Why can some people forgive capture and torture, while others can't let go of a harsh word spoken years ago?
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for the same reason that I will have one reaction when I look at my Mother-in-law, and my Father-in-law has an entirely different one. Some individuals have either a more peaceful 'mind' than others or - in the case of my MIL - a stronger stomach.... Either way, I've never been convinced we have more than minimal control over such reactions.
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Because some people realise that by clinging to past wrongs and holding grudges (or at least a little resentment) the only people they are hurting are themselves, and other people don't...
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It depends on what unresolved childhood emotional issues the person has. That essentially, is what determines what "buttons" can be pushed in people.
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Amazing isn't it?
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Words hurt! Probably more than physical pain!
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"Our two minds .... One is an act of the emotional mind, the other of the rational mind. In a very real sense we have two minds, one that thinks and one that feels" (Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence, Bloomsbury Publishing, London, 1996, page 8). This rational mind is also called the faculty of logic and reason. It deals with morals and ethics. The Upanishads say that these two are opposite in nature. Modern psychologist also have observed it, but they are not very sure about it: "At the same time, reason sometimes clearly seems to come into conflict with some desires (even while not being in conflict with others) giving us the impression that reason is separate from emotion". http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reason Persons in whom the emotional mind works dominantly can forgive torture. Persons in whom the rational mind works dominantly can not tolerate even mild harshness. http://profvsprasad.blog.com/ The Upanishads say that persons who forgive torture indirectly believe in Karma.
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