I'm just starting college just cheated on my boyfriend of 3 years who I love. I feel horrible but I can see myself doing it again. Should I break up with my boyfriend?
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If you can see yourself doing it again, you definitely need to discuss this with your boyfriend. Your relationship may be in danger, but you should decide together whether to continue it or break it off. Don't hang onto him just because you have invested 3 years in the relationship; it's not fair to him and it prevents you from moving ahead in your new phase of life which you are obviously exploring. Those 3 years helped you become the person you are now and so did your boyfriend. Who knows, he may be feeling the same restlessness that you are. Talk to him, even if it feels awkward and uncomfortable. I hope this helps.
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Once a cheater, always a cheater. it takes just one time to cross the line with the temptations of sex. more harm is done in 20 minutes, than can be corrected in a lifetime. give you boyfriend a break. tell him and crash his world. you admit you will repeat the scene, so let him go.
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Of you foresee yourself doing it again, then absolutely end it. It's not fair to him.
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duh
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Yes. You're being incredibly selfish by not letting him know.
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Yes -if you can see yourself doing it again, you shouldn't be in a relationship. I cheated on my boyfriend for 3 years - felt horrible, and haven't done it again.
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yeah. you're in college now have fun. live it up and make out with a girl if you get the chance and try E...hey I'm just saying....might as well have some fun
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Yes...you are not ready for a committed relationship at this time dear.
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Yes, you are only going to hurt him more if you put it off.
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Call me psychic but I'm guessing there is a good chance he is cheating on you too, so, might as well end it if that's the case (or even if that's not the case). At least one of you isn't ready for a longterm relationship, that's for sure.
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Don't take it the wrong way but this should seem obvious. Just imaine your bf of 3 years did the same thing and was wondering what to do. Wouldn't you appreciate some honesty?
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this is almost a three year old question. the lady in question is probably pregnant with two kids. she dropped out of college and married some guy who works for the city.
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Um...yeah. You just started college and you're already cheating on him for God's sake. You're clearly going through your dirty slut phase.
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I always say the things we do are what we allow ourselves to do when it comes right down to it. We always have a choice to do wrong or right. What makes things complicated is when we try to justify our wrongs. We all make mistakes, but its what happens after the mistake that determines if we are sorry and whether we will continue to do the same wrong. If you are sorry for cheating then dont do it again. If you are not sorry about it and want to cheat some more, then end it with your BF. The situation isnt that complicated. It hurts to be cheated on..its selfish and hurtful. You'll be doing yourself a favour too by ending it...you wont have to live with the guilt.
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May, you're not in high school, that part of your life is over. You don't need a steady at every minute of your life. Say goodbye to your BF, be nice, but be firm.
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hmmm
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No, no, no! Don't do that! I'm sure he appreciates it and that one day, when he's paying child support for some other dude's kid, the two - or four of you rather - will be able to have a good laugh together
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Definitely, definitely break up. You are too young for that kind of relationship. Take it from me, I am 38 and I had a steady girlfriend while I was away in college. She was a great girl, but we never got married and I missed out on so much fun while I was trying to stay faithful to her. It seemed honorable at the time, but I was just 18. We eventually broke up after my sophomore year or so, but drove each-other crazy in the process. I was in a fraternity, had lots of friends and was having a great time, but it wasn't fair to me (or her) to try to keep things going. I got married at 28 to a wonderful woman and I have three beautiful kids. I am content to be a married and have a solemn obligation to be faithful to my family. You have the rest of your life for that kind of commitment. The college years are some of the best of your life. TRUST me. Anyone who has been through it will agree with me. Have FUN, FUN, FUN and then some more fun. A serious boyfriend is just tying you down. Let him down easy, and go have a blast, because it will be over before you know it. I'm right on this one, believe me. Good luck.
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Of course - if you agreed to be in an exclusive relationship and you're not going to honor that, the honest thing to do is break it off. If you're just starting college you're probably young enough you really shouldn't be looking for exclusive relationships anyway - get out there and meet people, date, and have some fun while you're young and get a better idea of what you want when you do settle down later on.
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Yes.
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It is easy for other people to say to forget about him and just live it up at college. Even though you want to be free, you can't just let him go. You and I are the same age, have also been with my guy for 3 years, and I have cheated. Well, we are married now. The one thing though is that my circumstances are a bit different in that my husband is now in Iraq. Plus, in the past 20 months, only 3 of them have been spent together, and we still have 9 more to go. Is your boyfriend there or have you moved away? How much time had passed, if you had been apart, before you cheated? Is this the first time? Those are questions you need to consider. You need to think about what you want and how you want to live. Does that fit in with your current relationship? And if it is worth sacrificing to be with him. I know it is hard, but throughout the next few days, honestly think about everything and if it is best that you two just go your separate ways. It can be a hard decision, but listen to your gut...and trust it. It might help too to smoke some weed by yourself...some nice indica, and just let your mind work things out.
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You have to break up with him, because you know you can't be true to him. With that said, despite what everyone says just because your young doesn't mean you should act foolishly.
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Yes, please break up with him. You are obviously very immature still and don't know how to handle a long term relationship. I have been cheated on 4 times in my life and the pain is always with you. For his sake, let him go to find someone better. Try to steer clear of relationships until you learn to be monogamous. Always communicate well with your futire partner(s) and be honest with them. There is no room for cheating in a healthy relationship. And remember, there are explanations for it, but no excuses.
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