If your 14 year old daughter came home and said that she got pregnant by her 14 year old boyfriend, what would you do?
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ANSWERS: 86
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Find a way to get the boyfriend in trouble :)
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Run out and buy an 'I Love Grandma' t-shirt.
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Sit down and start a long, serious but NOT angry, talk.
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Wow, I'd cry...I don't know what else i would do..
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Cry and properly realise that society has finally crumbled.
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go into bathroom and throw up, then sit down and talk to her (woman to woman?)
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Take her to the doctor to confirm the pregnancy, then take a long time before reacting emotionally; I doubt that I could last that long though. And get in touch with the boyfriend's family to work out what to do next.
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I honestly do not know. I would try to keep cool about it, to not scare her anymore, but I think I'd be too freaked out to be rational (at least at first).
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I'd be shocked and i think to myself i'm half to blame because i should have kept a closer eye on them or made sure she was taking the pill!
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whoop her and his 14 year old ass!
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She needs all the support she can get, going off on one is not going to help anyone. She will be frightened and embarrassed. I know exactly how she feels it happened to me when I was 16
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sit down and talk out what she is going to do (if she's going to have an abortion or keep the baby). I'd also make her talk through it with her boyfriend. Then give her a talk about proper contraception. seriously, use a condom.
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First I would freak...then we would be having very serious talks As to her expectations of what she wants in regard to having a baby. We also would be having a very serious talk with her boyfriend and his family...so decisions are made and to realize the expectations on both sides.
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This happend to me when I was 15 years old but my boyfriend was only 17 at the time and well when I told my mom she was tottally supportive and she helps me up until the day I had a miscarrige and I think most girls that get pregnat at an early age are afraid to tell there parents only because there scared that there families would dis own them, If more families would be there to support there kids then we wouldnt have so many girls running away after finding out there pregnate or somthing of thaat nature
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Sit them both down and talk to them about what they're going to do about the baby, if they're ready to have it, if the other parents know, etc. Then help them make an educated decision on what to do with the baby.
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I'd have this wtf look on my face. After I pull my sized 13 out of my daughters ass, I'd try to get together with the other family and see what everybodies next move is. Then again this is all speculation and I really couldn't tell you 100% what would happen unless it happens.
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i would have her get an abortion....
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I would take her to get an abortion.
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I'd realize I had failed as a good parent, then I'd probably fail again because I would go hunting for a 14 year old boy. If I ever have a daughter, any boy that tries to date her is going to remember me saying the phrase, "I have a shotgun, a shovel and a big backyard."
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I don't think I can type it without getting flagged...I had obviously failed as a parent for that to happen.
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omg...i'd probley go crazy!!!!dang i dont know wut i would do but i would b very,very MAD!!! -_-
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Id take her to a clinic, and then terminate dating priviledges until she is older. around 18 and out of the house.
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Ask this question: "What do you think your next step should be." After she answers it, I'd do my best to support it. And of course, get her some counseling.
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What a horrible horrible situation. Kids foolishly thinking they are adults and having to suffer the consequences. That girl is going to go through some serious shit! But on your behalf, I would be seriously considering pressing charges due to the fact that an adult picked up your child without consent and THIS was the end result.
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i would assasinate her boyfriend!
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Abortion. And yes, I'm prepared for the flaming that follows. Yes its a picky subject but think about it. Is your daughter physically and emotionally ready to have this child? Will the child have a good life? Will the mother? How will she care for the child and herself? Being a single parent is hard, I know because my mother was one. It was a struggle for both her and me. I even missed out on my childhood because I had to work. I started working at age 11 even though I wasnt supposed to until I was 14. I missed out on lots of things and didnt see my mom alot because she was working 2 jobs. Is that what you want to happen to her and her baby? I cant imagine it being any easier when your a child yourself at 14. She just isnt ready. I personally think its unfair to bring a child into a unstable world. It'll be hard for them seeing how shes a kid herself. Is she going to rely on you to take of her and the baby? What about school? If she quits shes screwed. You really cant get a goob job with out a degree, even if its just a high school one.
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Id tell him, "Say hello to my little friend".
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Well seeing as I was 13 when my 12 year old girlfriend got pregnant with my daughter,, I would have to be understanding. I would get her to a doctor and have her checked out. Then we would discuss what to do about it and let her decide.
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Abortion for sure. I dont know all of the details or laws if a parent has the legal right to force one upon their child, but i would do everything in my power to convince my daughter that an abortion is the best way to go. I know that many feel abortion is wrong, but in my opinion i feel it to be right and ok. I would not want my daughters life to be possibly ruined due to getting pregnant by a guy that she most likely would not end up with in the first place. I would of course allow her to keep seeing this boy, as i would hope that they learned from this experience but i would just have to explain to her that there is so much in her life to look forward too, and that child birth is one of them, but at 14, it is the wrong time.
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I would never make my child get an abortion, but I would strongly suggest she put the baby up for adoption. The baby is an innocent bystander and deserves to have the opportunity to live a good life with parents who can provide for it. It would also be a very valuable learning experience for my child to go through the pregnancy - irresponsible sex leads to life-changing consequences.
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Gosh. I have a girl now who is 3 1/2 months old. I would hope that I have a level head enough that I would sit down with her and discuss ALL her options, including abortion and adoption and help her decide on the right decision for her. But, more then that, I hope that I would actually have the type of relationship with her that she would come to me when she felt ready to have sex and I could get her on the pill first and reinforce what I already taught her about safe sex, pregnancy and disease.
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I would not take her to get an abortion like most people are saying. My friend is 14 & pregnant, and I like her parents reaction. They told her that if she was irresponsible enough to get pregnant, then she's going to learn that responsibility by having and taking care of a child.
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It is always a good thing to support your daughter and make sure to let her know that you are behind her. Yes, she made a mistake and shouldn't have been involved in sexual activity in the first place but you can't do anything about it now. So all you need to do is tell her that if she needs anything you are here for her. And help prepare her what she is going to have to face, which is having a baby. Most likely her boyfriend will be out of the picture at some point because not many young boys stay around for these kinds of situations so you need will probably need to help her with that too.
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That wouldn't happen. When my daughter turned 14, I put her on the birth control shot, even though she isn't yet sexually active. There will be no accidents, and she WILL go to college.
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I would be upset and dissapointed at first, but i'd support her decision to keep or let go of HER child. It's her body, her relationship, her choice. I would not make her get an abortion. One, because I don't belive in abortions. And two, that may lead to lifelong guilt.
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immediately support her. she is only 14 and she must be terrified. her friends will judge her at school and the first year will be difficult. but keep the baby, help her raise it. if you dont or if anything should happen to this baby she will never get over it, and she may never forgive u, her mother for losing it. my mum was forced to give up her baby as a teen, she was too scared to tell her mother who didnt want to know..i then ended up in a relationship last year and it turned out to be with her long lost son aka my half brother...this was devestating. so for many reasons, welcome this baby, support your daughter, think, how would you have liked ur mum to act if it had happened to you. even tho times are different now, and teenage pregnancies arent so judged, think of ur daughters needs and be the mom she loves good luck! D
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i would frogmarch her to the nearest abortion clinic and one day she would thank me for it.end of.
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wow!!! well first of all if ur dissapointed dont show tht 2 her it will make her feel even worse right now she is really scared and probably dissapointed 2 so dont even think about abortion and also support her through the whole thing and help her raise her baby and even though she might be teased at skool she has to learn from her mistakes just giv her luv support and all u can giv her until the baby comes!! GOOD LUCK!!! =P
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I would tell her that we will still love her and our new grandchild.
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Well first I'd sit down and talk with her and ask what she would want to do. I wouldn't think of it as a mistake, only a blessing. I would tell her of all the crap that'll happen and tell her that her boyfriend might not be apart of the childs life (I mean really people this isn't The Secret Life Of The American Teenager.) and that she would have to know that. I cant say(because im still a teenager) that I would tell her that I would take care of the child while she was at school because I might have a job or something and... yeah. I can say though that I would tell her all her options. Talk to her about safe sex and all that jazz. If she would want to have an abortion then so be it, adoption fine, keep the child then I would be all for it. Her choice. And Btw ya know how on The Secret Life Of The American Teenager how the mom whatever her name is said that she wouldn't take care of the kid while the girl was at school? Well WTF why not tell her that earlier? I mean common now that is just plain cruelty. But yes. That is my answer.
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I'd hunt the boyfriend down and tell him I would personally make sure he took care of the baby.
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I'd be furious but I would definitely make sure the father takes care of the baby. What's done is done but he's going to have to step up and take responsibility for it as well.
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to be honest I don't know what i would do until I was faced with that situation
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One i would let her have the baby i would help her raise it and if the boy back out of helping us i would kick his ass for the fact that hes walking out on his kid and I've seen what that can do to people my cousin was walked out on and he cant stand to see hear or talk about his mom
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Shes 14, you should of taught her better into NOT having sex. But, if its under 5 months, look for abortion. Everyone says Oh just let her have the kid blah blah and so on. DONT, it will ruin her life. A kid is expensive. She wouldnt be able to finish school, hard to find a job and a man in the future, and most of, itll be hard for your little girl(YOUR daughter) to have a normal teenage life she'd like. Okay half of you are against abortions, but if its under 5 months its not like killing a human, it has no heart or soul yet. Lets just hope it was just a pregnancy scare...
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i would have a very long talk with her about her options, and figure out which one was best for her and her unborn child, then i would talk with the boy so he would get a better understanding of what is going on and how my daughter need him by her side
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20 years to life
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Beg her and the father to give it up for adoption. I would get down on my knees and BEG her to do this. It is in the best interest of all involved, especially the baby. Whatever she chose, I would stand by her, love her, and support her in any way that I could.
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i would sit her down tell her that you just made a big choice in your life and now we can do two things. let her tell you what she thinks and ask her how she can sport her decision. pray to god that he can give you some good answers and advice.that's if you believe in god. my girl friend was 17 teen when she got pregnant the first time and her dad just about went through the roof. and her mother was not to happy either. my folks never new because they were never contacted by her parents.
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Oh NO!!! I would be so disappointed in her b/c she ruined her future at such a young age.
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The last thing i would do is get amd at him and her.. anythign you can do to help is great.. try to get on the same page as the mother of the girl.. and work together on this
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Since I don't have a child, I'll have to answer in a hypothetical way. If it were me, I'd be frustrated because she failed to listen to my instructions about safe sex. Still, I'd try to help her and talk to her about her options--teen motherhood, adoption, or abortion. I'd strongly encourage the latter two options, but would let her have the final say.
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I'd probably freak out at first then support.
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Honey, get my gun!!! I am going to kill bobby.
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id take the boyfriend hunting, :)
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I would freak out! Tsk tsk, that's tough. Calm yourself down and allow yourself some space and time to think. Think about how to administer discipline but at the same time, you have to help your daughter thru this. Be a mother and a friend. Best of luck to you.
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I've had a friend that actually put her daughter into a school where only pregnant girls go. It prevents them getting made fun of and teaches them how to be a good mother.
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I'd ask if she smoked a cigarette because if she did, I'd be pissed!
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I don't have children, but if I did, inside, I'd be freaked out, but I'd be supportive and let her know that I was there for her and also be glad that she was honest with me. I knew somebody that got pregnant at 13 and had her baby at 14! She wasn't even in high school yet!
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Well, here's the thing: I don't know the entire story, so I can't really tell you what to do (not that I would have a right to tell you how to live anyway). I would thank her dearly for being honest, say shame on her for having sex at 14, and then go with your gut from there. Just don't have her get an abortion, whatever you do.
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First, make an appointment with her to go to the doctor to see if she is really pregnant. Second, make her another appointment to see a counselor. Whether or not she is pregnant there is a lot going on in her life at 14 and I'd want her talking to someone educated other than her friends. I being her parent of course doesn't count either. Then pray together that we both make the best choices and to rebuild the trust and communication that we once shared.
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Be understanding. Don't punish her. Try to help her. Abortion.
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let her decide what she wants to do. if my daughter thinks she's ready to be a mom, then i won't deny her. but if she wants to give it up for adoption or abort it then as her father i'd support her fully, even if i didn't agree.
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I would kill the boyfriend. Just kidding. I would make sure she has the best counseling to either give the baby up for adoption or whatever she decides. She is way too young to be a mother, but I would support her if that was her decision. I know I would want to keep the baby in my family. I would take care of it if that was the good choice for her.
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I think I would contact the boys parents and set up a meeting where we would discuss the future. The boy would be put on supervised visitation, only. We would let the pregnancy go on and when she delivered perhaps be able to find a family that is able to raise the child. It is obvious that my 14 year old would not be able. Now, I don't know what schools are like now, but back in my day, girls who got pregnant were expelled. My daughter would have to start working toward her GED.
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If my 14 came home pregnant I would have to question my parenting skills, didnt I teach her anything and what abou the boy didn't he learn anything from his parents..We would talk about what are the options perhaps adoption...No way can kids grow kids up and why should granparents be stuck with children..There are alot of couples looking for children to adopt..
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The first thing I would do is say, "Wow! I have a 14 year old daughter? I must have knocked up some chick when I was a teenager!"
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i'd flip shit and then calm down and asses the situation. Id make her tell the boy's parents that they get to be gradparents and i would teach her all she needs to know about being prego. Id go over the options with her and support her decision and try to keep to myself how utterly disappointed i was in her lack of judgement
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20 years to life for man slaughter.
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I'd Welcome her to Motherhood. Tell her to Say goodbye to the life as a teenager and daddy won't be babysitting while she goes out and party with her friends..........
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Find the guy and his parents and yell at all of them collectively for what had been done to my daughter...and also support her with whatever she decides to do, whether it's keep the baby or abort it.
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Wonder where I failed her as a parent. I would take personal responsibility as her mother. She's a . . . . . .child!
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Ask her "Well I guess you will deal with your consiquence, and we welcome a new baby into the family." Say goodbye to freedom, and say hello to being a mommy. Call up the boys parents tell em what had happened and tell em the boy and them are welcome in the child's life whenever they desire. ...and raise the baby. My daughter would go to school, come home, be mommy...and Id let her go out once a week after school...FOR AWHILE, and when she becomes a teen pick 1 day outta the week she wants to "hang"...Yea shell be a mom, but im also not gonna cut HER childhood off completely. But she is DEFINATLY NOT GETTING OUTTA being a mom, and will deal with her consiquences in full. Age of 16 though she would need to get a job...and or Get her GED ASAP so she could get a job and start supporting herself.
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glare at her.... punch a wall.... go for a walk.... then be ready to talk. my councel would be adoption.
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I would just sit her down and explain to her all her options and what life with a child would be like at such a young age i would also let her know that i stand beside her and it doesn't change how much i love her and i would hope she would make the best decision for her unborn child
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I WOULLD FLIP!!!!! But I pray to God that does not happen to my daughters.
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Be proud she didn't end up like me, the 40-year-old virgin :)
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I would log on to AB and ask people the same question.
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I wouldn't do anything other than talk a lot. I'm sure not having it for her plus it already happened to my step daughter years ago. I have an 18 yr old grand daughter i wouldn't trade for anything in the world.
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id disown her
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2 to 5 for false imprisonment and torture
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Provide all of the love, help and support both she and the baby would need in order to thrive.
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First I'd make sure it wasn't April 1st. Then... I'd say, "Dang, you got a rough life ahead of you." To be honest, the best option would be adoption. Abortion is murder.
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Feel like a failure that I didn't somehow convey that her transition from childhood to adulthood would be easier if she learned to provide & care for herself before she had to provide & care for others. I can tell you that if you do not make her completely responsible for this child you will be sorry...ie...work to provide for the baby, care for the baby, etc... Nothing will stop her from doing it again! My sister takes care of 2 grandbabies from her 17 yo daughter.
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1 Cry 2 Rage 3 break his neck after I storm his house 4 go to jail 5 tell her, she made her bed now lie in it, from behind prison bars.
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Abortion
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