My boyfriend would rather masturbate to porn everyday than to have sex with me. He says its because it hurts his back and he is to tired. What should I do?
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Find another boyfriend.
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You don't really need to ask this question. You know he's a waste of time and effort and you need to trade him in for a fully working model.
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My ex was that way. I think people like that have a problem with intimacy and giving. It's a real effort for them. I don't think he will change and may withdraw even more as time goes by like mine did. Maybe you should consider if that's what you want your life to be like.
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If he's too tired, it's probably because he's masturbating every day. There are a number of positions that will aleviate any stress he feels in his back. The issue is not of energy or exertion. Your boyfriend seems to have an issue with intimacy and it needs to be explored if you are each going to be fulfilled in the relationship. Sit down and talk with him. Find some mutually satisfying positions and practices in bed. More importantly, learn to be intimate together without bringing sex into it at all.
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find a new boyfriend
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Not too much you can do. But about 90% of people masturbate...the other 10% lie about it.
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If this is a big issue for you then there's only one thing to do - move on. But if you want to try to work on this, you could try watching with him and seeing where things lead. Porn is a powerful addiction for many.
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If he says he;s too tired suggest you go on top and do all the work, if he still doesn't want to, well he has issues.
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Dump him and find someone else, what an ass.
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remind him that women go thru the ultimate purge and we still function, so if he wants to keep you he should stop being such a (I hate to use the word pussy cause we're so much tougher than the boys) wimp. That will either show you how worthless he is or goad him into performance.
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Masturbating is fine, but I never heard of any man that would rather do that than sex. He's got some pretty lame excuses for not having sex with you. If it were me, I'd lose him unless he's handicapped or something.
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Personally I'd rather masturbate every day AND have sex with my wife, but I have a very high sex drive for my age. I have health issues that can make some positions very difficult at times, and sometimes I'm just too tired for full-on rabid gorilla rage furniture destroying wallpaper peeling chandelier swinging omgwtflol sex, so I go down on my wife. She enjoys it, it's relaxing and stimulating at the same time, and I love to please her. Also it usually turns me on enough to get past the fatigue, pain, and discomfort. Even if I'm still too tired or in too much pain I'm still satisfied if I know she's content. I don't HAVE to have an orgasm every time we have sex to be happy, but if she doesn't have at least one I know I haven't done my job. Your boyfriend sucks, or should I say sucked. I'm really hoping that by now he's out of the picture.
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You can be on toP! Nothing wrong with being on top. Then he can just lay on his lazy butt and just be happy.
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jerk him off with baby oil or lotion
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make him a home video of YOU so he can masturbate to it. oral. its great and wont break your back. xoxo
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Sounds like it is time to find a new boyfriend. I can't think of a time that I have chosen porn over the real thing.
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I'm 23 and separated with my wife after only a year and this was one of our problems. I was like your boyfriend, except I knew it was wrong and didn't offer any excuses. I couldn't stop masturbating, even after we addressed the problem. But looking back, the solution to the problem is to stay so busy that I don't have time to be horny until she comes home.
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I have the same problem except my man excuse is that he is board and there I am all alone in the bedroom. Or he need a different feeling so he masturbates. Hang in there! I'm feel so sorry for you. I understand. It makes me feel unwanted and unattractive. I'm sure you feel the same. I'm sorry. Hope things get better for both of us.
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Most people are missing the point here. Your boyfriend jerking off it fine, that is not in debate, the issue here is that he prefers jacking off to porn to fucking you -- To begin with, I fuck my wife at least once a day and I still jerk off. That is normal and jacking off it a nice feeling in addition to other sexual activities. I also love porn, and none of that is a problem. My quick suggestion is to help him -- perhaps to tell him to watch porn while you jerk him off. That is a nice step in the right direction with the two of you retaining contact but him watching porn at the same time. That can lead to a blowjob, and that can lead to you playing with yourself, and after he sees your pussy he will probably want it also. Finally, make this a slow process, dont expect results in a day. You may need to jack him off while he watches porn for a month before he looses the excitement of the new act and wants more (i.e. you!). Just take it slow -- he may be telling the truth and the important thing is to retain physical contact with you man.
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It is sad to say, but he is just not that into you anymore. Dump his cowardice butt. He is too much of a coward to break-up with you. SO do yourself a favor, and find someone that craves you. I know it hurts to hear, but if a girl he WAS attracted to walked through the door, he would work through the "back pain" to have sex with her. AP
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well my first instinct is something else is wrong- like with your relationship. dont mean it to sound harsh.. is everything else ok with your relationship? sex is a BIG thing... but, anyway... supposing i am wrong, and hopefully i am- then... get him excited, and get on top .... or do it standing up so his back doesnt hurt
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