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by Someone on July 23rd, 2007

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I see a lot of people ask these questions about whether or not they should get back together with an ex or how to get back together with them. So let's put a closure on this. Is there EVER a time someone should get back with their ex and when is that?

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  • by Bartman on August 29th, 2007

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    Say you broke up when your friend said that your partner cheated. You find out later on that it is not true. That is one case you can get back together.

    Never go back because of fear that you will not find anyone better. Never get back for a revenge. Do not go back because you are not happy on your own. Know what has changed since you broke up. Do you want to get back because you are jealous that he is dating others? What are chances of you breaking up again on same thing as before? Consider this all before getting back.

    Also there should be a break between break up and getting back. 1 month break for every year of relationship.

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  • by Anonymous on August 29th, 2007

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    I think it depends why you broke up. If you were in a loving supportive relationship, and it ended because of circumstances (not being in the right part of your life to be committed forever, or needing to pursue jobs in different places) then get back together with them if you can resolve those circumstances!
    If you broke up because someone was treating someone else badly, or there was a lack of love on one or both sides, then don't get back together.
    In the back of their minds, everyone knows this. It comes down to, do they make you feel secure and confident, or scared and inadequate?

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  • by DreAnna on July 23rd, 2007

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    I personally wouldnt..they are an ex for a reason..and a little time apart may start to soften up the memories of why that is...see it over and over..friend would split up with her ex then after a couple months..amazingly amnesia set in or something because then all the sudden all she could remember were the good times..get back together and get a quick refresher course on why they split in the first place.

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  • by Sheriff Raff -Answerhag on July 23rd, 2007

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    It's very noble of you to try to establish a "one size fits all" explanation but despite what is posted here, people will want an answer to their question in their unique circumstances.

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  • by answerer on August 29th, 2007

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    If the reason why you broke up was resolved, then get back together !!!

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  • by killdrphil - reasonable for a madman on August 29th, 2007

    killdrphil - reasonable for a madman

    Very simply: When the problem or problems that broke them up in the first place can be solved.

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  • by anonymous on July 23rd, 2007

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    Well sure there is, that is if you want to continue whatever pain and suffering or disrespect or mistreatment you received before the decision was made to make them your ex or vice-versa

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  • by LifeCoach9876 on August 9th, 2011

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    Always give love a second chance. Especially if the communication about why the breakup happened was lacking. Let some time go by, allow your ex to relax, and then try a few non-aggressive approaches. Remember, you were both attracted to each other for a reason or there would be "no ex" to talk about. If your ex is normal in intellect and maturity, then there is a good chance he/she will allow a short time back together to see if things got better. Why? because there is only one happiness in life and that is to love and be loved....It makes us feel alive. That is why there is such a deep "hole" in the stomach when you find out you are an "ex" by breaking up. The person who tells the other its time to breakup feels like a weight is lifted off their shoulder while the other one receiving the info is stunned. Often times the breakup happened not because you weren't the right one for him/her, but because of all the other stresses in life you didn't know about. (kids, bills, work...)so the partner is the first "change" they make since they are convinced "I need to change something." The partner who simply will not take the ex back to try again for awhile is usually not balanced in their life. They ALWAYS abuse something...too much alcohol, too much smoking, too much work...their life is simply out of whack but YOU become the "ex" because "they" aren't being honest with themselves. So, give time, time.....and remember life is too short to waste time hating anyone.



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  • by Farfito on November 26th, 2010

    Farfito

    I'm asking that very question myself. It's interesting to see the various answers - some negative "no way! An ex is an ex for a reason!" Some positive - "depends on the situation, if you broke up for unusual circumstances versus if one was treating the other badly". It's the 64 million dollar question every single person who is going through a break up wants the answer to.

    Most of these questions are posted by the one who was on the receiving end of a break or break up. But, what about the person who did the break or breaking up? What if they had to break it off not because they were in a bad relationship, but rather, they themselves weren't in a place to actually be in a relationship? Once they get through that, and both loved each other, then yes most definitely they should get back together.

    But, if the person who did the break/breaking up is doing it in a volatile relationship with anger, blaming, forcing guilt on the other, then no - absolutely not. There are too many people out there to be attached to someone who uses, defies and plain is mean to their S.O.

    The flip side to that, if the 'victim' is being pursued by the one who broke their heart but the relationship wasn't a good one to begin with, don't bother. Find someone who will love you for who you are. Someone who you don't have to be fake with or pretend to be someone else.

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