Is it rude to always ask guest to bring a food or drink item to a party that you are hosting?

Usually I don't have to ask, they ask me first what they can bring.

I don't think it's rude if it's an informal party/get together. Of course if you are hosting a birthday party, then that would be inappropriate IMO.

No. You're throwing the party. The guests can at least bring some brownies!

Yes.

However, it is Very Polite for guests to bring a Host Gift if they so desire. Many people bring Alcoholic Beverages, others bring Yummy Foods, etc. It is the Host's decision whether he would like to serve the gift.

Generally, if you decide to throw a party, YOU are throwing the party, not your guests, so you should be preparing everything for them. Your guests should not have to Lift A Finger. Asking guests to fund your party is just as bad as asking for gifts, which as we all know is THOR (the height of Rudeness)

It is EXTREMELY rude to ask invited guests to bring ANYTHING unless it is a potluck/covered dish event such as a "group" brunch or dinner, in which case you wouldn't actually be the host as much as you would be the "organizer" or "facilitator".

When someone throws a party and is the "host", they are taking on the responsibility of providing for the guests....not the other way around. If someone can't afford to provide the food/drinks, then they should not be having a party.

entertaining is costly... the fact that they are inviting you says that they value your company.

if they ask you to bring Vodka, they should not specifiy the most exclusive brand that they like, they should just say "please bring a 1 Ltr bottle of Vodka"

Actually, yes. Hosting a party means that you are inviting people over to be your guests, and guests do not have to provide their food. The exception is if you are hosting a potluck, in which case, it is understood that you will all share in the providing of the food. But for just a party? The host should be supplying the food.

The guest, however, will usually bring some sort of gift for the host to be used at the host's pleasure -- in other words, the guest might bring some fresh vegetables from his or her garden as a little gift, but the host does not have to use these at the dinner.

I recognize that in many social circles, gatherings are informal and such etiquette rules are not applied. For example, if I am inviting my best friends over for a casual meal, I might ask them to bring something with them. But certainly not every time, and not usually to a party. If the friends are providing food, that would make them co-hosts.

I wouldn't think it's rude just to ask. But I am etiquette challenged.

I never ask anyone to bring anything to my get togethers but they always do and I usually bring flowers for the table when I am invited out. Is it rude? No but usually the nice ones will ask if they can bring anything before you have to ask :)

not at all, i usually host a halloween bonfire/party and i ask my close friends to bring a certain food, there fine with it and we have plenty of food

I was taught it was common courtesy not to show up at someone's home empty handed.

no not as far as I am concerned ...every party I have been to over the last 40 or so years I have always taken a 'plate' and drink ..its always been the custom with in my wide circle of friends and with the prices today its even more 'the right thing to do' and its fun and you get a great selection of food when every one brings something

No, not at all. We always get a couple of people to bring salads and another couple to bring desserts whenever we have more than about eight people to dinner. All our friends do the same thing. I think it's a great idea because we have one friend in particular who makes the most delicious desserts I've ever eaten, so we get her dessert at our house as well as hers.

No. Just say it's a potluck. and ask "What do you prefer to bring?"

not at all..I always take something

In my group of friends we always assume we will be bringing something, even if it's just a beverage of choice. We'd never be able to get together if the burden of the cost was borne by just one household.

It depends on the event. When I have a big barbeque I usually tell people what I will have, especially in the alcohol department, and if they want anything special to drink besides whatever brand of beer I have or if they like to drink martinis or whatever to bring it. I also let them know that if they are bringing a vegan, they better bring something to eat as well. If I am having a dinner party or other kind of event, I ask nobody to bring anything, but usually they show up with wine or something anyway.

I think it is somewhat traditional and it has a purpose. It makes one feel less imposing if they bring something to contribute. I love the idea of picking out a very fine wine that my hosts might truly appreciate having, or bringing a dessert that is truly awesome and they will surely appreciate.

If it's a pot luck maybe, but if it's a regular party I usually wouldn't ask a guest to buy something unless you forgot to get something then you could ask your best friend

No i always take a couple of bottles and a case of beer with me to any party im invited to weather or not they say its bring a bottle i think its only fair.