You don't "deal" with it. You shouldn't be with him in the first place. This man is a cheater; he's cheating on his wife right now. If you do manage to break up their marriage, and attempt to have a serious relationship with him, he will likely cheat on you as well. My advice is to end this relationship.

The only plausible way for this to get more serious is if he leaves his wife- anything else is just mind games.

Ultimately, no one can tell you what you should, or should not do. After all, you are a grown adult. However, if you are really interested in unbiased advice, the best advice would be to tell your married friend that you do not wish to have a serious relationship with him. Why? He's a married man with a wife, with or without child(ren). By engaging in an extramarital affair, you're not only playing the role of "teh other woman," but you're allowing yourself to be used at the expense of someone else's selfish and lustful needs. Not to mention the emotional toll that having an extramarital affair has on all parties involved. No one is a winner when it comes to affairs. The best advice that I can give to you is to break off the relationship entirely and try to find a decent, God-fearing man, who has strong morals and treats you with respect and honors you as a human-being. Utlimately, the decision is yours to make, but this is the best advice that I can give. I hope this helps with your dilemma and I wish you the best of luck!

And if he does leave his wife, remember this: A man who fools around WITH you will fool around ON you. Same goes for women, by the way.

KEEP YOUR KNICKERS on and leave another womens husband and her life alone. How could you risk another persons life and happiness for FRINGE BENEFITS. That is about the most heartless selfish cruel comment I have heard on AB

How do you deal with it, don't see the guy anymore. Simple. He is cheating on his wife for starters and you are just as bad as him, having sex with a married man. Imagine how you would feel if you where married and your husband was cheating on you. You would want to kill the woman. Right ? Need i say more.

Friends with benefits?? I that a nice way of saying you are helping a married man commit ADULTERY?? You don't want a man like this in your life because you know what a cheater he is. Is sex with him that good? You can't find an unattached man to have sex with? Is his wife in a coma where he can't get his benefits from her? You are not going to get any sympathy from me here. You should break off this illicit affair immediately and think long and hard next time before screwing around with a married man.

I have been involved with a married man for 6 years and I am ending it as he avoids serious talks like the plague. He is disrespectful and a user. I can see this now and he only wants a sexual relationship with me if it is fun and no hassle. It has destroyed my self esteem and dignity. So DO NOT do it, it will eat you up. He has issues at home but you will only be his fantasy and temporary escape.

Let me tell you what I tell my other friends who get into relationships with married men: 1) He is never going to leave his wife for you. He says he will. He promises he will. Just after little Johnny does this one thing. I will after this happens. Honey, it's NOT going to happen. Why should he leave his wife when he can have 2? 2) Why would you want a man who would cheat on his wife? If he cheated on her with you, he'll most likely cheat on you with some other woman. 3) Find a man who isn't in a relationship. You end up seeing better results. My opinion on how you should deal with this: Leave this man. He is no good. You didn't mention if there were children involved. If there are, do you want to have to raise the children of a woman of whose man you "took"? (Not that I think you are the homewrecker, but often times women will start to feel that way.) Also, when these children grow up they will see that their father cheated so its okay for me to cheat/be cheated on. Pack your bags and find a man worthy of you. Disclaimer: This is my opinion. You may take this information, or leave it.

"Involved"? You made the bed, now both of you live in it. Someone needs to tell his wife, so she can "take him to the cleaners".

First of all u as a preson is selfish to be with a married man because u are not thinking about his wife. also if he has children more shame on u ma.. but i dont want to get down pointed but its the truth..

I too have been involved with a married man for almost 9 years. Trust me when I say get out of it now...he will never leave his wife and you will become very bitter to the point where you will hate him and yourself. He is stealing your life right out from under your feet. Why be second in his life when you should be first in someone else's life. Everyone deserves to be first when it comes to love. Do whatever it takes to get out of this relationship, life is too precious to be wasted...find someone else to share your life with...and yes it is true what they say if he cheated on his wife with you, he'll do it to you too...the man I was with he has a wife, me and then he went and drove all the way to Ohio to have sex with a woman he was chatting with online. Find the inner strength and get rid of this "user" of lives...

What about when the Married guy is having an affair with another man??? Does the same rule apply? What if the Wife knows about it, and condones it just to be sure the husband isn't fooling around in a bathroom with MANY men?

I TOO KNOW FIRST HAND OF THE PAIN AND SUFFERING THIS TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP BRINGS. I HAVE READ MANY POST IN REGARD TO ALL THIS AND ALTHOUGH EVERYTHING THAT HAS BEEN SAID IS 100% TRUTH, NOT A ONE HAS PUT THE MAN WHO IS DOING THE HURTING DOWN YET PUTS THE OTHER WOMAN DOWN FOR TAKING THIS WOMANS HUSBAND. I PERSONALLY DIDN'T GO LOOKING FOR A MARRIED MAN, HE SOUGHT OUT ME AND LIED TO ME ABOUT BEING MARRIED AND IT WAS TO LATE TO CHANGE WHAT MY HEART FELT. BUT LET ME REMIND YOU, IT'S NOT THE OTHER WOMAN'S FAULT FOR DESTROYING A MARRIAGE...IT'S THE MAN'S SELFISH ACT THAT DID IT. AGAIN, I HAVE NEVER CONDONED MY OWN ACTIONS AS IN MY SITUATION - I HAVE GONE OUT OF THE WAY TO GET AWAY FROM THIS MAN WHO WONT GO AWAY. MY ONLY WAY TO STOP IT IS TO GET HELP FOR MYSELF AND TRY TO UNDERSTAND WHY THIS TOOK PLACE AND NOT DO IT AGAIN. THESE MEN WILL DO AND SAY ANYTHING AND THE WORSE PART IS WHEN YOU DON'T RECONIZE MANIPULATION - IT CAN AND WILL DISRUPT YOUR ENTIRE WORLD. THINK ABOUT YOURSELF FIRST AND FIND YOU AND GUIDE YOURSELF TO A BETTER PLACE BECAUSE ALL WOMEN DESERVE BETTER THAN WHAT THEY ACCEPT. I'M ONE OF THEM AND STILL TODAY AM STRUGGLING WITH HOW TO GET THIS MAN TO GO AWAY...SHORT OF TELLING HIS WIFE WHAT HE HAS BEEN DOING. ACT LIKE THE PERFECT HUSBAND AND FATHER IN THEIR EYES AND THEN BLAME THE OTHER WOMAN? WHERE IS THE LOGIC THERE? I DIDN'T SEEK TO DESTROY A MARRIAGE, I DIDN'T SEEK TO HURT ANY CHILDREN AS I HAVE MY OWN, I DIDN'T SEEK THIS MAN OUT...HE SOUGHT ME AND WHEN HE DECIDED TO TELL ME THE TRUTH, I WAS BLIND SIDED WITH THE REASONS WHY HE STAYS. HERE NOR THERE, ABOVE AND BEYOND FIND INNER STRENGTH TO MOVE ON. I'M TRYING THAT NOW MYSELF.

by your comments, I am assuming that you are happy with the current arrangement and dont want a relationship, just some fun and laughs with a guy that makes you feel good with out the hassles of a relationship. Sorry to disagree with most people out there, but i see nothing wrong with this. Yes he is a cheater, so what, you dont want him for a husband anyway. You need to be straight up and say, look, I dig you, we have a great time together, but if you are thinking of leaving her for me... forget it. You leave her, then I leave you. You are fun and we knew that from jump, i didnt, and DONT want more than that. So dont screw up your marriage, and dont screw up our good times...its just that simple. If he cant deal with that, then yes, your gonna have to let him go. The whole dynamics of this marriage is in HIS lap, his discretions and moral judgements...Not Yours! He is the one married...not you!

I am sorry but I must say what is in my heart. You are intruding into the lives of your married friend and his wife. This is a unhealthy thing to do and more harm than good will rear its ugly head. You may not like my advice but I will still tell you. End your relationship with your married friend right now. This is best for all concerned. You may not know it now but you know it by and by.

Sweety, leave that family alone. There is enough deceit and heartbreak in this world. That you would want to selfishly cause more says much about who you might be. Leave them alone. You know you will never find happiness in life this way, right?

such usually are traumatic if not tragic, for all three and their nears and dears. so go on if you dont care . because lust is truly blind and you will not heed.

stop seeing him.

you're just another whore in this world i hope you're properly punished by now

Jump off a bridge, a very high bridge! :O)