I believe they dress up the way they feel to dress up. A lesbian that gives herself a manly look does it because she feels that way, just for the same reason that other lesbians prefer to dress up in a more girly manner.

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I've been wondering about that for ages too XD I've noticed that the lesbians who dress like men are always grouchy like men (sorry but that's my experience) so I think they have a hormone problem which makes them feel like men and therefore dress like men.

I've met just as many "manly" straight women (and effeminate straight men) as lesbians who are "manly." they are the minority. most stereotype all lesbians to be that way. everyone is different, gay/lesbian/bi/straight. most don't fit into stereotypes. the point is, even if a lesbian is a bit "manly" as you put it, she's still a woman. it has nothing to do with wanting a man, wanting to be a man (that would be someone who is transgendered), or being attracted to men (that would make her straight). You say that you are bi, do you have a lot of LGBT friends? I would think this might make more sense to someone within the community.

A woman who dresses in masculine clothing does so because it makes her feel comfortable in her own skin. Butch women are still women. Female-bodied people who identify as male are transsexuals and are not women who dress and act like men. There is a huge difference between being attracted to masculine women and being attracted to men. Is that really so difficult to comprehend?

let people enjoy what they want to enjoy. It is their business. Why do some bi women enjoy fondling and others don'T? It is their life and their business. We all like what we like! No sense trying to dictate to another person.

It's just like how some girls like girly guys, some girls like manly girls. Some guys like manly girls, and some guys like girly guys. Some don't. And some people like more androgynous people. People are different.

If you're truly attracted to someone, it's not about the clothes they wear, or their haircuts, it's about that person. Besides just because they look butch, doesn't mean they always are. Another thing is that some women like the feel of protection. Sometimes someone who is possibly a little stronger than them makes them feel safe. Even if they're wearing "Men's clothes", that still makes them a woman when the clothes are off, and on the inside.

i don't know, i'm a gurlie gurl myself and i like my women gorgeous, i don't want anything in them that reminds me of a man. =D

"Girly girls" are identified by men as "real" women. Men have promoted the way women dress and act since the beginning of fashion. Who is to say that lesbians "act like men" when that is basically a meaningless statement. I could go on & on about "bisexual" women but I won't. I am grouchy because I am a woman, not because I am like a man.

Individual women like their own individual looks. Same for men. In other words, different strokes for different folks.

Who cares what people are wearing?? Just because you are wearing "manly" clothes doesn't mean that you "want" to be a man, or even look like one. If you love a person, you love them no matter what type of clothing they're wearing. Clothes shouldn't have anything to do with it. Women are still women no matter what they're wearing unless they're "feeling" like a man and then that would mean that they're transgendered. Sex is social, gender is biological.

I was all ready with my answer to your question when I realised you only bothered responding to the lesbian who was trying to hook up with others on the site and not any one who actually answered the question.

For the same reason why some lesbians like Trans Females (Male to female (MTF) transsexuals for lack of a better known term) and vice versa , Sometimes its not JUST about the person's physical shell, and is more about their minds, about how they act etc. Everyone is unique. And as their minds and bodies are unique so are their attractions. It is possible to be Transgender & Straight, TG & Gay, or TG & Bi, TG & Pansexual or TG & Lesbian (To me Being TG & Lesbian means Trans female with a female (Lesbian), Trans man with a genetic male I would say is TG & Gay etc etc, But my opinion is not the only one! To some trans girls coupled with genetic girls, and also for some trans men coupled with genetic men describe themselves as straight. (this is where some of the confusion lies I think) Different strokes for different folks applies to the GLBT community too you know! Within our GLBT community are - (G)ay, (L)esbian, (B)isexual (T)ransgender The first 3 are sexual preferences, whereas within The Transgender community Its about Gender Identity with multiple variables within each: Crossdressers(CD) Transsexuals(TS). Transvestites(TV) Its a matter of how the individual views gender I suppose (as mental or physical, or both in varied amounts) and how much of a role that plays in the individuals life. (There's that unexplainable unique-ness thing again ) Speaking of which , lets not forget about Pansexuals, (and that each one of them is different too, I know cause I am one)... If you don't know what THAT is, just look it up , my fingers are getting tired. I am a Pansexual Trans Female who happened on this discussion.... We are all different and we all see ourselves as such, and relate to the world as such. This is how I understand it. if you see it differently feel free to share how you see it! -Misha- (Michelle-Paulette) Houston Tx

why do other people feel the need to have an opinion on others sexual interests?

Great friggin question +3. I've wondered the same thing. Doesn't it defeat the purpose of being butch?

I am a femme and my girlfriend is a stud aka butch. Personally I am attracted to her not because she looks like a dude but because she is more dominant. Her clothes play a part of her just being comfortable. She is stronger than your average female and I find that to be sexier than a girly girl. She is still a wonam all the way but I definately feel more safe and protected by her. She isn't comfortable in heels or tight jeans. She is a more kick back loose fitting kinda girl. I hope that answers your question.

I don't get it either. If your not attracted to men when why would you want to date a man look alike? Same with some gays. Guys dress up as women and gay guys like this....why? They look like women the exact opposite of what they want. It's confusing as hell. I don't dwell on it though bc it doesn't affect me. It's just one of those things that make you think.

Why do you get lesbians & bisexual women when men are so much more of a turn on and sexually attractive/satisfying. I'm a gay guy and sex with women bores the tits of me. The female form does nothing for me whatsoever!!!Men are so much more sexy and attractive. Just can't understand you bi/gay women. No offence but sex with women bores me aswell as there bodies!Give me a nice hairy chest, strong manly arms, nice bum designer stubble etc etc over a woman anyday. No offence but women bore me sexaully - just my opinion though no offence intented. Men are sooo much more attractive than women.

We are all different. Sometimes I wonder if it is simply an expression of LBT culture in our society, perhaps a method of establishing solidarity and sisterhood in an often hostile culture. I am bi and I am definitely feminine in look and style and behavior. I sometimes feel real or imagined hostility from lesbians because of that, but only rarely. Clothes don't make the person. I am most comfortable looking definitely female, but women who are very butch are also totally female to me.

Gender =/= sexual preference. It's a common misconception that all men who prefer men act "girly" and women who like women are "manly." Just do whatever feels natural and don't worry about it.

Those are the kinds of lesbians who are frustrated with men. They have given up hope and turned to women.

I imagine most do it because they think of themselves in a masculine sense and want to communicate that, the better to attract those lesbians who respond to it.

the women that dress like men and act butch, are men haters, usually femenists, they hit you with the '' i dont need to dress how men want me to dress yadda yadda yadda'' all that bullshit. they actually really annoy me, with the short hair cuts and their over the top opinions on everything

its not always based on how they look...some may have great personalities or their lover might be a lifelong friend that fell for them and it might never be based on whether their butch or not...personally i dont like butch but im sure if i met someone worth giving a try i would like them for who they are inside..:)

I have asked myself this question before since I am bi, and have never been attracted to butch women. Like many people are saying we are all different, and like different things.

It's a preference thing.

gender and sex are not one and the same. It seems that opposites attract gender-wise in such cases. masculinity is comforting and very protective to be around.

It doesn't have to make sense.

I get what you're saying. If these women don't like the look of men why do THEY want to look like one?

The "female" form bores the tits off me when it comes to being turned on and I'm a guy - MEN are sooooo much more of a turn on! THE REAL THING! Womens bodies are boring to me. Sex with women is boooooorrrring!