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by killdrphil - reasonable for a madman on July 28th, 2007

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Why do some couples go on for years fighting all the time without either one of them wanting to break up?

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  • by cambrola on March 1st, 2008

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    All i can say is love. And the routine of having each other around. Nobody wants to let go of their routine and have change unless its absoulutely has to happen

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  • by Me2 on March 1st, 2008

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    Some people just like to fight. I used to have this boyfriend that loved to see me angry. He was from New York and he said that he loved to fight. He loved to see a woman get riled up and it was a turn on for him. It didn't do much for me except to piss me off. Some couples even start fights just to make up and the make up sex being the reward.

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  • by Annon on March 1st, 2008

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    I say it's biology. It's because our species needs to reproduce, and if it's already too late, and youth is gone, and there's less chance of finding a new mate, animal instict subconsiously kicks in and says 'Nope! Stay the hell here! You need to make KIDS!'.... Totally.

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  • by A on March 1st, 2008

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    Well, when you put two people together who both have wants and needs, then there is going to be fighting if the two people are going to be honest with their feelings and emotions. My boyfriend has gotten mad at me a few times, but we've talked it through and it's helped us understand each other better. I've misunderstood things that he's said or done, but I'm willing to be patient and listen to his explanation. We talk things through and we make up. It's all part of the relationship. I love him. He loves me. I have broken up with him once and it's helped us realize how much we belong together. I think our relationship is going to last a long, long time. I let him be human. He lets me be human. We give each other room to make mistakes. He's honest with me and I'm honest with him. We love spending time together and we appreciate each other's company and each other's good qualities. When I've been upset, he's been my shoulder to cry on. He's stayed with me in the cold and has been patient with me. The boy would go to the ends of the earth for me if he had to. I'm convinced. I'm worth more than a million bucks to him. He's worth more than a million bucks to me. If I had a choice between earning $1,000,000 to spend on myself in one day or spend time with him for that same day, I would choose him. Sure, there are times when our ideas and opinions clash, but that is because we are human. I want to be with him and he wants to be with me. That's what matters to me.

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  • by tomsims on July 28th, 2007

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    Hey! They really do love each other and fighting is one way they show it. It is dysfunctional and unnecessary, but it is habit.

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  • by WhyamIhere on July 28th, 2007

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    This question is funny to me because that describes my marriage to a T. Alot of people ask us this and we even have friends that try to tell us we fight too much. But the truth of it is we aren't fighting or arguing at all. It's just the way we happen to communicate, i guess with alot of sarcasm. We love each other very much and we actually get along very well. I guess we just understand each other better than other people seem to understand us. And I wouldn't have it any other way.

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  • by Sketchy Mess Jeoffory on July 28th, 2007

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    Some people are just naturally argumentative. They are never content to just let things run smoothly. They bicker and start fights just to keep things interesting. Many of them realize that they will do the same thing with someone else and that most of the stuff they argue over is trivial, so they don't bother breaking up.

    There are also people who have just been together so long that they are just "used to" being in a relationship with someone. Having to be single and find a new partner is more frightening than the day to day bickering.

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  • by WHITE BEAR on July 28th, 2007

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    Its called co-dependency which is a psychological problem where the couple fiercely attach themselves to one another even though it is not right for them, hence the endless conflict.
    They need the other so much, they will try and fight and make the relationship fulfil their needs, and of course it never can entirely, hence the endless fighting, until one or both realises that they need to evelove their relationship to a higher place or to part.

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  • by Vannie prays for babycakes . on July 28th, 2007

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    cause both of them might have failed in their previous love trials and might be removing their frustrations this way on each other and know for proper if they break-up they would not be successful as before.

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