would just like to add more to my question as i couldnt write enough in the question,i had it out with him as the girl he cheated with rang his phone,then sent a message when i had his phone and i read it then hit the roof,then i kept his phone and rang her and she admitted everything to me,hed told her he was single with no kids,i ended up feeling sorry for her as he is the asshole not her,although he was drunk walking back from the pub and she met him on the street and ended up sleeping with him on a park which doesnt say much for her morals does it? the first time they met was the night he was drunk which was before we knew i was pregnant but we were trying for a baby,then he rang her to meet up again when he was sober and when he knew i was pregnant! needless to say ive been to hell and back over this as hormones are raging and my heads a mess,its the lies that hurt the most though i think,if i had'nt of found out he would have carried on seeing her,anyway he wants to come back and be there for his family but i will never trust him again and i know i will make him suffer as he deserves to,in someways i feel i owe it to my kids to stay with their dad but if its going to be an unhappy relationship its not fair on them or me! he has apologised and promised the earth if i let him come back,all i want to do is to castrate him then murder him slowly!!! sorry for rambling on folks!!

Listen, First of all your health and your unborn childs health is more important than anything. What if he would have gave you some God forsaken disease!!! If he would sleep with a girl he met walking down the street who would pick up a drunk guy she didn't know and have sex in the park then he doesn't care about you. Point blank. The fact that he was drunk is an underlying issue as I believe drunk or not, if you can walk home from the bar, you can make a reasonable desion about sleeping with a complete stranger. He wanted to do that. So stop using that excuse. Then on top of that he pursued her after the fact. He knew what the hell he was doing and he would still be doing it if he hadn't got caught. Staying with him because of your children would be the worst mistake you could ever make. It would be totally unhealty for the children to be brought up in an environment like that. Because trust me once they cheat and they see that they can get away with it by apologizing, they'll keep doing it. Trust is an important factor in a healty relationship and if you cannot trust him it is not good for you because evntully it starts to make you feel insecure and start doubting your self worth. You owe nothing to your kids but to be a great mother. Not to be in an unhealthy relationship. I know your probably scared of being a single mother but it is doable. All in all I think you know what needs to be done and you have pretty much done it. The ball is in your court now it is up to you to decide what you think is best for your life. ALl I can do is respond to you and pray that you make the best decision for you your kid you already have and your un born baby. *Peace and Love*

Simple keep the door locked. He wants it his way let him just have him send the kids money each month.