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  • WHO CARES HOW SHE FEELS!!! You need to think about how your wife would feel! This girl does not care about you or your wife!!!!!
  • And the question is?
  • Ask yourself, which is more important, letting her feel bad, or the woman you are married to? "Gee honey, I didn't want to hurt her self esteem, so we went to the motel for lunch" Tell her you are not interested in her in anyway than as a coworker (unless you are, in which case, see paragraph one).
  • If she knows you are married and is still hitting on you she doesn't deserve your considerations to her feelings. Make it clear you are married and she must stop.
  • Tell you're not interested in a polite way, you still have to work with her no matter what you're personal feelings on her is.
  • Tell her that you consider it very flattering that she wants your body but you will have to report her activity to HR or the boss if it continues because it will be considered to be "sexual harrassment". Trust me, if you were making unwanted sexual advances to her, she would jump on the nearest desk and shout PERVERT!!!
  • Say something like, "You're a fantastic friend," emphasise the word FRIEND and continue, "I wish I had a sister like you. You'd also make a fantastic sister-in-law for my BEAUTIFUL wife."
  • Many people think that its as simple just to blow off the chick as you are married and in most cases you would not care about hurting someone's feelings especially when they cross such a line. However, the truth is we are dealing with a coworker. This is someone that you have to deal with probably more than you do with your spouse depending on how much you interact with her. So of course I can empathize with you on why its so hard to deal w. someone in this dynamic. She can possibly make your life a living hell. Who needs drama at work and who knows how she would handle rejection....could be totally cool and let it go where day to day norms continue or she can totally end up being some psycho who makes work a living hell in one way or another. My suggestion is to kindly reject her advances not her. In a non threatening way I would let her know that you just are not interested and not one to engage in extramarital affairs, making it seem like its not you rejecting her personally, but not one that would do that for anyone. If she freaks out after kindly rejecting the advance then I would call HR. You don't need that drama at work.

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