My girlfriend is amazing and there's no way I'd break up with her for this, but she always cuts her hair really short. She knows I strongly prefer long hair, but she says it's too much of a hassle. Is this something I'll just have to suffer through?
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Your g/f is amazing not her hair, just love her for who she is and be glad to have her in your life
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Are you dating Britney this week?
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Yes you can not force her to do something she doesn't want to.
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Let her do her thing, and maybe go to the beauty supply store and buy a fe wigs you like for her to wear just at home when you are feeling frisky. Maybe one blonde, one brunette, and one redhead wig will satisfy you for awhile.
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If her hair is shorter than yours, then it is too short. Otherwise, leave her be. She will probably go thru 1,000 more hairstyle changes in her lifetime so the less said the better....she will soon have something else you will fault with.
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Just be patient. First of all, if this is the biggest issue you have with your girlfriend, you are a VERY lucky man. Second, most women over time will tire of their hair style/color and will try something different. Best of luck to both of you. . . .
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do you love HER or just her hair? If you really love her, then let her be herself....no matter how she wears her hair. If you are "suffering," maybe you love her for the wrong reasons?
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Unless you learn to like short hair or she decides to go through the hassle of long hair then yes, suffer away.
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Well, if she's that amazing maybe sometime in the future she will grow it out and you will be around to see it. :) I do actually grow my hair long because it's my partner's preference however I like to the look of it also. That and I discovered it just as easy to braid or twist the junk back as it is to style short hair. The important part is a relationship is compromise and knowing when something is a dealbreaker (which you acknowledge this isn't) and when to accept something because the other person feels more strongly about it. Choose your battles. I think you may have to 'suffer through'. Best wishes for a continued good relationship.
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here is a female perspective
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Funny, my husband prefers short hair and keeps asking me when I'm going to get mine cut.
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Love her ,not her hair...but I am sorry that this is an issue for you. Most guys are just like you but it is her hair to do as she pleases:)
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Yes. It's her hair. Would you like it if she strongly requested that you wear certain items and changed things about you?
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You don't get to tell the women who share your life how to dress, wear their make up or do their hair. How would you like it if she told you that you had to wax ALL your body hair, because it pleases her... your hair gets in the sheets and toilet and sink and in the way during sex. and you have to wax, not shave, cause shaving makes a mess and bristles... It is not your "right" or "priveledged" etc. Many men think this is the case... There was a time when women dressed, etc, to "please their man" but those days are long, long gone. The sooner you figure this out and learn to adjust your expectations, the more happiness you'll have in your relationships. If you really can't stand her hair, then you need to move on... but it seems petty to me.
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It is her hair. Perhaps you could find a way to find beauty in her short hair. She has a good reason for cutting her hair short. Would you rather her be uncomfortable and gorgeous or comfortable, even though you don't think she looks okay? Think about her needs here. You're being selfish. That is normal, though. You have your preferences and she should understand that, but you should also understand that she also has her preferences. Don't try to change her into someone she is not. If it really bothers you, perhaps it is time to find someone who loves her own long hair and does not wish to cut it, ever, other than to trim or change the style (yet, still keeps it long).
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Buy her a wig and slap it on her sometimes.
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Yes, yes it is, girls are like that ;]
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Just know that she is much happier when she doesn't have to spend a lot of time fixing her hair. Although my husband would like my hair longer, he loves the fact that I'm happy.
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Well first of all, if she had long hair when you met her, and she CHANGED to short hair, that is a problem. But if she had short hair when you met her, you should be used to it by now? My girlfriend of 5 months is also amazing in every way, and she has beautiful, long natural light brown hair, (naturally wavy but she straighten irons it) its kinda long like in the middle of her back, but not EXTREMELY long like past the waist. Anyway, she always has split ends, so she likes to get it trimmed. I tell her how much i love her hair and how amazing it is, and well, she seems to understand, cus when she gets it cut, its only a couple inches off. Dont break up with her, thats the worst. And if she always had short hair since you met her, just wait till she decides to do something different with her hair. Maybe she'll ask you "what should i do with my hair?" Then, she will be ready to listen to your opinions.
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I love long hair too! If my gf did that, I would simply find somebody else to hang out with. If she wants to make ME suffer....then I will make HER suffer!!
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shes wanting your to knock her up.lol -Brad
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Learn to deal and live with it. Its her hair and her style. Hair can grow back........ Its whats in her heart that really counts.
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Perhaps you could seek a compromise? :P Not long enough to be a hassle, but not too short either ;)
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hey!!!! do u love her for her loooong hair??? or for what she is from inside??...inner beauty is eternal my friend :) people have their own opinions right? :) cheers
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she's got head lice
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In a relationship you are one and the same person. Hurting another hurts yourself, pleasing another pleases yourself. In a good relationship people will do almost anything for one another and like it. Isn't that what a relationship is about? I am sure you love your girl based on so many other things, but I will tell you this; if you both are willing to fight, kill & die for each other, is it such a big hassle to change a hairdo? Not even for your lover, but for the love of your relationship? You're prolly BOUND to like long, she's FREE to care or not... My girlfriend liked long on men, so I wore it long. No matter what my boss, parents or anyone else said about it. I did it out of LOVE for her, and she did it for me. We wouldn't part because of it, but on the other hand; standing on selfish rights is something to save for after divorce. So no you don't have to suffer. Grow a beard and shave your head whether she likes it or not, quit your job if you feel like it; you have the same freedom as she has. Don't fear a lover's spat; If only it will bring you closer.
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Suffering your gf's short hair eh?! You trooper!
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Of course, Jokester! It's what's INSIDE the head, not what's ON TOP, that COUNTS! Get her a cute, sassy, SEXY little hat, that will tease her main Laugh Man!
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Unless you chose to leave her, yes it is. Its called respect. I love my partner and no matter how much I might enjoy him doing something I would never ask him to do it if he didn't want to. How could I enjoy it knowing it was making him feel bad?
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I am 53 and I think it's very sweet that you tell your girlfriend what you like. Of course it's not something that you can dictate (I think Jeffers is extreme in her response). Women can do what they want to do, and, if my boyfriend told me that he likes it when I grow my hair...I would appreciate him telling me that this is how he finds me most attractive. But of course I will do what I want. I too like my hair longer, and knowing that he does it pleases me that he finds me attractive. I am of a feminist belief system, but I don't go to extremes. I believe that we all make our own choices, but what's the matter with being receptive to what someone who loves you thinks? There's nothing wrong with growing your hair because you know that your boyfriend thinks your beautiful that way!! If you don't want to grow your hair, this is not going to make or break your relationship. I personally feel touched when someone I love expresses his preferences. If it doesn't fit for me, than I don't do it; but if I want his opinion and value it, why the heck not?
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yea man.. it's just hair.. it's her hair and that's what she wants..
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Hey, I love long straight hair, too, but I love my wife more, and she has a cute - what I call - Pixie Cut. I could care less about her hair. I love HER. BTW: My ex-wife had all kinds of hair styles, and the girlfriend I had between the two wives, had her hair cut about 1/2" (she was black). It really doesn't matter. Get used to it. (or as YOU put it, "Suffer through") If you can't leave her. (Kinda a dumb, shallow reason to do so, don't you think?)
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