Is it wise to pop the question on your first date? I have a friend that did just that.
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Anna
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You know.. I cannot knock what others do on this subject because while I think it is way too fast.. for them.. you never know. Live and let live.
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That depends on how long they knew eachother before the first date. And I'd expect that they would have a fairly long engagement and good marriage counseling before hand. Otherwise, they are either totally smitten and need to give it time or trying to get laid, which is detestable.
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No. Your friend is an idiot. If you marry someone blindly you will get exactly what you don't want. Wow. Yikes! If I'm ever single, please, warn me ahead of time his name so I never date him. Though, I guess I could always just laugh at him and tell him he's a retard. That should get the message across pretty clear...
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I guess that's a step up from arranged marriage...
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Only if you are a millionaire, because....what do you have to care?....You will probably have lots of gorgeous women waiting in line. If this one says no, delete her and keep going....
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This friend of mine for whom asked his date (first date) the question, will you marry me? Have only known him a short while by chatting on IM and emailing prior to the date. However, her answer to my friend was yes ! I see him getting burned ! He looks for someone drop dead gorgeous ! and in Great Shape ! Very superficial.
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No... that is definitely not wise.
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I'm leaning toward no, not a good idea. But there are always exceptions. I'm going to guess that they are under 20 Years old?!?!
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That sounds like something from a movie. I had a teacher last year who got engaged to her husband on their 3rd date. And they worked out pretty damn well. I think in general it's probably not a good idea, but shit. Sometime you just gotta seize life by the throat and do something crazy. Sometimes it works out. *shrug*
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No, that is not wise. It could cause for a very awkward friendship if there is one left. Your friend was not wise to do that. What did she say?
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My husband of 32 yrs. did that and all is well. Sometimes you just have that feeling and you go for it...but usually you both can tell at the same time if it is the real thing...or it could send the other person running just as fast as they can if your not on the same page.
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It's stupid I don't care what the circumstances.
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Why on earth would someone do that?
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Depends on how long of an engagement... If you're planning an engagement that lasts until you know her well enough to be certain .. that is better anyway than planning the wedding immediately.
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Run!! I had a guy pop the question when I wasn't aware we were even dating. I heard years later through another boyfriend that I had broken this gentleman's heart and he still had not recovered. Small world. Run to the other end of it if this happens to you! *sigh*
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That person has some major balls to do something like that. They need to have some amazing chemistry off the bad to do something like this.
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Gamblin' man!!
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I think it depends on the two people involved. I understand why people would think it isn't wise, but there are people who have different values. If they are not breaking the law, then they are not breaking the law. Besides, who knows what they talked about on their first date? Maybe they were very honest with each other and got along great and decided they wanted to marry each other. I think that's a lot better than people sitting around lying to each other for four years and then suddenly changing once they get married.
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Hmmm don't think it's very wise.. I know a guy who did that to my cousin.. but turned out he just wanted papers HA!! I told her he was psychotic.. But then again.. it could always be a case of "Love at first sight" I'd make them clinically evaluated before answering such a question..
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I think that would be a little awkward- oh! Think of that happening on a blind date! "Hi", "Hi, will you marry me?", "What!?", "Uh....so I'll take that as a no?"
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dont think so
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I would say no!! The only possible exception being you have known the person forever and know they feel the same way about you!!
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what is the question
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No, I dun think its wise. It will be something to smile about when you see your friend. :)
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The first date is way too soon. How much could someone possibly know about that person? Even if said person was friends with them for awhile before they went on a date things can change when in a relationship. People should give things time. If my guy popped the question on our first date I would have felt like he was desperate and just wanted to say he had a wife to show off.
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