Im attracted to older men, im 20 and since 16 when i had my first long term relationship with a 28 year old, im into older guys and now i've got a huge crush on a 40 year old, he said i'm too young, im old enough to be his daughter. i want him. help me.
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mizzy
ANSWERS: 24
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If he doesn't want a relationship with you at the moment you should respect this.I wonder why you like this guy? Does he have good qualities? If you have similar interests and respect it can work with an older guy.But they are not all the same.Have you dated younger guys? What appeals to you about older guys I wonder (sorry asking you questions now).
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When you say "want him" what exactly are you refering to: What type of relationship are you looking for i.e. physical, emotional, financial etc.. What attracts you to older men?
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Why would you want to go out with someone who could be your fathers age? Doesn't the thought of your father dating one of your friends creep you out?
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Okay. Take a deep breath and walk away. He said no and no means no.
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I say forget him then if he's not willing to take a ride on the wild side and enjoy some young meat! LOL It's his loss! A lot of older guys that age would probably be flattered!
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Just as you prefer older men he may prefer women much closer to his own age. This may not be something he can look past. I would advise you to act mature, realize at this point he is not interested in dating. The most you can do is try to communicate with him at his level about mutual interests. Further down the line he may change his mind however this won’t happen by acting like an impatient girl and not respecting his wishes. Good luck. My last suggestion is to put your energies into a more promising relationship.
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You can't make him feel the same about you. I know how you feel.. I've always been attracted to much older men. You just have to move on. You said it was just a crush... so move on before it develops into something more.
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There are plenty of older men attracted to young ladies…so I’m sure you can find someone else who will reciprocate your love unconditionally.
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Wow. Is 27 too young for you? I'm 27 / m / NYC. ;-) Are you sure this 40 year old guy isn't gay? Why else would he be so uptight about your age? Have you suggested that, if he's concerned about his reputation (to me, it could only boost it!), that you could date discreetly, and you wouldn't have a problem with it (if you wouldn't)? You need to ask him what his primary concern is - okay, you're young, old enough to be his daughter if he had a child when he was pretty young to have one. My parents are 13 years apart. I know some that are 20 or more apart. Ask him WHY the fact that you're half his age is really a problem. Dig down until you find the real root cause. Does he have children? I could kind of get it if he, in fact, does have a daughter about 20. There's a creepy-dimension to it then. The fact that you're young isn't a good reason - there must be a deeper reason why being young is bad, or another reason he won't say. Guilt trip him, and tell him "he owes you that", or something like that. If I was 40, I don't even know you, but I suspect I'd jump on it in a heartbeat! ;-) Good luck, love!
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Don't waste your time pursuing him. he might be trying to let you down nicely by saying that you are too young. He might not want to deal with a young girl. Most older men like younger girls for the sex and that's it. When it comes to the substance of what makes a relationship work, he doesn't want to have to teach you...he may just want a woman who already has the life experience. I am 32 and my husband is 45. We get along great because we have both been thru major life changing issues & we are comfortable together. There are plenty of older men out there that would like a relationship. Move on.
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There could be a million reasons why this guy won't reciprocate maybe he has a hang up with age because of all the assholes in the world that think much older men just want sex from young girls and while this may be true for alot of older men there are a few that are capable of using the head on their shoulders instead of the one in their pants to do their thinking I was involved with a 25 y/o when I was 40 I hesitated at first because she was a devout christian girl and was still a virgin and I knew so many people were gonna think I was with her cause I wanted to be the first to get her but sex was the furthest thing from my mind we dated for almost three years and I never got anything more than a kiss from her and I didn't care cause I loved her and she loved me unfortunately she died about 2 and a half years ago otherwise she would have been my wife today anyway that is off the subject I agree if the guy has said not interested move on there are plenty of other older guys that would like to date a young girl
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There could be a million reasons why this guy won't reciprocate maybe he has a hang up with age because of all the assholes in the world that think much older men just want sex from young girls and while this may be true for alot of older men there are a few that are capable of using the head on their shoulders instead of the one in their pants to do their thinking I was involved with a 25 y/o when I was 40 I hesitated at first because she was a devout christian girl and was still a virgin and I knew so many people were gonna think I was with her cause I wanted to be the first to get her but sex was the furthest thing from my mind we dated for almost three years and I never got anything more than a kiss from her and I didn't care cause I loved her and she loved me unfortunately she died about 2 and a half years ago otherwise she would have been my wife today anyway that is off the subject I agree if the guy has said not interested move on there are plenty of other older guys that would like to date a young girl
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I'd wish I could advise you... but with me is him the one with the crush! Me 19 - he's 40 ... When he was my age...I wasn't even existing and probably he was even dating girls like myself then too... so ... yayks What is that attracts you to him? yes yes... I know... hes so much better at saying jokes and he just notices every little thing and he cares so much... hes so serious... respected...carrying and careful...but still... Think about a 30 year old guy interested in a 12 year old girl... He really doesn't have to much to lose doesn't he?
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I think something is seriously wrong with you which you might have not known by your ownself. These kind of relationships are not going to help you in any way. Seeing you questions it seems that you have been having relationship with older men. I dont think you set a good example for you or your friends or the upcomming generation and you cannot be a good wife to your husband. My suggestion is stop all the older men business and look towards your future with a good goal and vision and marry a young man who can help you to achive them in a good way. It is only me personel view! Hope i have not hurt anyone!
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I think something is seriously wrong with you which you might have not known by your ownself. These kind of relationships are not going to help you in any way. Seeing you questions it seems that you have been having relationship with older men. I dont think you set a good example for you or your friends or the upcomming generation and you cannot be a good wife to your husband. My suggestion is stop all the older men business and look towards your future with a good goal and vision and marry a young man who can help you to achive them in a good way. It is only me personel view! Hope i have not hurt anyone!
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I think something is seriously wrong with you which you might have not known by your ownself. These kind of relationships are not going to help you in any way. Seeing you questions it seems that you have been having relationship with older men. I dont think you set a good example for you or your friends or the upcomming generation and you cannot be a good wife to your husband. My suggestion is stop all the older men business and look towards your future with a good goal and vision and marry a young man who can help you to achive them in a good way. It is only me personel view! Hope i have not hurt anyone!
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I am sorry but the age diffrence thing is very true.You will look back when you get older and know what I am talking about.The older you get the more things you learn from life dating wisdom love traveling books education."You can Not teach an old dog new tricks" Is true you cant train them.They are going to do what they want to do and thats it.When there is an age diffrence the younger one in age will get treated like a child.He is very smart by telling you to back off because he has respect for you and knows it is wrong in the eyes of others.Look at Anna Nicole Smith and Her 90 year old Husband.I am sure they did love each other but it was extreamly, Taboo.I think she loved him like a father insteam of a lover and she looked to him for security:Being takein care of,Money,attention,etc.But one thing every one noticed is the age diffrence and I am sure that He is not the one that got "shame on you""what is wrong with you? You will have to deal with negitive feedback and people talking behind your back laughting.
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im 16 and am with aa 27 year old when i first met him he knew i liked him he even pointed it out but saddly he said i was to young and maybe when im older well he came to my 16th b-day and we ended up making out he said that he does like but my age is to young well a couple of weeks later he asked me out and well weve been happy eva since maybe that 40 year old will popen his eyes and relize what he gots just dont be all over him just be a friend and talk to him and stuff even if he has a girlfriend still be therre cuz she could end up hurtun him and there you could be also remember we cant choose the day we born on so love has no age!!!! i wish u the best of luck wit ur guy!!!
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YOu have a daddy complex, your looking for daddy in these men..It will never work out..seek proffesional help.
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He peobably doesn't feature the idea of paying for you and your child just for sex. He has his wife for that.
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It may be that he really does like women his own age or older because they are more mature. I.E. they don't look for help online when they already know the answer is NO. I hate to sound harsh but perhaps it could be a cover. As a girl you know sometimes you say things to let a guy down easy so he doesn't feel it's cos of his looks so you say it's something else like he's too young or he lives too far when really you just aren't feelin him. He just didn't feel ya.
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It might be a cover. Yes, of course it could be that he's totally creeped out at the thought of being with a little girl that can't even have a drink with him, but maybe he just wasn't feelin ya. Think about all the excuses women give men to let them down easy like you live too far or I just don't date blond guys when it's really something that could really hurt their feelings like they're too fat or too short etc. Most guys would rather lie their butts off than say something that would get them slapped.
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i know how you feel but difference is i we want to be geva but he is in prison (he 36) i dont know how long nd i not seen him for over a year and half and still have deep feelings for him! but if he said no then theres not much you can do,, i know it hurts but just try and get over him
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i know how u feel but it hapening to me, ust that he does want me this man ( he 36) but im 16! but he in pison now over what has hapened ad not seen him since january last year and still have deep feelings for him :( i think coz this man has said no theres not much really you can do but to try and move on if you can
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