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by Anonymous on December 20th, 2005

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I tried to help my best friend get together with some guy by suggesting she write him a note. She took my advice but he didn't respond. Now she is upset because she doesn't think he likes her. What should I do?

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  • by Anon on December 26th, 2005

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    Rejection is tough for just about everyone and is particularly devastating to those of us who are already more than a little insecure about our self-worth. Let her know how much she means to you as a friend and give her specific examples of things that make her a wonderful person in general. Be a good listener, too. Let her talk to you about how she feels and don't jump in to contradict her until you know she's done saying what she needs to say. Finally, get her mind off him by going out as friends whether it be to the movies, to dinner, or just to a local park.

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  • by emily6 on September 3rd, 2009

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    well for one thing your best friend made herself very vulnerable by writing a note. I don't know what she revealed or said in the note but not getting a response is understandably nerve racking.

    the truth is how he feels is the unknown. I think it would be best for your best friend to put an end to the suspense and gather up her courage. go up to the guy and ask him how he felt about the note.

    One way or the other she will know. This is what I would encourage her to do. stand by her every step of the way. she can practice with you on different scenerios.

    Reminder her about how much she has to offer and all of the wonderful things about her. help build her confidence before speaking to the guy.

    On the other hand, can she contact him by phone or email if in person feels too bold for her? Again, I think its perfectly fine to ask him how he felt about the note given that he didn't reply.

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  • by Answers101 on May 5th, 2006

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    I think you should go over to the guy she likes and ask him if he feels the same way about your friend. However, make sure and do this WITHOUT your friend knowing that you did ths. Talk to this guy when your friend isn't around and doesn't know what you're doing.

    The reason that this guy may NOT have responded to your friend's note could be due to a variety of reasons such as:he's shy, maybe he got too busy and didn't have time to respond,. maybe he feels the same way as your friend does, but doesn't know how to respond because it might have made him embarrassed, uneasy, or uncomfortable and so, he doesn't know HOW to respond, or it could have been that he didn't actually get the note, or he did get the note, and doesn't feel the same way about your friend as your friend does about him.

    Bottom line: It couldn't hurt to ask this guy that your friend has a crush on about how he feels about her, just make sure that your friend and he aren't in the same room when you go to ask this question.

    Good luck & let me know if my advice worked for you!

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