I want to end a friendship by letter - should I also explain why?
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yes you don't want to just leave them out cut and dry atleast give some closure
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yes, I think so. that way it will be a fully closed end. If you dont explain yourself that leaves many questions for the other person.
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Why can't you end it face to face? But if you insist on doing it by letter, giving them a reason for ending the friendship is the best choice. You don't want them to wonder forever.
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Most definitely. You would probably prefer to be told why as well if someone wanted to no longer be your friend.
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Yes, unless it is a reason that you and your soon-to-be-ex-friend have rehashed dozens of times. It is never cool to leave a relationship without giving some reason. Sometimes a letter is good because it gives you time to say things without overwhelming emotion, lay your thoughts out in an orderly and sensible fashion, and say the things you need to say without their emotions stopping you.
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If you're feeling generous, otherwise why end it so formally, anyway? Are you doing it for the drama because are you inconvenienced by their constant requests for you to go to the mall and hang out in the food court? You might want them to be your friend again, and more importantly for them to recognize you as a friend. Don't do or say anything that will cause them to have any bad memories between the two of you that were fabricated for a misguided ritual. Be considerate and let them know you need extra time and aren't able to spend as much time with them as before. Leave the door open and don't put it in writing unless there's a really good reason such as a legal requirement, which I doubt exists in this particular case.
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Personal is better but if you can't face them for your own reasons a letter, email is appropriate but you should never have a friend do it for you. Give them a good explanation why and keep it positive. You will be hurting their feelings so give the news to them easy.
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