecting spouses. how does it help anyone to make a doomed marriage?
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Good gay friend of mine "found god" once and tried to be straight. He was absolutely miserable for a few months, and then went back to being gay.
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Suppressing those feelings to go with society's norm seems to me to be pretty cowardly. :/
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Yes, you can supress who you are forever. But the odds are the harder and longer you supress who you are, the more you will feel self repressed and eventually end up in a clock tower with a rifle.
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Those people are backing down to society.
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