I am 16 years old. I'm still a virgin. Most people I talk to say it's okay to do it when you fall in love. Others say that you're suppost to wait until marrage. I want to, not for the experience but because I really do love this person. What should I do?
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Bethani
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This is kind of trivial to ask don't you think? Like you said those that say wait for marriage (myself included) would tell you that while those that say if you love the person go for it. Don't really see why you would need to ask us this question. I just wanted to state where I stand. In the end it is your choice and decision.
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wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, and wait...oh yea..did I say wait. If this person really loves you then sex has NOTHING and ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with the relationship. If this person will break up with you or is constantly trying to convince you to do it, then they don't love you and are trying to take advantage of you.
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WAIT!!!!!!!! Marriage IS true love.
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Let's start with the age thng. If he's older than 18, you may have a potential for statutory rape. If that's not an issue, then go for it. Sounds like you've given it some thought, considered the options and consequences and already made a decision. Pesonally, I'm not a great one for this virgin marriage stuff. I think virgin marriages are highly overrated. There are other issues far more important than virginity that we bring to a marriage relationship.
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You should wait. At 16 you maybe think you know what love is, but in reality you haven't got a clue. Remember this, most people who lose thier virginity in their teenage years never speak to that person again after high school. Most of the realtionships only last maybe six months after they start having sex. And that's with "Love" being involved. Most also come to regreat it. You also have to look at the fact that you are not mentally, physically emmotionally, educationally, or finacially ready to have sex at 16. That doesn't happen until at least 18. In most cases it's actually 20. If this is realy love you can wait because the love will still be there at 18 when your better able to deal with all of the stuff that comes with sex. And believe me, there's a lot of stuff that comes with sex you haven't even thoght of yet.
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The real question might be 'Do I want to be like 'most people' - or do I want to be myself?" It is the difference between 'losing' (it should really be about 'gifting' it) your virginity - and taking it out to the deep, dark woods and abandoning it to the wolves..... At 16 time stretches into infinity - but if your desire is to wait, time will catch up with you : )
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Don't listen to those crazy people that tell u its ok to have dex @ 16. If everybody listened to everything their friends told them everybody would be knee deep in babies.
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wait until YOU feel its right. If you want to wait until you're married then wait until then. If you want to before do it before don't let other people rule your life. I lost mine when i was 17 and i don't regret it one bit, i'm not married to him, and we were only together for about 6 months. It was my choice, it felt right at the time and even now i look back and smile. If you want that to be on your honey moon or your 17th birthday (not sure what the US legal age of consent is. In the UK its 16) then you do what you like.
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i lost mine at 16.. but its all up to you really.. but dont EVER let any one pressure you into anything.. it will happen when the time is right..
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No one can really tell you what you are ready for and what you are not, only you know your loved one and you know your body, however it is best wait until marriage, that way you know you not just did the right thing but that you really are prepared, there are lot of things that come with pre-marital sex, and I am sure you are smart enough to figure out what it is. you could ask a million people what you should do but you have to make a choice and no one can make it for you.
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i think that your young but really it is your decision but make sure you use protection in case you do. but if you can wait. you dont wanna grow up to fast.
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Although it may be better to wait until marriage, if you absolutely love this person then go for it. Dont wait regardless of who says what. I was going through the same thing with my bf we wanted to wait until marriage but when you love them you just cant wait. For some reason i feel like i know im going to marry this guy. so if you guys feel that way about eachother just go for it.
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stay the course your on, be strong
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well im 16 and i lost my virginity to the guy i love.. but you have 2 be really careful and not make the mistake i did which was have sex before your on the pill because , with me the condom broke and im worried at the min about been pregnant but if you do it safely i really think it's ok to do it b4 your married if you love the person!!.. but really it doesnt matter what other people think... if you tink your ready then go of it and if you want to wait , wait!!!!... good luck
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Wait, your virginity is a one time gift worthy of holding onto until marriage. Also chances are that you will not be with this guy you are dating right now, you may thibk you are in love, but, at 16 can you really know? Live your life, find out who you are, mature both emotionally and physically and know that waiting for your future husband is one of the greatest gifts you can give him... Stay strong!
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I HAVE A NEICE THAT IS YOUR AGE HER BOYFRIEND JUST BROKE UP WITH HER BECAUSE SHE WOULD NOT HAVE SEX. IF YOU WILL SEEK GOD FOR YOUR MATE HE WILL BRING HIM TO YOU WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT. BELIEVE ME ALL OF US OLDER WOMEN WISH WE HAD WAITED. I PRAY FOR YOU TO HAVE STRENGHT IN OUR LORD AND SAVIOR JESUS
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They tell you to wait until marriage but I think it's OK to lose it to someone if you are in a serious and loving relationship. Just try not to lose it unless you are almost positive that your partner feels the same way about you.
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Simply remember that virginity is something you can't get back. If you care about him so much enough to give it to him, then go for it. Religious pushers will tell you to wait and some will think your not old enough, but this is about you and how you feel... love knows no age nor boundries. your love is uniquely between you and your partner, and making love will change some things, but it won't change everything. You and him will be much more deeply connected... and for people reading this the order is love then marraige not marraige then love.
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