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by Anonymous on July 17th, 2007

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Im 19 and i just had a baby with a 17 year old girl. she recently threatened to keep me from seeing my child because of our differences. i have a good job and i want to be a part of my childs life. can i get partial custody of my child?what are my rights?

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  • by john pennington on June 9th, 2009

    john pennington

    Since you two are not married, you actually have no parental rights to the baby.

    First order of the day would be a DNA test to make sure the baby is yours.

    Second, each state is different. i would contact a local attorney and let him advise you.

    No answer on Answerbag is going to be correct, since the laws are different in each state.

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  • by George R. McCasland on June 9th, 2009

    George R. McCasland

    As a single man, you have NO ASSUMED RIGHTS to the child.

    Watch this movie trailer about a single father
    http://vids.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=vids.individual&videoid=27395259

    Get an order enter forcing a DNA test, unless one has already been done.

    DO NOT PAY ANY KIND OF SUPPORT FOR THE CHILD UNTIL A DNA TEST IS DONE, AS IT ACKNOWLEDGES YOUR FINANCIAL RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE CHILD.

    Once you begin paying child support, regardless of whether you are the father or not, you can be required to continue paying.

    If you are paying without a court order, it can be considered a gift, with you ordered to repay for the same time period, especially if she's on Welfare.

    If one has not been done, go to the child support enforcement to setup a voluntary order. Wait for them to file against you will result in you paying all court costs of up to $5000

    Take a certified parenting course. The court is going to order you to take it anyway, so by showing you’ve taken it only looks good to them.

    Start keeping a daily journal of all your activities. The most common way to prevent a father from getting his rights through the courts is a false allegation. A daily journal is your number one piece of evidence in court and you can even refer to it while on the stand.

    If you are being denied access, write her a letter notifying her of intent to exercise visitation on a specific date, like Saturday 10 AM to 6 PM. Sign it and make three copies. Mail the original Certified Mail and the other with Delivery Confirmation (75¢ + postage). If she rejects the one, she still receives the other. Whether the Certified Mail confirmation card or the Certified letter comes back, attach it unopened to a copy of the letter, plus a printout of the Delivery Confirmation from this web link.
    http://www.usps.com/send/waystosendmail/extraservices/deliveryconfirmationservice.htm

    When you file for visitation rights, take these documents to the County Courthouse. Have the Clerk of the Court notarize it and than place it in your case file. Do this three times before considering going to court. When you do go to court, the judge will these letters while preparing for the hearing.

    When you show up to pick up the child(ren), bring witnesses. Do not enter her place alone. If you can record, have someone video record. Check the site below to see if it is illegal to record audio and/or video without the mother knowing. If her state does not have a law either way, than it defaults to the federal ruling, which says one person in a conversation, must know they are being recorded. THAT’S YOU!
    http://www.rcfp.org/taping/

    The court will order you into mediation, so take the lead first and suggest it to her. Instead of hiring attorneys, going to a mediator, you can hammer out an agreement. A mediator is an attorney or paralegal with certified training as a mediator. You each have to pay half the fees in order for the mediator to have the appearance of being unbiased.

    If you and the mother are civil, consider Bird Nest Custody. In this the child lives in one home and each parent live there for 3-4 weeks, than switch. You live with friends, family, rent a room, etc. on the off time. In this manner, your child’s life is not disrupted. They are not being shifted back and forth. They keep their own room, friends, school, etc. It is hard on the parents, but than the child comes first. This is the form of custody rocker Ted Nugent had.
    http://tinyurl.com/GiveKidsAChoice

    If you want to learn how to do all this go to Dads House in Yahoo Groups. Upon joining, you will receive a link to an educational manual that can teach you what you need to know. Take the time to learn what you can and should do.
    http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/DadsHouse/

    A couple of additional
    http://www.fathersandfamilies.org/
    http://www.parentalalienation.org/

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  • by Anonymous on July 17th, 2007

    Anonymous

    You need an attorney. your rights will be established through the court.

    This may be the only course you have, in order to see your child.

    Again, call an attorney and have this settled by court order.

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  • by stoneddora on June 9th, 2009

    stoneddora

    if you get a good lawyer and you prove to the courts that you will be a good father to your child u can get partial custody. or u could even get full custody. but u might get introuble for having sex wit a minor

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  • by Anonymous on May 7th, 2009

    Anonymous

    its called joint custody and yes you can go to court file a motion for joint custody with visitations figure out when you have time to take the child make sure you have a place, a room for the child, food, clothing, milk, bed and blankets all the stuff for a home, elc gas you know
    plan it all out how much time when you can take the child she will be conter claming for child support so make sure you have the funds calculated. its very hard to do your own court but they have the probono section where you wait in line or set up an apointment for an attorney to help you ask at the court house its alot of work but attorneys are very expensive VERY it costed 2000.00 for me to get legal gardain of my grand child and the parents were in agreemnet with it. so best wish to you best advise i can give you, don't get into a big war with her. make it fast, simple, fair don't do enything to spit her. it won't be good for your child if your at war the child always gets sucked in. don't do that to your child! try to be friends if nothing ealse.

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  • by singwell-is off researching a lot on July 17th, 2007

    singwell-is off researching a lot

    Get legal assistance, and work towards attaining visitation rights. Partial custody is an in thing, but hard on the child. Better to have a residence with one parent, and visitation rights for the other one, rights that can be altered as the child grows older.
    But you do need legal counsel to set this up. It may be able to be mediated out of court, or else you may have to go to court if she will not cooperate.

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  • by tiffany on April 29th, 2009

    tiffany

    yes you can get partial costody of that child, she has no right to keep you from that babys life and she sound inmature if her attatude is like that do what u need to be a part of that childs life every child needs a dad and a mum.

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  • by mseve68 on July 17th, 2007

    mseve68

    It depends on the laws in your state. You can go to your local Family Court and the Court Clerks will be able to assist you in filing a Petition for Joint Custody of your baby.

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