Should I worry about the future of a relationship? Or simply enjoy the time that I have right now because that's all I have?

Frankly, I wouldn't worry about any "future", whether it is a relationship future, a job future or any of lifes futures. The only thing I can control is my own emotions, my own response to what the universe presents to me. So if I am presented, and accept a romantic relationship, I will enjoy it. I am assuming my partner is one I have chosen, and who has chosen me. Thus I feel we would honor each other. If that were to change, and if I felt the relationship no longer honored me, I would change the relationship. I guess I'm saying I wouldn't worry about the future. But as I said above, worrying about the future is a waste of time.

I'm actually in that same situation. I always ask my bf of 5 months where the relationship is going and where he sees us in the future. But he sometimes gets frustrated because he always answers it, and i just keep asking him over and over again. He said he feels like I always think negative and should start thinking positive about the relationship and live for now. But i can't help but ask, before i let myself fall even harder for him. I'm really cautious about this kind of stuff. And I'll admit, he is a great boyfriend, he always considers my feelings. What should I do?


Pessimist

According to my teachings as a muslim and middle-eastern , the normal future for a relationship (so that we can call it a relationship) is marriage.
Anything else is sort of fun...enjoy it or worry about its future...I don't know because I don't know such kind of relationships for fun.

Me either. I don't know where this relationship goes. we came from different cultures and races.

But i just stay with my relationship for now. but i feel like i have come to the peak that i need to know the future of my relationship with him. I do ask such question..am just in the delimma wether to open myself to another adventure of a relationship or to keep my present relationship---i need more advices if others can give..

stupida

If you know that in the long run maintaining this relationship will hurt you, I say the sooner you end it the better. It will be easier to end it earlier on in the relationship... before you get even more attached.

I'm in a similar situation as you. I'm unsure of what is going to happen to my boyfriend and me. But I love him too much to let him go now. Our future together is unknown, but all I know is that right now, I don't want to lose him.

So, if you're sure that you have no future together, and you are not attached already, I'd say let go while you still can. But if this relationship is very important to you, then live in the moment.

I hope this didn't sound contradictory.... I'm facing the same dilemna.

Hello Ender... good question.

I think that you should enjoy the moment that you're in. (as long as you're enjoying it) .

If the whole thing makes you uneasy, then it's time to take a step backward.

but a wise southerner once said, "If it aint broke, don't fix it."

I think you should enjoy the current time you have, but keep the future in mind just in case.