I am 27 and have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. I never talk about marriage, but lately I feel like I should start. After this long, should I want to get married?
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I would think that if marriage is something you want in general, then after 4 years you should either want to be thinking about marriage or getting out of the relationship so you can find someone who does interest you for marriage.
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Dont do something, anything, just because of society pressure. You go ahead and do something because its the right time and feels right for you. If you don't feel like getting married, theres no law that says you must
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I've seen plenty of couples that never get married. Some people never want to get married, others do as soon as possible. If you have never really thought about it before, what's making you want to consider it now? Can you see yourself with this man forever? If so, what are the benefits to you (if any) to getting married.
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There is no 'should you want to.' Either you want to, or you don't. I could probably name a couple worse reasons to get married but not many.
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It is for us to know and you to find out
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Oh give er
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1) As far as I can see: - marriage was not an issue at the beginning of your relationship - it is beginning to become an issue for you 2) There could be various reason for this change of point of view from your side, like a desire for security, social acceptance, or the wish for starting a "real" family (children?). Marriage could help in achieving these goals. On the other side, some people also look at the drawbacks of marriage and prefer to stay unmarried. It should not be a problem. In such a situation, anyone can change their mind at any time. Notice, however, that it could be more difficult to change your mind about the issue *after* you are married. 3) Anyway, you could ponder this and decide what you think would be the best for you, and of course, talk about this with your boyfriend, because it takes two to marry... Of course, it could also happen that you have different views on this issue. So you both will have to decide what will be the best for the both of you. In extreme cases it could be a separation.
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Easier said with 'social conditioning' but free yourself. Take the word 'should' out of your life. There is no 'should', just what other people want you to do, and that is irrelevent because its your existence totally. If you can do that, then you will know. One other thing. You are asking the wrong question, it should not be do you want to 'get' married, but do you want to 'be' married (as in live in a marital state) That is the more pertinent question and will probably give you your answer. listen to your gut, not your head, your gut steers you and protects you from wrong choices etc. Your head thinks stuff as a result of what other people have stuffed into it
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You could certainly bring up the subject but it depends if you think marriage is going to guarantee you more of a future with your boyfriend than not being married. The truth is, he might be happy with the status quo. You should only get married if that is what he and you sincerely want; it shouldn't just be because society might dictate it.
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it is about time I am 26 and I am very much ready. my and my guy have been together 2.5 years.
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