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by Jane on December 14th, 2007
i would have her get an abortion....
by laverne on July 31st, 2007
go into bathroom and throw up, then sit down and talk to her (woman to woman?)
by Meow Meow 1BadMutha TBMF on July 31st, 2007
Run out and buy an 'I Love Grandma' t-shirt.
by cuomosgurl on January 2nd, 2008
Abortion. And yes, I'm prepared for the flaming that follows. Yes its a picky subject but think about it. Is your daughter physically and emotionally ready to have this child? Will the child have a good life? Will the mother? How will she care for the child and herself?
Being a single parent is hard, I know because my mother was one. It was a struggle for both her and me. I even missed out on my childhood because I had to work. I started working at age 11 even though I wasnt supposed to until I was 14. I missed out on lots of things and didnt see my mom alot because she was working 2 jobs. Is that what you want to happen to her and her baby? I cant imagine it being any easier when your a child yourself at 14. She just isnt ready.
I personally think its unfair to bring a child into a unstable world. It'll be hard for them seeing how shes a kid herself. Is she going to rely on you to take of her and the baby? What about school? If she quits shes screwed. You really cant get a goob job with out a degree, even if its just a high school one.
by Black Knight on July 31st, 2007
Sit down and start a long, serious but NOT angry, talk.
by Anonymous on January 29th, 2008
Well seeing as I was 13 when my 12 year old girlfriend got pregnant with my daughter,, I would have to be understanding. I would get her to a doctor and have her checked out. Then we would discuss what to do about it and let her decide.
by Grandma Roses - my avatar is my real dog on July 31st, 2007
Take her to the doctor to confirm the pregnancy, then take a long time before reacting emotionally; I doubt that I could last that long though. And get in touch with the boyfriend's family to work out what to do next.
by toodie on September 7th, 2008
i would frogmarch her to the nearest abortion clinic and one day she would thank me for it.end of.
by dis on September 7th, 2008
immediately support her. she is only 14 and she must be terrified. her friends will judge her at school and the first year will be difficult. but keep the baby, help her raise it. if you dont or if anything should happen to this baby she will never get over it, and she may never forgive u, her mother for losing it. my mum was forced to give up her baby as a teen, she was too scared to tell her mother who didnt want to know..i then ended up in a relationship last year and it turned out to be with her long lost son aka my half brother...this was devestating. so for many reasons, welcome this baby, support your daughter, think, how would you have liked ur mum to act if it had happened to you. even tho times are different now, and teenage pregnancies arent so judged, think of ur daughters needs and be the mom she loves
good luck!
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by Vampyre Bat on December 14th, 2007
I don't think I can type it without getting flagged...I had obviously failed as a parent for that to happen.
by denise on July 31st, 2007
She needs all the support she can get, going off on one is not going to help anyone. She will be frightened and embarrassed. I know exactly how she feels it happened to me when I was 16
by - Katelyn is a party animal - on July 31st, 2007
I'd be shocked and i think to myself i'm half to blame because i should have kept a closer eye on them or made sure she was taking the pill!
by randomguy on July 1st, 2009
I would log on to AB and ask people the same question.
by Ronster on May 27th, 2009
Honey, get my gun!!! I am going to kill bobby.
by urbaninja on December 14th, 2007
i would assasinate her boyfriend!
by APACHEmeansENEMY on December 14th, 2007
I would take her to get an abortion.
by Gina on July 31st, 2007
Wow, I'd cry...I don't know what else i would do..
by evarooka on July 1st, 2009
Find the guy and his parents and yell at all of them collectively for what had been done to my daughter...and also support her with whatever she decides to do, whether it's keep the baby or abort it.
by zwatcher on July 1st, 2009
20 years to life for man slaughter.
by Anonymous on July 1st, 2009
Be understanding. Don't punish her. Try to help her. Abortion.
by CluelessToThoseAround on June 21st, 2009
I've had a friend that actually put her daughter into a school where only pregnant girls go. It prevents them getting made fun of and teaches them how to be a good mother.
by lonelydragon on May 26th, 2009
Since I don't have a child, I'll have to answer in a hypothetical way. If it were me, I'd be frustrated because she failed to listen to my instructions about safe sex. Still, I'd try to help her and talk to her about her options--teen motherhood, adoption, or abortion. I'd strongly encourage the latter two options, but would let her have the final say.
by zwatcher on February 21st, 2009
20 years to life
by Toryoh on April 15th, 2008
That wouldn't happen. When my daughter turned 14, I put her on the birth control shot, even though she isn't yet sexually active. There will be no accidents, and she WILL go to college.
by Dimabin on January 29th, 2008
I would never make my child get an abortion, but I would strongly suggest she put the baby up for adoption. The baby is an innocent bystander and deserves to have the opportunity to live a good life with parents who can provide for it. It would also be a very valuable learning experience for my child to go through the pregnancy - irresponsible sex leads to life-changing consequences.
by caffey4 on January 29th, 2008
Abortion for sure. I dont know all of the details or laws if a parent has the legal right to force one upon their child, but i would do everything in my power to convince my daughter that an abortion is the best way to go. I know that many feel abortion is wrong, but in my opinion i feel it to be right and ok. I would not want my daughters life to be possibly ruined due to getting pregnant by a guy that she most likely would not end up with in the first place. I would of course allow her to keep seeing this boy, as i would hope that they learned from this experience but i would just have to explain to her that there is so much in her life to look forward too, and that child birth is one of them, but at 14, it is the wrong time.
by Breezy on December 14th, 2007
This happend to me when I was 15 years old but my boyfriend was only 17 at the time and well when I told my mom she was tottally supportive and she helps me up until the day I had a miscarrige and I think most girls that get pregnat at an early age are afraid to tell there parents only because there scared that there families would dis own them, If more families would be there to support there kids then we wouldnt have so many girls running away after finding out there pregnate or somthing of thaat nature
by randomness - is now a Maestro on December 14th, 2007
sit down and talk out what she is going to do (if she's going to have an abortion or keep the baby). I'd also make her talk through it with her boyfriend.
Then give her a talk about proper contraception. seriously, use a condom.
by Znicest on July 31st, 2007
whoop her and his 14 year old ass!
by calypso on July 31st, 2007
I honestly do not know. I would try to keep cool about it, to not scare her anymore, but I think I'd be too freaked out to be rational (at least at first).
by ChelseaMark on July 31st, 2007
Cry and properly realise that society has finally crumbled.
by Legend In Your Own Mind on July 1st, 2009
I wouldn't do anything other than talk a lot. I'm sure not having it for her plus it already happened to my step daughter years ago. I have an 18 yr old grand daughter i wouldn't trade for anything in the world.
by The Golden Fist on July 1st, 2009
Be proud she didn't end up like me, the 40-year-old virgin :)
by anothergrl on July 1st, 2009
I WOULLD FLIP!!!!! But I pray to God that does not happen to my daughters.
by Miss Complicated on July 1st, 2009
I would just sit her down and explain to her all her options and what life with a child would be like at such a young age i would also let her know that i stand beside her and it doesn't change how much i love her and i would hope she would make the best decision for her unborn child
by TAPriceCTR s son is wearing his COAT on July 1st, 2009
glare at her.... punch a wall.... go for a walk.... then be ready to talk. my councel would be adoption.
by schmee2369 on July 1st, 2009
Ask her "Well I guess you will deal with your consiquence, and we welcome a new baby into the family." Say goodbye to freedom, and say hello to being a mommy. Call up the boys parents tell em what had happened and tell em the boy and them are welcome in the child's life whenever they desire.
...and raise the baby. My daughter would go to school, come home, be mommy...and Id let her go out once a week after school...FOR AWHILE, and when she becomes a teen pick 1 day outta the week she wants to "hang"...Yea shell be a mom, but im also not gonna cut HER childhood off completely. But she is DEFINATLY NOT GETTING OUTTA being a mom, and will deal with her consiquences in full. Age of 16 though she would need to get a job...and or Get her GED ASAP so she could get a job and start supporting herself.
by abby_thats my name.18 on July 1st, 2009
i'd flip shit and then calm down and asses the situation. Id make her tell the boy's parents that they get to be gradparents and i would teach her all she needs to know about being prego. Id go over the options with her and support her decision and try to keep to myself how utterly disappointed i was in her lack of judgement
by branciforte3241 on July 1st, 2009
The first thing I would do is say, "Wow! I have a 14 year old daughter? I must have knocked up some chick when I was a teenager!"
by Catherine on July 1st, 2009
If my 14 came home pregnant I would have to question my parenting skills, didnt I teach her anything and what abou the boy didn't he learn anything from his parents..We would talk about what are the options perhaps adoption...No way can kids grow kids up and why should granparents be stuck with children..There are alot of couples looking for children to adopt..
by Nice Guy In Bay Area on July 1st, 2009
I think I would contact the boys parents and set up a meeting where we would discuss the future. The boy would be put on supervised visitation, only. We would let the pregnancy go on and when she delivered perhaps be able to find a family that is able to raise the child. It is obvious that my 14 year old would not be able. Now, I don't know what schools are like now, but back in my day, girls who got pregnant were expelled. My daughter would have to start working toward her GED.
by Sharona Life is a Tale Told by an Idiot on July 1st, 2009
I would kill the boyfriend. Just kidding. I would make sure she has the best counseling to either give the baby up for adoption or whatever she decides. She is way too young to be a mother, but I would support her if that was her decision. I know I would want to keep the baby in my family. I would take care of it if that was the good choice for her.
by Grant aka Guybrush Threepwood on July 1st, 2009
let her decide what she wants to do. if my daughter thinks she's ready to be a mom, then i won't deny her. but if she wants to give it up for adoption or abort it then as her father i'd support her fully, even if i didn't agree.
by Sunshine n Lollipops on June 21st, 2009
First, make an appointment with her to go to the doctor to see if she is really pregnant.
Second, make her another appointment to see a counselor. Whether or not she is pregnant there is a lot going on in her life at 14 and I'd want her talking to someone educated other than her friends. I being her parent of course doesn't count either.
Then pray together that we both make the best choices and to rebuild the trust and communication that we once shared.
by Mrs-Flapjack-Of-Stormalong on June 21st, 2009
Well, here's the thing: I don't know the entire story, so I can't really tell you what to do (not that I would have a right to tell you how to live anyway). I would thank her dearly for being honest, say shame on her for having sex at 14, and then go with your gut from there. Just don't have her get an abortion, whatever you do.
by KagomeShuko on June 21st, 2009
I don't have children, but if I did, inside, I'd be freaked out, but I'd be supportive and let her know that I was there for her and also be glad that she was honest with me.
I knew somebody that got pregnant at 13 and had her baby at 14! She wasn't even in high school yet!
by Max Power on June 21st, 2009
I'd ask if she smoked a cigarette because if she did, I'd be pissed!
by Byakuya-sama on June 14th, 2009
I would freak out!
Tsk tsk, that's tough. Calm yourself down and allow yourself some space and time to think.
Think about how to administer discipline but at the same time, you have to help your daughter thru this. Be a mother and a friend.
Best of luck to you.
by anonymous on June 14th, 2009
id take the boyfriend hunting, :)
by Nrthn1 on May 26th, 2009
I'd probably freak out at first then support.
I have a question for people who had kids in their teens: How would you react if your own child got pregnant/got someone pregnant as a teen
by Ellis on June 24th, 2011
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Im 17 and pregnant how do i tell my family when they told me if i ever get pregnant they dont want nothing to do with me and the baby.
by Thanya on June 23rd, 2011
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I had unprotected sex,but he didn't cum inside me.
by preciousroxx on August 12th, 2011
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I'm spotting and don't know why. Please see description. Thank you
by Anonymous on June 8th, 2011
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how can i get a pregnacy test when i feel to embarassed to go up and get it
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u would really have her get an abortion.. murder yur grandchild...
from HER BODY..
Where the fuck were u when she was having sex?
You know..
I wouldnt.. Just make her live with the guy is all..
by Adee on August 28th, 2008
dude, calm down. not everyone believes the same thing you do. Plus it was a hypothetical question so that part about Where was I when she was having sex has absolutely no relevance to me.
by Jane on August 28th, 2008
Tell 'em, Sara;)
by MG1942 Has a Life Penguin on September 7th, 2008
thats right, lol
by Jane on September 7th, 2008